You Are Not Lazy – You just don’t have the system to get the things done

Achieving financial freedom isn’t about being special, talented, or highly intelligent—it’s about creating a system to overcome procrastination.

The Root of Procrastination

The main reason for procrastination is EXPERIENTIAL AVOIDANCE; we avoid things in a short term that actually causes us harm in the long term. Procrastination can sometimes feel harmless. It often leads to increased stress, missed opportunities, and a sense of regret.

For example, delaying work on a project can result in rushed efforts at the last minute, compromising quality and outcomes.

Similarly, postponing small chores can accumulate, creating overwhelming backlogs.

PROCRASTINATION often stems from factors such as fear of failure, perfectionism, lack of motivation, or poor time management skills. We need to create a system to constantly beat the procrastination.

Today I am sharing three steps to get over come Procrastination and get the things done no matter what, lets dive.

Step One – Identify The Cause or Understand The Root – Here is an example of extreme procrastination. I always dreamed of writing and creating videos. I made countless plans, but procrastination crept in—'I’ll start tomorrow,' I told myself, over and over.

Days turned into weeks, weeks into years, and before I knew it, I was stuck in a 9-to-9 job. I used to make videos but never published them, always thinking, 'What will people think? What if they judge me?'

One day, as I sat sipping tea, it hit me—I had been saying I’d upload videos for three years and start writing online, yet I hadn’t posted a single thing.

I realized I was avoiding it out of fear—not just of strangers’ opinions but also the judgment of my family and friends.

It wasn’t the work that held me back; it was the fear of judgment that kept me frozen. That moment of clarity was the turning point I needed to move forward.

When you don’t procrastinate, here’s what happens: you may face discomfort today, but things actually get better as you keep going.

YOU EARN:

  1. Respect for yourself
  2. Increased confidence in yourself
  3. Trust in your own abilities

You start trusting yourself even when things are uncomfortable, and even when you don’t feel like doing something, you still show up for yourself. This builds self-reliance.

The last piece is the concept of the Upside Compound.

In the book The Comfort Crisis by Michael Easter, there’s an interesting idea called

Comfort Creep – The more you do things that are comfortable, the more you’ll want to stay in your comfort zone.

In contrast, the more you take on things that are uncomfortable, the more you build the habit of facing challenges head-on.

Essentially, we can create momentum in either direction:

  • We can keep choosing comfort, doing what feels good today but making the future harder.
  • Or, we can willingly embrace discomfort today, making the present harder but creating an easier and better tomorrow.

 

Humans are naturally wired to adapt;

we quickly get used to new situations. The more we lean into fear, the faster we become accustomed to it. All humans are built and wired this way.

Procrastination is not the problem rather it’s the solution we are using to solve the problem,

Embracing discomfort leads to short-term pain but ultimately results in long-term success.

Another fact about procrastination is

Step Two – Identifying the emotion that fuel the procrastination –

The second step is to identify procrastination and understand how to overcome it. I focus on understanding why I procrastinate and what steps I can take to address it effectively.

My aim is to explain this process in detail now.

Every time I find myself procrastinating, it usually stems from one of these three "three-headed monsters.

1-     Anxiety – I often say I’m the "queen of procrastination" because when I put off something, it’s usually due to anxiety. Procrastinating helps me avoid the stress or discomfort that the task is causing. If I’m avoiding something, it’s likely because it makes me feel uneasy.

 

The first question I asked myself to overcome with the anxiety is, If I do this today, will it make my life better or worse tomorrow?" This question helps me a lot. It reminds me that the things I don’t feel like doing today are often the ones that set me up for success tomorrow.

The second question I ask myself is, "What skill will I gain if I do this?" This is a powerful question, especially when I’m writing.

I often realize there are many writing skills I lack but can develop if I push past my fear and take action, and Most of the time, it’s easier to overcome a fear when you have something worthwhile to achieve on the other side

The third question I asked myself is – If I avoid things today, does it make my life Expand or Contract Tomorrow?

When avoidance and procrastination take over, and anxiety sets in, life becomes smaller.

These habits limit your choices because the more you avoid uncomfortable feelings like anxiety, the fewer opportunities and experiences you allow yourself to embrace.

