Want a Stress-Free Thanksgiving? These 15 Communication Tips Will Help

We are shifting gears for today's newsletter.  

I usually write about business communication in architecture, engineering, and construction.

Since most of us in the U.S. are off on Thanksgiving, we'll have to communicate with relatives and friends.

Damn, it may be easier to go to work!🙏

Here are 15 quick tips to help make your day festive and enjoyable.

Bookmark this post, as it will be useful for the holiday season!😍

1. Forget previous holidays, discussions, disagreements, and politics. Go in with a clean slate and an open mind that you will have a fabulous and relaxing day.

2. Close your mouth. Not every remark or question requires an answer. Silence and a smile are powerful. In other words, bite your tongue, which brings us to...

3. Use the phrase, "Isn't that interesting?" If Uncle Grouch drops some off-color remarks, recite these three magical words to neutralize any conversation. "Isn't that interesting?" The phrase is a verbal dead-end. 🚷Say it, smile, and be quiet. 

4. Make everyone feel special. Stay off your phone (except for a few group pictures or selfies, of course.) Let people in the room know that you're fully present and attentive.

5. Hang with the kids. Children can bring levity to the day. A glass of wine may help, too. 

6. Look on your own plate. My family has been affected by an eating disorder. Holidays can be stressful as food is the focus. Avoid commenting or encouraging others to eat more or finish everything. 🍽

7. Take a walk. Invite someone special, or the entire group, for a lap around the block. The dynamics will shift. The fresh air can feel rejuvenating. Prerequisite: Peel yourself off the couch. 

8. Keep a few friendly and neutral small-talk starters in mind. Be ready to drop one in if things get awkward or tense.

9. Pass on being a "topper." When Cousin Fred is bragging about his week in Florida, let him have his moment. Don't chime in that you just got back from a free month in Bermuda because you were the No. 1 sales rep.🤟

10. Be nice. Gossip often rules at family gatherings. Steer clear of petty BS. Don't say anything behind someone's back that you wouldn't say to their face.

11. Avoid touchy subjects. Our world is overflowing with angst around news, politics, money, and everyday life. You don't know what's happening in other homes, marriages, or relationships. Focus on positive topics and stay away from passing judgment and pity parties.

12. Cite three good qualities of another guest who you dislike. Think of these traits before you join the crowd. You'll get rid of old baggage and have a more relaxing day. 

13. Offer to help. I love how the best conversations happen when loading the dishwasher or taking out the trash. 💯

14. Communicate your gratitude. Regardless of how the visit goes, thank your host for their efforts and invitation.

15. Be curious for story ideas. Sure, you're off-duty. Still, if you pay attention, you'll probably uncover a foundational nugget for developing a business-related story that will resonate with prospects and clients. It may be a phrase, your nephew playing with building blocks, or a bit of wisdom that piques your interest. (Be sure to jot down a few words so you remember it on Monday!)

If you think your Thanksgiving may be rough, consider what the Pilgrims had to endure.

You're good.😎

▶Comment below with your favorite tip from this list...or add your own!