"What work + life advice would you time travel back to your twenty-something self?"

Top Themes:

• Surround yourself with good people (smart, supportive, collaborative and motivated), especially mentors and life partners.
• Be patient, take a long-term view and remember it's a marathon not a sprint.
• Be bold, take more risks and embrace opportunities.
• Work hard to maintain personal connections with family and friends.
• Embrace failure; be curious, humble and open to its lessons.
• Strive to maintain work/life balance; acknowledge the benefits along with the challenges of doing so in this ecosystem. Exercise, vacation, solo time and outside passions make us better at work and life.
• Leverage the compounding benefits of small, consistent habits; strive for steady improvement.
• Practice mindfulness, cultivate the ability to focus with full attention and maintain equanimity, especially during stressful times.
• Trust your instincts / stay true to the core of who you are despite external pressure.
• Travel, explore different passions and roles before settling; embrace not having an exact path.
• Celebrate small victories, be grateful & be kind to yourself. Overall, have fun and enjoy the ride.
• Don't be a jerk

Quotes:

“In your twenties, everyone tells you to focus on where you want to be headed professionally but it is also a pivotal time for where you are headed in life. Those early career years are important, and sacrifices will need to be made but it’s your family, friends, relationships and health that will give you the greatest satisfaction when you are 30s, 40s and beyond.”

~ Director of Investor Relations

"You always have something to learn. Approach each day and every encounter with an inquisitive mind. Then be generous with your knowledge, assist others in their pursuit of excellence and your own success will evolve."

~ Ed O'Reilly, Senior Managing Director and Global Head, Client and Partner Group

"Extraordinary results require extraordinary focus. Stay curious, take risks to intellectually and experientially grow. Seek excellence in all you do. Also be grateful and kind to yourself."

~ Co-Founder and Head of Business Development

“Find a business leader with whom you work that you respect. Do everything you can to earn their professional confidence, and then ask them to mentor you.”

~ Jaime Hobbeheydar, Chief Marketing Officer

"Embrace not having an exact path, and seek out a variety of experiences, relationships and contexts. What might seem like disparate pieces will fit into your personal puzzle as you progress in your career, as your core strengths and talents solidify."

Janice Woo, Managing Director, Chief Operating Officer - Client & Capital Formation

"In my opinion, in order to be successful in life, one needs to have balance between their work, their social life, and their own health.  But life in a client facing role is often dictated by what others are asking for: your more senior colleagues, your clients, your friends, your family.  But one needs to find time for all of those things and it is a series of difficult trade-offs. 

What I wish I knew then is that a little time away from work can make one’s thinking better at work.  Take time for a walk, a quick coffee with an old friend, a phone call home.  If you don’t invest in all of those things in your 20s, you will regret it when you are in your 40s.

Oh, and an in-person meeting is better than a zoom….100% of the time."

~ Carter Lyons, Chief Business Officer

“Trust is such an important aspect of this business. Develop open, honest relationships early in your career - without always focusing on the near-term benefit to you. Before you know it, you will have developed hundreds of meaningful relationships that will help propel you to success.”

~ David Cranston, Global Head of Business Development

"I spent my 20s wandering (backpacking and working odd jobs overseas), and I would give that advice to most everyone. Any other advice would be hollow as it literally defined my worldview…. but it was not a traditional career move!"

~ Partner, Head of Marketing, Americas

"I’d have told my younger self to be bolder and take more risks sooner - to raise my hand for opportunities more proactively. I would have also said to “take my vacation” - it's important to recharge and embrace self -care. This is a marathon not a sprint. Lastly, drive hard but be kind to yourself and others."

~ Stephanie Ivy Sanford, Partner, Co-Head of the Americas Institutional Client Business

“Go to great lengths to align yourself with bosses, mentors and colleagues who believe in you, are accepting of your flaws and mistakes and offer constructive feedback and position you for success. In the case of a ‘bad boss’, don’t stick around hoping it will get better. It won’t. Either they leave, or you leave. Remember a bad boss who doesn’t believe in you is the one who is flawed, not you.”

