A TURNING POINT OF LIFE

A person in her/his life facing many challenges that changes their behavior or personality, changes could be positive, negative, or maybe both. These kinds of changes in a person's life called turning point it different for each person.

What is a turning point? The moment in the time/story when some incident occurs that causes significant changes in the direction of time /story. Turning point explains in another way, It is the point of highest tension in the story, as well as known as a climax in the story. From the start of the story, the entire steps move toward a turning point, where secrets are opened, questions are answered and everything becomes too close. In other words, a turning point explains; A Turing point of career is when course/ structure of year changed, or a moment/point at which change direction/motion.

When in our lives things are not going well, disappointing event, or painful, at that point we need to change and improve our-self too. Sometimes we continuously are choosing the wrong job or maybe feeling that we are stuck at a point. You start thinking that I need more in my life and you start observing that things related to self-improvement. It seems that when everything in our life going down, getting wrong, or you feel unhappy and demotivated, at that only time you think about self-improvement. If you being start self-improvement in your life, you feel positivity in your life, feeling relaxed as well as satisfied. Self-improvement or changes start with you, if you are waiting for someone, who comes and changes your life, it will never happen. You change yourself by taking steps; otherwise, you will be waiting for a long time and never get results.

You want to improve yourself, it is essential to knowing about yourself and understanding yourself, what you want to do, and where you want to go. Whether we hate it or like it automatically changes will take place in our life. We all have experiences of various turning points in our life at different moments. When you feel unsatisfied, unhappy, listless, and unfulfilled, you can unlock your self-improvement power. As when you continuously feel the same unexpected results in jobs, relationships, lack of money, and other activities of your life that should send a sign to you, it's the best time for self-improvement and change.

Some people are complaining all the time about their jobs, their partners, their life, their weight and still they do nothing about it. No one has time for complainers who think that the world pays them they deserve it but don’t earn by themselves. Continuously they seem negative results in their jobs, and relationships, they can’t accept that it’s time to change them. They want to do something for self-improvement and self-analysis. When you feel signs over and over that you need change and start making self-improvement, like as if your favorite jeans seem to become tight, then you want to improve in your diet to lose your unwanted fat/ weight. Is it the same principle at every activity of life, don’t wait and make your life change and applying self-analysis before experiencing hopelessness and pain. Self-improvement is a turning point that will give direction, create positivity and happiness in your life.

Turning Points occurs at an expected moment during our whole adult period. When we make changes at every Turning Point that changed the next years (seven to eight) of our life. Each turning point gives you a window of a moment when you have more interest and energy to examine, what you are doing yet and what you need for improvement. Usually, you have several turning points in your life; it might be four, five, or eight stages of a turning point.

AT ADULT DEVELOPMENT HOW YOU THINK ABUOT YOUR LIFE

To start developing your personal view, take some time to think about yourself, who you are, or what you want to do. I know it is unreasonable to most of you but it is effective and does work. This stage has a major effect on you as well as your way of thinking, about your choice, your lives, and either you are inspired to change your life or improved yourself. Your change of life gives you new directions, aims, and career opportunities. If you know you are at a Turing point, occurs about one time between 7-10 years. Turning point a time or moment that causes some changes in your lives. A turning point begins by disaster or a moment/ time when you feel satisfied: They feel out of stress period. At several turning points that influence the next years of our life, so understanding why they occur, what they are, in Personal Vision. The Personal Vision makes at age of 20 completely different or effective as compared to the personal vision created at age of 50. At all turning points, we are all trying to search for something different /new and looking for answers to several questions. They search for changes like a new haircut/color, new job, want to work new ideas, maybe a partner. It guides people and realizes what they want to do and how.

A critical time is that in our life when a decision develops a big change in our life at a turning point. This time typically occurs about every ten years between the age of 18-65 of life. A turning point in our whole life we will discuss here, It is the censorious moment in your life where major decisions could create big changes in life as well as in work. During 6-10 years of adult life (18-68) shows turning points. In the life period different turning points are following first turning point: High school to college, second turning point college to the work, a third turning point: Assessment, the fourth turning point: Mid-life transition, fifth turning point:50’s Assessment, the sixth turning point: Pre-retirement transition, the seven-stage turning point: 70’s assessment (70-75) or senior transition stage (80-85)

HIGH SCHOOL TO COLLEGE (stage one)

Firstly it was started when we are in school; we are not good in study like doing late homework, assignment and didn’t study for exams. When we are observing other ones our fellows or our senior brother and sister, then we will realize to create changes in my activities.

This is one of the most expected turning points of our life as well as most of us make a career decision. At the stage of 10-18 age, you always thinking to become independent and separate from your family. This will be the first turning point when you will take the first step in this stage; it gives you more career options to survey. Many questions to ask you at this stage (17-18),

What relationship did you need? What are your career plans for the future? What your dreams and goals?

COLLEGE TO WORK (stage two)

Most people from 22 to 28 make few career decisions. These conclusions can obtain from the decision to start school, your first job, to stay with your parents at home. When you start your job I will be your first turning point in your life. At this stage, most of the decisions are at entry-level in career decision and what relationship you want. Few questions through this stage in your mind

What did I want from my career?

What kind of lifestyle did I want?

What did I do for a better lifestyle?

