Trauma

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Have you ever heard a parent say that their child was too young to be affected by what they were exposed to, or that their child could not understand what was being said and that as a result they could not have been harmed by seeing a distressing incident or event?

It is unfortunately a commonly held belief by lots of people, and.it accounts to some extent, for why lots of people don't make greater effort to shield their children from upsetting incidents.

Unfortunately many people just don't understand that instead of children not being affected, due to their young age, that the younger they are the more they are being harmed.

I read about this in a book by Dr Bruce Perry and Oprah Winfrey, titled 'What Happened To You.'

In the book Dr Perry explains that a babies brain forms sequentially from the less sophisticated part of the brain ( the brainstem ) which is focused on regulating the functions of our body, to the more complex part of our brain - the cortex, which controls our ability to think and be creative, to use our memory, to reason and understand time.

The cortex is the last part of the brain to be developed and it's not properly developed in pre-verbal children. But this does not mean they are not greatly impacted by whatever they are exposed to.

The young child's brain is organised to act and feel before she or he can think, and these actions and feelings determine how they begin to think. Each child's personal experiences influences the development of their brain.

Commencing whilst in the womb the babies brain begins to store parts of its life experience, and in the first 9 months of a babies life, its brain development occurs at a phenomenal rate.

A child's early experiences in the first years of life are incredibly influential in determining how they interpret the world; and since so much of the world is new following birth, this is when a child is avidly and exponentially making new connections and associations.

Essentially they are assimilating far more input than as adults we realise.

So contrary to the way many people think about young children, the younger they are the more sensitive they are to their emotional environment.

Very young children are dependent on caregivers to assist them in interpreting the world.

When a young child is exposed to domestic abuse, although the child may not understand the exact meaning of words used by the perpetrating parent, or caregiver, they are very much aware of the non verbal communication their senses are witnessing and feeling.

Up to 90% or more of more of the way we communicate is in our non verbal communication, which young children - being highly sensitive and shrewdly observant - pick up and understand, only too well, what adult body language is saying and meaning for them,

So, for example, when infants are exposed to abusive fathers, they make a connection between men and hostility, fear and violence - they can learn to associate men as menacing and likely to hurt them.

Once the child sees the world from this viewpoint, they automatically view male figures who enter their world as frightening, or people to be wary of.

When a child experiences abuse their brain may make an association between a particular feature of the abuser - such as their scent, or colour of their clothing or eyes - and a sense of fear.

These associations are complex, baffling and long lasting and it means that a child (or an adult in later life) can be triggered by innocuous matters such as being triggered by the colour of clothing someone's wearing or the scent of their cologne.

But because the abuse occurred early in a child's life before their cortex was developed they may have no memory of of the traumatic incident. All they will be left with is the feeling which triggers a highly evocative distressing reaction.

Early childhood trauma can result in life long behaviours which seem to make no sense at all, because the individual has no memory linking their behaviour to an earlier traumatic incident.

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