What is the cost of tolerating?

You will never change anything that you are willing to tolerate – Myles Munroe

Many people stay in unfulfilling environments whether it is their relationship their job or maybe even their business, tolerating the situation and choosing to do nothing about it. They often say “ I will just wait something will come to me because it always did in the past. 

Here is something important to know you can’t change your unpleasant situation by being unhappy and waiting for something to come, simply because Universal Laws the First Layer of Reality don’t work this way.

So you will be waiting and getting more of the same. Nothing will change until you shift your Being as you shift your Being and connect to the essence of who you are you will change your vibration and only then new opportunities will start to come to you.

You just can’t get to where you want to be in an unfulfilled and unhappy state. I often say people usually mold “what is” and forever wait for something to be delivered at their door.

Things will unfold perfectly for you but it is not about you doing something and pushing through and tolerating the situation it is about changing your state of Being and connecting to the true essence of who you are. It is about shifting your perspective to the broader perspective of who you are.

We are living in very interesting and challenging times, and you really have two choices to be easy with it and be in a state of flow connected to the broader perspective of who you are, or the next option you will unnecessarily suffer and live unfulfilled life.

And what I mean by suffering is being unhappy, frustrated not satisfied tolerating whatever it is you are tolerating, and doing nothing about it.

For thousands of years, we have been raised by the false premise that first, you need to do something, then you will have something and then you will be something.

That paradigm is not working, and we can see it everywhere

In relationships

In business

In health

This perspective put everything out of balance. Because we build our relationships on conversations with others and if we perceive life from doing something to having something then maybe we care about being.

In this case, our conversations always going to be transactional manipulating the behaviour of yourself and others to get what you want.

I give you this then you give me that – no satisfaction, no fulfillment, no connection pure transaction.

As a result, it may work for a short period but will always leave you feeling empty, unfulfilled, stressed, worried, doubting, and so on….

As a result, relationships fall apart either business or personal.

What is the cost? 

If you divorce and you don’t know how to communicate from your Being your divorce is going to cost you thousands of dollars and also your health and if you have kids your kids will suffer too. 

If it is your business and you don’t know how to communicate from your Being it will cost you also thousands of dollars on lost deals, people not doing what you want them to do, or hiring people that are not suited for what they do and then firing them and looking for another people.

Just non non-end loophole. 

In your health – I would say this is the biggest price you pay, there is no price on your health because if you don’t have your health you have nothing 😊

See how much it is costing you to live your life from an ineffective paradigm Doing and just doing more and more and more ….

Now if you shift your paradigm and start connecting to your Being first because you are Being this is why the word itself is Human Being, it is for a reason then your doing is going to be easy, flowing because you will be connected to the broader perspective of who you are.

And having will just follow naturally you wouldn’t need to think about having, all your focus is on being.

People don’t realize that just by living their lives and going through contrast every day, they identify every day what they don’t want and what they want. But then they keep focusing on what they don’t have and doing more. Which is nonsense and only leads to more suffering.

I want to invite you to this little awareness exercise 

Catch yourself how many times per day you are thinking thoughts that are worrying and doubtful, self-critical thoughts, and stop them and replace them with better feeling thoughts.

See everything is energy it starts with the thought, emotions amplify it and action creates momentum.

If you don’t know how to stay present and connected to the Being part of you I can say with certainty that you won’t be able to catch yourself or even if you do, you won’t be able to balance yourself. 

See this goes beyond psychology and trying to manipulate behavior.  I have a background in psychology but until I discovered the Being part of me, nothing was really changing in my life and I continued worrying and reacting most of the time subconsciously.

What was the cost of being in a fight or flight response and not even being aware of it – my health was the biggest cost and it cost me great opportunities in my business with loss of money as well.

Only when you understand and know how to connect to the Being part of you- like it or not nothing in your life will change, you will be molding “what is” like the majority of people do. And it will cost you a lot.

Let's look at some examples 

You have for example important meeting that can be an interview for a new job, or if you run a business can be a meeting to get funding or it can be a meeting with your potential client

If you are not aware of being part of you usually what you will experience before the meeting is nervousness, unease, worry what if something goes wrong, can be fear, anxiety, and because you are not aware of Being part of you.

You kind of ignore those moods ( emotions) and push through with action. So you go there but because you didn’t connect the to being part of you and you didn’t balance yourself before the meeting, you didn’t connect with the broader perspective of who you are then your conversation with another person will be:

Not confident or overconfident  

anxious 

uneasy 

defensive

As a result, you will not get your idea across effectively and then you wonder why this person got this job and you don’t, why this person got the funding for their business and I don’t, why this client went with this business but not with mine.

Now another scenario 

You are going to an interview for a new job, or meeting with your boss asking for a promotion or even getting some ideas across, or you have a meeting asking for funding for your business, or you have a meeting with an important potential client.

You are aware of your Being and you have your conversation speaking from the broader perspective of who you really are now here is the difference in how your conversation will look like 

Your conversation will be

Confident 

Assertive 

At ease 

Clear 

Appreciative 

So, you will get your point across whatever it is effectively and as a result, you will get the results you want.

See the difference between the two.

It is not about what you do but how you have being how you relate to yourself first and then to others it is about your perspective it is about your Being and also how you relate to the first layer of reality which is the Universe itself nonseparable from us.

You can take thousands of exhausting actions and not get the results you want or you can take 2,3 effective actions and get the results you want at ease and joy.

That’s the difference between those two paradigms.

If you are coming from doing then you are not your authentic self, you just can’t be, your mind is never authentic when separated from Being, if you are coming from being you are your authentic self. 

If you are interested in learning more about how to communicate effectively with others from your Being and save the cost 

Either financial, your health or your relationships then book a free call and we can have a conversation.

I’m supporting people like you to have effective conversations with others to get the results you want and build meaningful relationships.

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