I ask myself, "Will my life get bigger or smaller if I do this?" I want to live a big life, and that means embracing discomfort today for a better tomorrow.

Asking these questions helps me stay focused on my goals and push through challenges.

Remember this, “ACTION ALLIEVIATES ANXIETY” more thinking isn’t it going to solve your thinking problems, but we can behave differently.

Anxiety isn’t necessarily a bad thing; it’s a natural part of our emotions. Often, we avoid doing things simply to avoid feeling anxious.

In fact, we all experience a baseline level of anxiety daily because our brains are constantly on alert, monitoring situations and deciding what to avoid. Let’s say this daily anxiety hovers around 40%. However, if we confront the things we’re avoiding, that anxiety can reduce significantly—potentially even to zero,

Either way, we’re going to feel anxious—whether it’s from avoiding things or confronting them. The key question is: which kind of anxiety will serve you better?

Avoiding things might feel easier, but it often leads to poorer outcomes. Confronting things, on the other hand, is the only option that makes your life more productive and improves your future.

 

2 – Rebellion –

The second head of the procrastination monster is rebellion—this happens when we procrastinate simply because we didn’t decide on something ourselves.

Often, we resist taking action because the idea or task came from someone else.

Key Question to Overcome Rebellion

"Does procrastinating over someone else’s idea get me closer to or farther from my goal?"

There are times when people share their opinions about what they think I should do for my business or life.

This unsolicited advice often triggers defensiveness in me. That’s when I recognize rebellion creeping in—I resist the idea simply because someone else suggested it, not because it’s a bad idea. It’s the feeling of, "I don’t want to do this just because they told me to.

At that moment, I ask myself the same question: “Will my life get bigger or smaller if I do this?” If it’s taking me closer to my goal, I set my ego aside and focus on what truly matters.

I do it anyway—even if I don’t like the person who gave the idea or the way they said it.

If it moves me closer to my goals, “I don’t care.” This mindset is incredibly empowering because it allows us to view every situation as a learning opportunity.

Growth doesn’t have to come only from people we like, love, or admire. When we embrace this perspective, we open ourselves up to learning from anyone, and that accelerates our progress.

 

3 – Boredom – the third headed- monster  

Boredom often creeps in when the task at hand lacks novelty, excitement, or an immediate sense of reward. We procrastinate because the monotony makes it hard to stay motivated.

Sometimes, what we need most is discipline—and yes, discipline can feel boring. Delaying gratification is boring. But here's the twist: boredom is also the birthplace of success.

Let’s break it down with examples. Reading a book every day might feel monotonous. Exercising and waking up early can seem like a chore.

Yet, these "boring" activities are the building blocks that bring us closer to our goals. Success isn’t born out of fleeting excitement but out of consistent, often dull, efforts that compound over time.

When something is boring for me I ask myself this question- is this thing beneficial for me to work on it in both the short term and the long term?

When faced with a decision, ask yourself: Will this benefit me in ten days, or ten years?

Often, we seek immediate rewards, making choices that serve us in the short term but overlook the long-term impact.

But what if we flipped that thinking? What if we asked, "How will my life look in ten years if I work on this skill daily, even if it feels boring?"

Take Michael Jordan, for example. Imagine if he had said, "Bouncing a ball every day is boring—can’t we try something else?" The answer would be a resounding "NO." His excellence wasn’t built on excitement but on mastering the fundamentals—doing the “boring” things consistently.

Excellence comes from doing the boring things every day.

We don’t give the opportunity to ourself to ever become excellent if we constantly procrastinate because it’s too boring.

 

The work that feels really exciting in the moment is often not the work that will get us to our goals in ten years.

It’s actually the work that doesn’t feel great—work that feels boring or mundane—that truly unlocks progress.

What we need to do is align our actions with our goals, not with our fleeting feelings or what we want to do in the moment. Instead, we should focus on the person we want to become in the future and let that vision guide our choices today.

So to become the successful, we need to match the action to our goals, we don’t match our actions with our feelings.

Goals aren’t built on a life of comfort; they help us become a person of character who can withstand any discomfort that comes our way, whether it’s anxiety, boredom, or rebellion.

Here is the frame sheet – instead of trying to feel good, try to get good at feeling bad. To become unstoppable move forward and follow your plan regardless of how you feel.