~ Frances Orabona, Head of Global Business Development

"Life and working in this industry really is a marathon and not a sprint.  Be kind to yourself. Celebrate your small victories and learn from your setbacks. Progress comes from consistent effort, not perfection. Focus on steady improvement and embrace the journey, knowing that each step forward contributes to your overall success.  You won’t be exceptional every day, and that is ok."

~ Amy Lesch, Partner, Head of Global Product Strategy

"Embrace opportunity as opposed to creating obstacles to avoid it.  Oftentimes, I would create reasons why a new role wouldn’t work for me as a working mom before even trying it.  My husband would counsel me to say YES, and then decide if it didn’t work with my lifestyle.  I never had to back pedal."

~ Andrea Picard, Managing Director, Co-Head of Global Institutional Sales

"Be yourself … talk about your passions and you’ll learn your clients’…you might be surprised!"

"Ask for and give candid feedback to and from your team."

"Don’t be a jerk … you’ll probably meet people twice!"

~ Chris Crevier, Head of US Institutional Client Group

"The best work advice I would give myself is to practice and perfect the art of listening. You become a more effective communicator and gain better understanding if you take the time to listen."

~ Chuck Bauer, Partner, Head of Investor Relations

"All told, the classes we take in college and the job(s) we go after in our 20s, have little to do with our trajectory into specific 'careers'.  So, follow your interests and explore them more in higher education while you have the time; similarly, best to explore a wide array of potential first jobs after graduation - you never know what industry or function you might come to love that you didn't identify in college!  In time, certain interests will develop into passions and the rest will take care of itself.  [Real time advice I'm giving my 16-year-old son.]"

~ Rob Bosselman, Managing Director, Global Head of Private Wealth

"I would tell my twenty-year-old self to remain true to who I was at my core, but be willing to bend and evolve your thinking even if it meant getting things done at a slower pace…"

~ John Galateria, Global Head of Investor Relations

Two important lessons that I would want to tell the “early” me:

1- Fail. You learn the most when you fail. And when you do, be able to answer the following: why did I fail, what did I learn from my failure, and what will I now do such that I don’t have this failure again.

2- At the end of every day, do “one more thing”. If you accomplish one more item every day, over the course of the year you will accomplish more than any of your peers. It is worth the investment of that time for your career."

~ Jamie Kase, Managing Director & Head of Global Investor Relations

"Most startups fail. Only join one if you have significant equity exposure should it beat the odds, or you can easily get back to an established firm after three years of failure. Make sure when you take a new job that there will be a reasonable explanation for the next job’s interview after it doesn’t work, as to why you took that previous job."

~ Partner, Head of Marketing & Investor Relations

"My work advice would be simple: trust your instincts on what will be most satisfying to you when it comes to choosing the work you do/career.  You’ll get a lot of opinions that will try to steer you in different directions, but your instincts about what you want are what matter.”

~ Global Head of Investor Relations

"The first thing that comes to mind is to not be afraid to take a proper vacation and explore the world a bit more - it’s ok to take a few days off.  It ultimately relates to relaxing and not being afraid to reward yourself. Second is to stay balanced and work to understand issues versus react emotionally.  Finally - call my mom and dad more often.

~ Head of Americas Client Coverage 

"Surround yourself with smart, motivated people who care as much about you as they do about themselves. Build and nurture relationships every step of the way, and always find time for yourself, to recharge, recalibrate and do the things you love to do. Life flies by too fast!"

~ Managing Director

"I found that I was more successful as a senior manager in distribution when I had a good life balance- family and another passion…for me it was supporting the arts- Museums, theater and dance. The arts were an amazing outlet and extremely personally rewarding. It also helped me to be a better problem solve and more successful in my position."

~ Advisor, Former Senior Managing Director & Global Head of Investor Relations

A few gems for life and work, courtesy of some generous mentors.

"Consistency generally beats quantity in all aspects of life. It’s the small, ordinary things you do regularly that yield extraordinary results. This is the power of compounding."

"In life, we tend to regret what we didn’t do, not what we did."

"Most of us generally don't need more time. We need more focus.  Do what needs to be done and do it with your full attention."

