Two Will Chase Ten Thousand

“You cannot make your marriage all good by yourself! But you can make it better all by yourself.” Anonymous

Marriage is about giving everything that you have got. It’s about you getting in to serve your spouse. Marriage is a gift from God to humanity, but what we do with our marriage will either be a gift He will receive gladly or not.

I believe people have come to miss the purpose of marriage and therefore abuse marriage itself. Marriage is not about you even though you are the one going into it. Marriage is about what you will do for your spouse and how the two of you can make life better for the whole families of the earth.

If all your family has produced is babies, a house and cars, then you really have a very poor marriage. Marriage is more than that. The marriage environment should be challenging as well as affirming. When couples agree on everything, it means one of them have given up on themselves and most times it's the woman.

If your marriage is not serving the purpose why God set it, then why are you still in it? marriage was set up for two people to join forces and help each other fulfill their purpose in life. So the abuse of marriage turned it into the burial ground of women's potential and purpose. Its suppose to be a place where a woman is planted to bloom and blossom.

Love Yourself

You are in marriage to serve and not to be served. Marriage experience challenges when a partner expects to be served first. I have heard women say, if he doesn’t love me first I won’t submit to him and men say if she doesn’t submit to me, I won't love her. 

That's immaturity. You need to give because you love yourself. When you don't love yourself, its hard to love and serve the other. Marriage is not about you but about your spouse.

Believe in Yourself

Don’t get married when you don’t believe in yourself. marriage is not a place where you get to build your self-esteem. If you have low self-esteem, you won't even allow yourself to be corrected or challenged to get better. When you see a correction as nagging, you have low self-esteem. When you run away from being challenged to grow, you don't believe in yourself.

You will never add value to your spouse when you don’t see value in yourself. You will never do for your spouse and the society what you don’t see in yourself. Believe in yourself to make your marriage fulfill its purpose.

Don’t Give Up Your Purpose

You are sent on a mission to the earth, don’t sacrifice it because of marriage. marriage is teamwork, a place to collaborate, to achieve the reason why you are on earth. Please don’t give up your purpose for anyone. You will regret it.

No one is worth you leaving your purpose for. If you live your purpose for anyone, you are saying that person is much more valuable than you and your purpose. You must value yourself first to make a good marriage

Keep Getting Better

Marriage is the one thing most people don’t really take seriously and I don’t know why. People learn new skills and get better in almost every other thing that is important to them except marriage.

The best gift you can gift your spouse is the gift of your growth. For your marriage and life to be better you will have to keep getting better. If you get better and your spouse doesn't get better you are going to have a challenge. So both of you must get better.

Dimeji is the President/CEO of 1st Millionaire Maker Nig Ltd, www.1stmillionairemaker.com