What I Put In An Invitation To Connect Note
Bruce Johnston
Independent Sales and Marketing Consultant. LinkedIn TM Specialist: LinkedIn TM Training, LinkedIn TM Consulting and LinkedIn TM Coaching
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A few weeks ago I wrote about why I think you should include a note when you invite someone to connect. I am a big advocate of including a note as it sets the stage for the first conversation or exchange of messages I am going to have with my new connection. I have had multiple people ask me what I include in my notes when I invite someone to connect, so here are my ideas on the topic. As usual this is what I have found works for me, so take what you want and leave the rest.
In a connection invite note you are giving the other person the reason(s) they should connect with you.
What people are told to include are things like:
To my way of thinking, these are tepid. It seems to me they translate as “there is less risk in connecting with me due to < whatever it is > we share.”
I also receive a lot of invites with notes that say something like “I am trying to build my network and would love to connect with you.” This is completely impersonal. It could be sent to anyone. And even worse, this invitation revolves around what’s in it for the person sending the invitation (building their network).
I do two things in my invites to connect. I hyper personalize my notes to get the recipient’s attention and to show that this invitation is not cut and paste or automated - I sent one the other day where I shared four connections with someone, so I referenced some assistance I had recently given one of those people. While the nature of that assistance may or may not have been of interest to my invitee, the fact that I mentioned it proved that I was talking to them as an individual.
The second thing I do is add what’s in it for them. In my case, I always add that if they have any questions on using LinkedIn™ they can send them to me and I will answer them if I can.
I had someone ask me this the other week. They were sending connection requests to prospective customers and they were having a tough time coming up with a good reason for the person to connect with them.
To their credit, they were honest with me in describing the situation. “I want business from them, so this is kind of a one way street. What can I offer them?”
This is what happens when we have the blinders on. We see something we want - in this case a connection to a hot prospect - and all we can see is what that will do for us. It blinds us to the other person’s perspective and their problems, wants and needs.
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To my thinking, there are three things you can offer the person you are connecting with.
1) Your knowledge. Everyone seems to forget this. You spend every hour of every day helping people like your prospects solve the problems they have. This is what you do. While it may be a new and novel situation for them, it’s something you see all the time. They are the person looking online for the recipe for a dinner dish, while you’re a chef who cooks twenty of those dishes every night.
2) Your experience with their industry. This is different from your knowledge in that you are putting the knowledge into practice in different situations. This is important because your past experience solving problems like the ones they have will reassure them that you are someone worthwhile they should know.
3) Lastly, you have something that is uniquely LinkedIn™: your network of connections. And this applies to most anyone you meet on LinkedIn™. If you have any size network at all you have the ability to introduce or refer this new person to someone they want to know. Here’s an example: Need help with CRM? I have connections who work for CRM companies, I have connections who are independent CRM consultants, and ones that are CRM power users. People in similar positions to themselves? No problem. Suppliers? Got you covered.
Access to your network is actually a pretty powerful thing to be able to offer.
The bottom line is you have more to offer than you may think.
Your job in making your request to connect (or for that matter in sending an outreach message) is to show the recipient that the potential benefits in knowing you are compelling.
If you are someone who writes notes with their connection invitations, what do you say that helps you get a positive response?
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4dExcellent, cogent post, Bruce. I don’t entertain connection requests anymore, primarily because female fake Asian fake L’Oreal, etc. marketing executives who represented they graduated from the best colleges anywhere were inunndating my inbox and I had enough of it. When I was still entertaing connection requests, most were generic requests from LI members with no apparent nexus to my background. I would ask them to give their interest in connecting with me. Most of the time they didn’t reply. I would give their requests the heave-ho. So many who responded with “I am trying to build my network,” etc. I treated similarly. I accepted requests from requestors who responded with even slightly plausible reasons for asking to connect. On the rare occasion I sent connection requests, I set forth what I and requestees had in common. Some accepted. Some didn’t. That’s life on LinkedIn.
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5dMeaningful personalized notes are rare. I visit a profile and read about a person, check their posts, and maybe respond before sending a connection request. I like your approach, Bruce Johnston. I wish more people shared it.
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5dI prefer to send and receive personalized invites, Bruce, though I do understand that personalization isn't possible if the sender is doing it from a mobile device. Reading your post, I remember receiving an invite from someone who made it clear that he was happy to tell me that I had qualified to be in his network. 🤔 I visited his profile and saw we had nothing in common as such unless I was a target for his software. So I wrote back asking if I should be jumping with joy. I didn't accept the invite but at least the guy went and checked my profile. 😄
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5dAt the end of my note, I add the words "no unsolicited pitches will follow." The fear of being pitched repeatedly might be the primary reason people are reluctant to connect, so I address the fear head-on. Your newsletter is always spot-on, Bruce, and packed with great information and insights. Thank you!
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5dI love getting truly personalized invites Bruce Johnston and those are prioritized to review and process. The ones that I like the best are from individuals who are outside of my current network, were we have no common connections, because in the scheme of 6° of separation, they hold the key to potentially greater reach, searchability and findability within the dB called [in]. United We Can Beat [in]transparency! Kevin On a Mission to Eliminate Organizational & Personal Blanding™