Now we have identify the three headed monsters which fuel procrastination and how to come back them and we ready to take action but at this point there is a trap that lots of people fall into.

So let’s pay attention to the next part, this is what change everything, last of the framework is

Step 3 – productive failure

We don’t procrastinate by doing nothing; we still do something, but it’s not the thing we should be doing.

The worst kind of procrastination is being 'Always Busy.' We stay busy doing everything except the one thing we’re procrastinating on.

Productive procrastination keeps us stuck in safe activities—basically, any activity we do that doesn’t cause discomfort, that doesn’t stress us out, but makes us feel productive.

We keep doing more things, and it looks like we’re really busy. These activities provide very low returns because they’re not effective. The things that are more effective are often the ones we procrastinate on, as they require emotional effort to perform.

Here’s is how productive procrastination looks like,

We never try doing anything, and because of that, we never take risks or face the three feelings I just mentioned, Because we never take risks, we never fail. And since we never fail, we never have to face the disappointment or consequences of what it means to be a failure.

As a result, we stay stuck in a cycle of productive procrastination—moving every day, all day, doing all the things, but not moving the ball forward

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Now here is the solution Productive Failure

Productive failure is going to give us the hard stuff. We’re going to take risks—bigger risks than we have before. We are going to try, and that’s it.

We’re not going to say, 'Oh, we’re going to nail it.' Instead, we’re just going to try. The first step is to try.

When we try, we risk failing. We invite the risk of failure, and because we risk failure, there’s a 50/50 chance—either we succeed or we fail. Either outcome will happen because we took the risk.

The next step is TWEAK – we get to learn. We learn more by trying, Most people stay stuck in productive procrastination and don’t realize that they will learn so much more by trying—even if they fail.

The cycle we create here is that we try, we risk failure, and whether we win or fail, we’re going to learn either way. We learn whether it works or doesn’t, and then we try again with more skills that we did for the first time,

The more effective people are not the productive procrastinators, nor do they constantly show a 'busy, busy, busy' mindset. They are productive failures. They’re okay with the fact that they attempt things, and they don’t fall into the feelings of 'not feeling like doing it.

Failure is normal, and we actually learn more from failing than we do from winning. When we fail, we try to figure out the reason for the failure—what went wrong, where we went wrong, where we need to improve, and what skills we’re missing.

We also ask ourselves, 'What skills are required to succeed next time? What could I do differently

And we work on this to get better and move forward. This is really tough if we associate failure with who we are, but failure has nothing to do with our identity or self-worth.

Failure is an out side event that is occurring, we can experience failure without being a failure.

It’s normal to have thoughts like 'I am a failure,' but the key is not to believe them. We think it's true, and that fear holds us back. If we see it for what it really is—a fact—then when we fail, we simply recognize that we need to gain more skills.

I don’t view it as a failure; I view it as an opportunity to grow. That’s it.       

The more we fail, the more we learn and the better we get. We cannot unlearn things from failure; we only learn from it. This is how the brain works.

No body and nothing can take the fact that we can’t build skills, they can call us failure, they can make fun of us. We can be judge by people but we can still get better.

 

"What we need to do is take 'Imperfect Action' every day. Repetition improves competence, and competence improves confidence. But we don’t get there if we don’t repeat 'Imperfect Actions' daily.

top trying to be perfect; instead, focus on taking imperfect action. This is a great reframe—asking yourself, 'How could I do this imperfectly?

"Let’s say you're not ready for a presentation and feel worried and anxious. The first step is to do it imperfectly. Don’t aim for perfection—just show up. If you're not feeling productive, you're also not learning. And if you're not learning, you're not growing. The key to success is not avoiding failure, but your ability to take advantage of the situation when you inevitably fail.

In every challenge there is an opportunity. There is opportunity to improve, ask yourself this when you are failing or when you have failed.

What’s good about this situation? What’s good about the fact that I just failed? If we become less fearful of the judgments of others, we realize that by overcoming this situation, we can gain more skills.

By facing the discomfort and leaning into it, instead of procrastinating, we can do much better.

The action Steps

1        -  what are we avoiding right now?

2        - Write it down

3        – What feeling we scared of

4        – what would we do.

 

 

 

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