What I'm going to share with you... 💔💥...for some... is going to shock, maybe frustrate you too... BUT for myself... not so much...

What I'm going to share with you... 💔💥...for some... is going to shock, maybe frustrate you too... BUT for myself, as a Resilience and Anti-Fragile Coach for Men... not so much...

There's a REEL 🎞🎥 going around at the moment about why men don't talk.

THERE WAS OVER 9000 COMMENTS...1000's and 1000's of men saying straight-out...

- no one cares

- no one understands men

- no one wants to listen to men

- men don't understand men

- men use it against other men when they share challenges

- women use it against men when they share challenges 

- men have no one to talk to

- men can't trust anyone

- when men share their challenges with each other they play it down or try to "one up" them 

- men accuse each other of being weak when sharing their challenges

What was interesting here...was they were having conversations...

... with each other, backing each other up, agreeing with each other... that men didn't care about each other and the rest of the points above.

It's not about men not wanting to talk... these guys had plenty to say, they were pissed off... They made it very clear, in detail, that they felt the world was unfair to men.  

But this, as negative and heartbreaking as all these comments were...

...proved that men will share when they feel comfortable enough to do so. Otherwise, they wouldn't have all been backing each other up with comments.

...

💔 THIS IS GOING TO BE TOUGH FOR SOME TO READ AND HEAR...

- 100's and 100's of people, men and women, offered their help and offered to listen. 

The men shut them down. Got defensive, some were angry and told these people off... said they didn't, and couldn't, understand how they felt... said they didn't want help... using the reasons listed above to justify not accepting help.

...

💔 THEN THIS...

- There were some Men that shared amazing INSPIRING stories... 

...that this isn't the case for all men... and that they had incredible people in their lives... 

...they shared about how they took responsibility, reached out, got support... surrounded themselves with men and women in their inner circle, and that they can trust these men and women in their lives with any challenge they face and choose to share. No judgment... 

...How they are thriving in life financially, in relationships, in health... 

It was super cool. And great to hear these men sharing their stories and experiences.

...

💔 THIS NEXT PART, IS A HUGE KEY HERE IN THIS CONVERSATION...

These INSPIRING guys sharing their positive and personal experiences with having support...

...then got ACCUSED of being... 

- gay

- playing a victim

- being a loser

- being selfish, 

- a pu--y

- weak for getting support and for having close friends and for sharing their challenges with their friends...

By the SAME men that were complaining that no one cared, that no one wanted to help them... and all the points made earlier.

...

🔥 𝟱 𝗧𝗛𝗜𝗡𝗚𝗦 𝗜 𝗪𝗔𝗡𝗧 𝗧𝗢 𝗦𝗛𝗔𝗥𝗘 𝗛𝗘𝗥𝗘...

𝟭. 𝗔𝘁 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝗽𝗼𝗶𝗻𝘁, 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗴𝗼𝘁𝘁𝗮 𝘁𝗮𝗸𝗲 𝗿𝗲𝘀𝗽𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗶𝗯𝗶𝗹𝗶𝘁𝘆 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝘄𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂'𝗿𝗲 𝗮𝘁. 

Whether that be helping yourself... or being open to being compassionate towards someone else.

Not everyone has the tools to do that. You're at where you're at. It's not easy. But we all know that operating from a disempowering inner compass in life... 

...is going to, by default... 

...have you making decisions and taking actions that are going to keep you in that place or drag you further downwards.... And often taking others down with you.

𝟮. 𝗔𝘀 𝗮 𝗥𝗲𝘀𝗶𝗹𝗶𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗔𝗻𝘁𝗶-𝗙𝗿𝗮𝗴𝗶𝗹𝗲 𝗖𝗼𝗮𝗰𝗵 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗠𝗲𝗻... 

I've heard every challenge under the sun... even the "conversations" that men think that other men won't share with a woman coach..

...Or think that women won't understand... it's been shared with me, I've heard it all... when coaching and supporting men. 

The reason they share that with me is...

- there's no competition with me, I'm not a man trying to compete with them

- there's no judgment

- I'M A VAULT

- Compassion

- I want to see you win in life... not just a bit... I want to see you freaking thrive!

𝟯. 𝗔𝘀 𝗮 𝗵𝘂𝗺𝗮𝗻, 𝗜 𝗸𝗻𝗼𝘄 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗶𝘁'𝘀 𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲... 𝗜'𝘃𝗲 𝗯𝗲𝗲𝗻 𝗶𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗽𝗹𝗮𝗰𝗲 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗰𝗮𝗻'𝘁 𝘁𝗲𝗹𝗹 𝗮𝗻𝘆𝗼𝗻𝗲...

...that you don't want to put your stuff onto others... that you have to "tough it out" because you're the person who has to stand strong and take care of others...

...I even know what it's like to worry about the perception of something being thrown back in my face when I've been struggling. 

...Letting go of that and letting support in... Turned things around for me rapidly for the better.

𝟰. 𝗜 𝗳𝗶𝗿𝘀𝘁-𝗵𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗸𝗻𝗼𝘄 𝗵𝗼𝘄 𝗺𝘂𝗰𝗵 𝗽𝗲𝗼𝗽𝗹𝗲 𝘃𝗮𝗹𝘂𝗲... 

...having someone as their vault to be there for you and to help you powerfully move through challenging times. 

No matter what size the challenge, you'll be surprised how much clarity and insights you can gain from having someone help you truly see you, hear you... 

...and help you tap into areas of yourself, that you've forgotten about... or want to gain even more strength in... 

...areas that accelerate your ability to rise in adversity and everyday life.

𝟱. 𝗜 𝗿𝗲𝗽𝗲𝗮𝘁... 𝗔𝘁 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝗽𝗼𝗶𝗻𝘁, 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝘁𝗮𝗸𝗲 𝗿𝗲𝘀𝗽𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗶𝗯𝗶𝗹𝗶𝘁𝘆 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝘄𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂'𝗿𝗲 𝗮𝘁. 𝗔𝗻𝗱 𝘄𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗰𝗵𝗼𝗼𝘀𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗯𝗲. 

If you know me, you know I am "all-in" on having men's backs... 

It's gut-wrenching seeing men choose to "screw each other over"… and “screw themselves over”.

Mandy "Resilience Mastery" Gibbons