What's My Purpose

Finding Purpose and deeper fulfillment in our lives might just be the number one question that many are faced with.

The people who rattle with this question are often the achievers and performers who finally start to realize that there is more to life than just goals and achievements.

Middle-aged (especially men) who are highly career-driven and have hit the internal wall and now more meaning is needed. Or just generally introspective people who deeply know that there is more to life than just the day-to-day repetitive routines.

Also, I feel that the young adults who are jumping into the real world with guns blazing might have gotten the short end of the stick in this draw...

Today’s world presents endless available options and possibilities that are all laid in front of them in an easy and fashionable manner.

Especially in the hyped-up, Californian #lifestyle model, where many are told that the world is your oyster, and we get to choose how our future will unfold...

Whereas this can be true to some extent, the reality of it is most often quite a different beast.

Macro Purpose in Micro Actions

I have personally done many things and had experiences that could be described as a dream lifestyle, yet there is ALWAYS the shadow side in the picture that is not exposed to the public. We are never really able to show the full reality, no matter how hard we try to write or tell stories about it.

How does all this relate to our #Purpose then, you might ask…

Very much so actually. Because here is the thing about Purpose.

First, it is something that we feel about our contributions and how we show up in the world. Whether we are making positive deposits and able to touch other people with our actions.

Second, what we very often forget to look at is our present-day small and seemingly purposeless behaviors.

• Going shopping for groceries is to provide food for the family.
• Saying No to your children eating candies is to take care of their health.
• Paying for a coffee to a stranger is to help others to see the good in the world.

To me, having alignment with Purpose starts from those daily actions. So that we can find more meaning at the micro level. Because if we can’t find it in the small, how can we ever genuinely appreciate the big?

Which I think is one of the main obstacles for many in the search for Purpose and meaning.

Because so often we only appreciate the Big and Beautiful, yet this leads to a quick high followed by a long low.

Master your micro to up-level and find true Purpose, Meaning, and fulfillment from the macro.

A simple example of this is my Mission (Micro Purpose for the year 2022) to impact one hundred people this year through my Coaching. Not just to get these people motivated, inspired, or feel happy, but to truly impact their lives in positive ways.

The other fitting example of this type of “Micro Purpose" I heard when I asked a question about emotions from Cady Coleman (a female astronaut who conducted multiple spacewalks from the International Space Station) during our high-level networking event.

I asked her about how she manages the emotional pressure when the stakes are the highest possible and there is zero room for error.

Her response was simple:

“ Your Mission is bigger than your Emotions.“

It surely left a mark on me. How can we integrate that idea into our own Purpose that is larger than our daily emotional landscape?

(Send me a message, if you want to find out more on How To be part of a high-level networking group like this)

From there we can then start to move towards a deeper Purpose. By deeper, I mean a Purpose that is larger than ourselves, our Emotions, and our everyday worries and doubts.

Something that has a strong pull from the future and/or a push from the past that surpasses the need to feel motivated.

There lies the true power of purpose.

We don’t need to feel motivated, inspired, or be in the best state possible before taking action.

A purpose that is larger than us is the mover and shaker that keeps us going. It is the starter motor that ignites all the other systems and processes into action.

Coaching, Contribution, and Pain

Our Purpose is always about Contribution to others and never about us, what we might benefit or get out of it, other than the deep feeling of fulfillment.

There are obviously some questions that are better than others in our quest to fulfilling our Purpose. We often just aren’t asking the right ones, so we end up spinning our wheels going around in circles looking for something grandiose from too far in the future.

I could almost guarantee that there are multiple Purpose driven activities that you are already doing on a daily basis.

For me personally, this question of “Which of my daily activities are already purpose-driven allowed the opening to realize that coaching, teaching, guiding, and helping other people is a big part of my Purpose!

It is something that I have done my whole adult life. In my recent “past lives” I was a dive instructor, worked on super yachts to serve the rich and famous, worked on a private Island resort in Panama as an assistant manager, and tour guiding trips around the world, literally.

Everything has always been about people and providing them with deeper life experiences. As a Guide, Coach, instructor, or better yet just as who I am as a person, I’m here to provide a space for people to experience something larger about themselves and Life itself.

It was never about me in the first place. When you try to find your Purpose in something that you need or want, it goes absolutely nowhere! Trust me on this one.

It is always about them and how I can do something that betters and benefits other people’s lives. (For some it is not people, but animals or environmental conditions).

Here is another question that I recently learned from James Clear .

This one is especially impactful for the people who are looking to be successful with their Purpose and Mission-driven life.

What are you willing to endure the Most?

Meaning that when we look at our current actions and extract the ones that provide us with the most amount of Pain, we might have found something. Anything that you want to be successful at will include significant amounts of discomfort too.

I know that there are some who want to just go with the flow and let all the beautiful things unfold themselves in a perfect fashion called life.

Yet I believe more in living our life with Intention and clear Lifestyle design that allows us to experience it all to its fullest while fulfilling our Purpose!

So maybe, just for today play with the idea of what are you willing to endure the most, look at the micro-actions that contribute to a larger macro-Purpose and perhaps start your quest towards a deeper Purpose from there…

I would love to know what you might find…?

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Tuomo

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