 28-30 YEARS OLD (stage three)

At this stage, if your first step was completely showing a bad experience and you feel pain, unhappy; at this time you will start over by taking a turning point. You will improve it to expand it, to enlarge it by moving geographically, or starting a family as well as starting new or different things. we need to do some review at the age of 30. Questions ask to like, what I need to do? Is it I know what I want? What kind of career fit me? Am I getting benefit from my talent? What makes my life fulfilling?

           Some lawyers decided to make a big improvement and others are thinking about their career seriously and them at the top. Peoples getting decided at this turning point move into their 30s, its time of stability (building stage) because it dedicated your earlier aims or move toward the new step.

MID-LIFE TRANSITION (stage four)

It is the significant and most important stage of most peoples or it may be a disaster for a few of them. Maybe it is the first time for few peoples to change their lives. At the age of 40-45, you will reach the end of your first life structure. At this stage, you need something different from your career than before this stage. I will be a purpose or a value you started. It will be new for you and give you new experiences. Maybe you want to add new things which you have overlooking like new interest. People think about how to use their talent and most important ideas, at the age of 40 half of our life over, in previous turning points people decides to get better career and moving into another moment of stability. Few questions examples to ask are following:

How did I feel about my work? How feel about my family member? What changes I do make to balance my family and work? What new stages/steps would be interesting in my life? what goals I do in the coming years? What want to do for happiness and satisfaction?

FIFTH STAGE (As the fourth stage)

It is just like age 30, at this point we know the answer to recent turning points. You have bundles of choices that are made at mid-life transition after the next stage; this is an opportunity to furnish your selected option. Sometimes you need to start again and again, if the selected option responsible for unhappiness, and unsatisfied. This stage at the age of 50 assessment maybe has importance for women: Who have been spend/work for a family, maybe they are ready to become visible and showing the effect on the world. Like, men who have been working on a career their entire life and focused to become successful people may want to start looking more personal. Few questions ask you for self-improvement like, * what do I need in my life for the next 10years? *What want to do I need to pay attention to?

*Am doing meaningful or not? *Why?

SECOND CAREER/PRE-RETIREMENT TRANSITION (sixth stage)

At the stage of 60-65, you have been reached the second (20 years) life structure end. You want to make changes or improvements in your relationship, life goals and start your third life structure. At this time you will get satisfaction, integration, and happiness. Unfortunately, you feel all the time depression and disappointment. Victory through this turning point depends on the goal you selected that has introduced toward a new turning point. We all go through various rejections, disappointment from different places or tough examination of your natural ability can guide you in the best direction. Before 5 years of retirement you start to think about what you want to add to your work, what want to leave, what you want to continue, these are new thinking at the age of second career development. Few questions like, what skills or experience get during the first stage of career? How will I spend the next 20 years of my life?

Through this personal vision by answering these kinds of questions can help people to better live.

SENIOR TRANSITION/AGE 70’s ASSESSMENT

A personal vision of these years can make difference in behavior like physically as well as emotionally. Few questions arise during these stages like: What/how am I feel about my daily routine? What can I do to become happy and healthy? What activities make my life meaningful and interesting? Who would get benefits from my experience and knowledge?

If you reached a turning point without making a personal vision about your work, job, or relationships, you could make mistakes; by making sudden and meaningless decisions or doing nothing that will down your life. Personal vision act like a tool that helps you now in the future, when you arrived at a turning point, or need change.

I have seen several turning points in my life and it doesn’t mean only one of them responsible for my success, we all at every step of life teach us new things, experience good and bad things.

EXAMPLES OF A TURNING POINT

A turning point a time after that you feel comfortable, happy better. Here, few examples of turning point:

In relationships, a turning point arrived when we live with our parents or our parents’ lives with us. When we want to left a company or job and starting our own business, it is the turning point of our career. In the beginning, we face good r bad peoples, ups and downs of getting more experience and knowledge about people behavior and how to deal with different peoples according to the situation. Marriage is also a Turing point in men's as well as women's life, they become in a new relationship, at the birth of their baby they reached another turning point. They understanding their responsibilities and doing struggle for the betterment of the family. When we sick or through passes big disaster, it is also a turning point after recovery we want to know our weak point and make change or self-improvement. If we become rude to our relatives and answered them, it also a turning point that makes a change in our relationships and other thinking towards me. A turning point we change our place of living, also change the environment that, complete reflection of our behavior toward our family our relationship as well as our employees. In a story, as stala's brother come after a car accident, it is the climax or turning point to get learner attention.

A turning point in a story is the moment of highest tension in a story; it a most interesting and exciting part of a story. It shows rising action from the falling action before the story reaches its end. Story writers must add several turning points during story writing, that make crazy people read stories. In the story main character may be good or bad, few are turning points here we discussed: like a clever subtraction, a battle of doing, the hidden plan, the sacrifice, gesture of goodwill, etc.

A CLEVER SUBTRACTION: When the story arrives at its turning point/climax, everything is planed against them. They think fast, observing the environment, finding clues or hints. The writer arranges these clues in the best recognition, then by using these hints to win the goal. Clever deduction/subtraction is like a formula in mystery stories, a very important turning point.

THE BATTLE OF DO: In the climax, your main person in the story capture in a quarrel tests their power of doing. Before a fight, they must be wanted to prepare for it. It is a good choice for two or more characters. At begin, clearly describe the power and abilities of characters. Commonly in climax scenes, a character will do struggle again and again but fail, then they decided to do more and win at any cost. Next time they do the same as he does last time but they will succeed. In this way, viewers understand how the story character reached success.