YOUR PSYCHOLOGIST SHOULDN'T BE THE MAN TO BREAK YOUR HEART
When you are young you fall in love, sometimes once. And sometimes more. You get your heart broken. It's a rare person who goes through life without at least getting their heart broken once. I was this person who never got my heart broken until I was in my forties. And I was this person who got my heart broken by two psychologists, professional doctors who were supposed to help and protect me, who swore on the Hippocratic oath "Do No Harm"
And what makes this rare is one of the psychologists was seeing the other psychologist as his patient! And seeing both of us for couples therapy! It was love at first sight for Dr. Richard Geist. Like a thunder bolt of lightning. I was hooked on "hello" Never in my life had I ever felt this way about another human being. He was charming, warm, intelligent and handsome. He made himself available to me 24/7. We went to the park in his neighborhood and laid on the grass together. We climbed on his daughter's playground equipment. I sat in his lap, on the floor. I took all my clothes off and stripped naked for him, offering him my body.
Then the second psychologist to break my heart was Dr. James Barbaria, in which I had a full-blown sexual relationship with for two years and did couples therapy with Dr. Geist with. It was not love at first sight with Jim. He was extremely handsome and intelligent. But he was also neurotic. But the more I got to know him the more he seemed like my twin flame. I was planning on leaving my husband and son to move in with him in his condo. It was only 10 minutes from my house. But it turned into a very abusive relationship, both emotionally and physical.
What I am trying to convey here is I should NOT have gotten my heart broken, not once but TWICE in therapy. It should have happened outside, in the real world. I shouldn't have had personal relationships with both my psychologists. This has severely stunted my growth. I have written many books and have put up many YouTube videos about it. Therapy is a Professional Relationship, NOT a personal one, and for good reason! This protects the patient, who is in a vulnerable state.