Why Them and Not Me?

How many times have you asked that question in the title, have you petitioned the Heavens and sent God that query? How many times has someone asked the same question of you? I do not know your circumstances or the reason for you asking or receiving it from another, but I do know one thing without any uncertainty; that question can lead to harsh judgment, anger and battles internally and externally, no matter from whom it comes.

How do I know it without any uncertainty, you may be asking? It is because I used to be one from whom that question came. I was always comparing myself to others, resentful for their blessings not being bestowed upon me. I was focused on what was going on with another, not even realizing that bitterness and anger was gnawing at every fiber of my inner core. My concentration was so intense on them that I was missing all the great things that could be happening to and for me. Comparison is one ugly beast and rather than shoot arrows at and destroy it, I was pointing them back at myself, dying inside minute by minute, not even realizing what I was doing to myself

. Finally I came to the realization that what is meant for others is meant for them, just like what is meant for me is meant for me. That includes the good and the bad. The truth of the matter is that both happens to all of us. When we are envious, jealous and not recognizing our own worth, the good happening to others seems to be magnified and the Why Them and Not Me questions crop up!

I am thankful I have been able to turn this thing around and use the good things that others are accomplishing as a motivator for myself. I am no less capable to walk in my greatness and I now choose to do just that. I now focus on my own reality and expend my energy on the purpose that God has given me. Rather than be envious, I honor and salute others for their blessings, knowing that God has some in store for me also. I also encourage those who are stuck, as I was, and are asking the Why Them and Not Me question to shift their mindset and to refocus on what God has for them. I stress the importance of setting high, but realistic, expectations and in celebrating their victories along the way. This is where their energy needs to flow.

Now, where do you stand in this Whey Them and Not Me spectrum? Are you cheering for others and applauding them for doing great? Or are you envious, bitter and stuck in a mode of comparison? If it is the later, it is time to snap out of it. Great things are waiting for you too! In fact, you have probably missed out on blessings because God did not think you were ready. You were too busy focused what someone else was doing?

The great news is that is not too late. You have the power within you to turn this thing around starting today. The first step is to become aware of your actions and to be honest with yourself as to why you are engaging in them. If you do not start here nothing will change consistently. You must then focus on your strengths and blessings and accept that you will never be perfect. Knocking and begrudging others is a No No! Just use that energy to pursue your own goals and dreams. Now this one last thing is a must, if you are to truly walk boldly in your own purpose you have to Learn and continue to love yourself