"Are You Still Experiencing Success or Are You Already Truly Happy?"

I grew up in the old paradigm of business.

We had an innate understanding that success could only be achieved when a fixed goal was accomplished.

To get there, the only way was to be hyper-focused on the objective.

For me, this translated into 15 hour workdays and neglecting any life outside my professional occupation.

I was proud of this eternal tiredness and such a tremendous workload.

Each year I longed for these 2 weeks of summer vacation just to work half of the time while being in magical places.

And yes, this life represented success in the eyes of others. But for me, it didn't create the inner fulfillment and Happiness I was looking for.

You know the kind of Happiness: the one that sets us up for a conscious path, driven by intention to enjoy and embrace the journey as much as we enjoy the accomplishments.

For us entrepreneurial leaders setting ambitious goals, most of the times overshadows the journey towards their achievement.

How many leaders do you know (maybe even yourself) who suffer deeply and in total silence from the stress, the uncertainty and occupational loneliness that these leadership roles entail.

When I was a young entrepreneur, 25 years ago, I had the opportunity to meet one of my entrepreneurial role models at the time. During our conversations he explained how successful he was and stated: “It took me 4 divorces to get to where I am, but man am I successful!”

Even then I asked myself: is this really the success I strive for?

Is the aim really to achieve our goals through a suffering process or might there be even a way to enjoy the ride?

The real challenge is to overcome the need for external-only success that society expects from us, simply because we are too lazy or even to afraid to ask the question: What makes us happy?

Rarely do we express our need for happiness which far too often is cast into the darkness of self-doubt, fear and frustration.

One way out of the struggle between external and internal success is through combining an intention with a clear objective.

Continuously setting intentions, based on who we are now and who we want to be during the process, is the key to living a fulfilled life aligning all aspects of our existence.

You might say now: “The way to hell is paved with good intentions, Marco.”

And I totally agree with you but only when we use intentions as a pretext to not getting into action for ourselves.

The trick lies in what kind of intentions I am setting for myself.

There are two kinds of intentions: “do” intentions and ”be” intentions.

A “do” intention is for example:

“This year I will only smoke half a pack of cigarettes per day”

or “In my meetings I want all my colleagues to share their work openly.”

The challenge with these intentions is that we are referring to something we want to achieve and is actually not very different from a goal and not surprisingly it generally does not work.

A “be” intention always links a state of mind or an emotion to your intention, like:

“I want to be curious, professional and compassionate”

or “I will hold me to my highest standards of integrity.”

Combining your goals with “be” intentions allows you to pave your way to happiness and success:

"I am committed to upholding the highest standards of integrity and aim to lead my company to unparalleled success in our industry!"

or

"To build the most inspired and innovative team, we embody curiosity, professionalism, and compassion!"

Inner Happiness can only manifest itself when an intention is linked to a goal that you believe in (or just a notch beyond :-) ).

I invite you to Be intentional and achieve your objectives with grace.

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Marco Houwen | linktr.ee/marcohouwen