~ Global Co-Head of Business Development and Investor Relations

"Oddly, looking back at my younger twentysomething self I would simply say I’m proud of you. I worked hard, was fearless, and very fortunate to have great bosses, mentors, teammates, and business school classmates. I’m grateful for those years. That time paved so much of the foundation and relationships I have today. If anything, I might say stay the course and soak it in more. We also all went through 9/11 together and there was a much deeper sense of community and perspective across the industry.

Having said that, I do wish I could go back to my thirty-year-old self and give that person advice. That period was much more challenging for me to find the right balance between work and life. I wish I could say to that person, be patient. Don’t worry so much. Stay true to you, trust your gut earlier and make sure you are surrounded by the right people who truly support your growth."

~ Managing Director, Head of Business Development & Investor Relations

“The professional advice I would give to my younger self is that the key to success is to simply work harder and care more (hopefully I did both back then) than the next person.  Genuinely care about what you are doing and take pride in how you do it – no matter what the task is.  The other thing I would advise is to take some personal risk and speak your mind, provide input – the best ideas can come from those with the freshest perspective.

On the personal side – and I certainly didn’t follow this – I would remind myself that this is a marathon and not a sprint and how important it is to take time off, take good care of oneself and loved ones.  It is essential to know when to pace yourself and when to do an all-nighter.

Ultimately to remember that above all to be kind – it is a long life and small world, and our industry is the ultimate team sport so just be kind.”

~ Partner, Head of Investor Relations

1. "Have discipline to exercise in the morning, prior to work;

2. Engage in mindfulness or something similar to reset each day (at least);

3. Err on the side of seeing family and friends;

4. Promote teamwork regardless of the firm culture – if the culture doesn’t reward that, switch jobs early;

5. Aim to appreciate each day; happiness comes from enjoying the interstitial spaces."

~ Head of Investor Relations, Americas

"Never opt for short term gain at the expense of long-term pain. Real success requires patience, thoughtfulness and a willingness to really commit to things that you believe in."

~ Chris Krein, Managing Director, Head of Global Distribution

“Working the most hours is not the measure of success. It’s the quality of the work, focus on the most important initiatives, and building lasting relationships that matters. It’s the same in your personal life, you need to be present with your family and regularly touching base with friends to maintain those relationships with the people who helped make you into the person you are.”

~ Bill Stout, Senior Managing Director, Head of Global Client Group Strategy & Business Development

“Always stay even-keeled, especially during crisis. Your clients, your company, and your career will benefit.  It’s also great training for becoming a parent – just like the markets, kids sense fear!”

~ Tom Sherwood, Partner & Head of Business Development

"Have a great Partner you respect and enjoy spending time with, in both work and life!!!"

~ Ben Ghriskey, Head of Business Development

"Maybe a bit informal but I'd say to my 22-year-old self: You work in a role that is dominated by rejection.  Learn from each one and never take it personally.  You will have great days and tough days.  Never spend much time playing the victim when things don't go your way.  Short self-pity parties are fine but quickly move on and focus on what's next.  This is a role you get to do versus have to do.  Surround yourself with as many positive people as you can.  Be direct when giving feedback.  Not mean, just clear and actionable because that's what good leaders do, and the world needs more good leaders.  Your legacy will be more about the people you affected than the results you produced.  Oh, and have fun!"

~ Garrett Walls, Senior Advisor / Former Global Head of Investor Relations

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About Willow Hill Advisors

Laurie Thompson founded Willow Hill in September 2019. A seasoned executive recruiter, Laurie most recently spent 16 years in the financial services practice of Heidrick & Struggles where she served the investment management community as a thought leader and specialist in business development and investor relations recruiting. She continues this work today, predominately focused on senior level hires for top-tier alternative investment managers.

Willow Hill is exclusively a retained firm and executes only a select number of mandates at a time, ensuring hiring firms receive the highest level of focus and attention. Through deep market knowledge, long term relationships and established trust, Willow Hill provides unconstrained access to top caliber talent while ensuring potential placements are thoroughly vetted and referenced.

lthompson@willowhilladvisors.com

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~ Laurie