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𝐖𝐡𝐲 𝐒𝐨𝐦𝐞 𝐃𝐚𝐝𝐬 𝐁𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐞𝐯𝐞 𝐢𝐧 𝐓𝐡𝐞𝐢𝐫 𝐏𝐚𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐒𝐤𝐢𝐥𝐥𝐬—𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐎𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐬 𝐃𝐨𝐧'𝐭 “Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t—you’re right.” —Henry Ford ➡️ Our society has a distorted view of parenting, assuming that having children means we automatically know what to do. Many fathers who think they have everything under control may be far from the truth. In contrast, those who are reflective and willing to assess their strengths and weaknesses are less likely to let small problems escalate. ➡️ Factors that outline why some fathers believe in their parenting abilities while others do not: 𝐍𝐞𝐮𝐫𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐜𝐢𝐬𝐦 is a personality trait that involves stress, moodiness, and emotional instability. Fathers with high neuroticism often worry a lot. They can get upset or frustrated easily and find it hard to feel normal again. 𝐀𝐠𝐫𝐞𝐞𝐚𝐛𝐥𝐞𝐧𝐞𝐬𝐬 is a personality trait that describes someone as trusting, kind, affectionate, and socially apt. Fathers high in agreeableness are interested in other people, empathic, and help others often 𝐀𝐭𝐭𝐚𝐜𝐡𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭 theory explains that our connections with others start in early childhood. How we bond with our caregivers affects how we relate to people throughout our lives. For instance, if a father had safe and stable relationships with his caregivers as a baby, he is more likely to build safe and stable relationships with others later in life. 𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐂𝐚𝐧 𝐅𝐚𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐬 𝐃𝐨 𝐖𝐡𝐨 𝐃𝐨𝐧’𝐭 𝐁𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐞𝐯𝐞 𝐢𝐧 𝐓𝐡𝐞𝐦𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐯𝐞𝐬? ➡️ Fathers who worry about their importance or feel overshadowed by mothers can still be excellent parents. Remember, you are not doomed to feel inadequate. The belief that one gender is a better caregiver is misguided. Being a man doesn't mean you can't express emotions, nurture, and show love. ➡️ Second, know your worth. ➡️ A father’s strength can be powerful ➡️A dad’s words can be fueling and inspirational ➡️Hugs from a dad can be deeply comforting ➡️A dad’s smile can instill joy and confidence ➡️Time with a dad can be fun and productive ➡️A dad’s physicality can be challenging ➡️A dad’s guidance can be life-changing and foundational ➡️A father’s correction can be life-saving and life-giving ➡️Adventures with a dad can be exciting and memorable Fathers have a tremendous influence on their children’s lives. Men believe in yourselves! You are uniquely fit to raise your kids at this moment in history. 📞 Contact us at www.metanoiacounselling.ca for support!

𝐀𝐮𝐭𝐢𝐬𝐦 𝐂𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐢𝐧 𝐅𝐫𝐚𝐬𝐞𝐫 𝐕𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐞𝐲 🔔 At Metanoia Counselling, we celebrate the diversity of the human mind. We offer specialized counselling for neurodivergent individuals, including children and teenagers affected by Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD). ❕ 𝐀𝐬 𝐚𝐧 𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐝 𝐬𝐞𝐫𝐯𝐢𝐜𝐞 𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐯𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐫 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐀𝐮𝐭𝐢𝐬𝐦 𝐅𝐮𝐧𝐝𝐢𝐧𝐠, we can also direct bill. Feel free to reach out with any questions or for direct billing inquiries. ➡️ At Metanoia Counselling, we offer specialized services for neurodivergent individuals through a compassionate team of counsellors. ➡️We use a strength-based approach to identify and cultivate inherent strengths while addressing the challenges of autism. ➡️By utilizing Behavioral Consultation and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), we aim to enhance resilience, self-esteem, and personal growth. ➡️We provide: ➡️CBT for Autism ➡️Play Therapy for Autism ➡️Somatic Therapy for Autism ➡️Behaviour Interventions for Autism 𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐉𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐧𝐞𝐲 𝐒𝐭𝐚𝐫𝐭𝐬 𝐇𝐞𝐫𝐞 ➡️You don't have to travel alone on the autism journey. With understanding, patience, and guidance, individuals with autism and their families can lead fulfilling lives and turn challenges into strengths. ➡️Autism is part of your child, but it doesn't define them. They are a unique individual with strengths and potential for greatness. ➡️Our specialized autism counselling services empower individuals to embrace their neurodivergence and lead fulfilling lives. Welcome to Metanoia Counselling. ➡️Please visit our website for more information: www.metanoiacounselling.ca

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𝐇𝐨𝐰 𝐝𝐨𝐞𝐬 “𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐟𝐚𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐰𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐝” 𝐢𝐦𝐩𝐚𝐜𝐭 𝐚𝐝𝐮𝐥𝐭 𝐰𝐞𝐥𝐥-𝐛𝐞𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐫𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩𝐬? �𝐋𝐨𝐰 𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟-𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐞𝐦 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐥𝐨𝐰 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐟𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞: Children are naturally self-centred and often blame themselves for negative experiences, especially when these are not well explained. Your inner critic might tell you that you don't deserve good things, particularly if you've faced challenges like a parent leaving. This may lead to feeling different from peers who have two parents. �𝐀𝐧𝐱𝐢𝐞𝐭𝐲 can arise from different life experiences. For example, having an emotionally absent father may lead to feelings of inadequacy. This can result in hidden emotions like loss, anger, and sadness, which anxiety attempts to manage. �𝐋𝐨𝐰 𝐦𝐨𝐨𝐝/ 𝐝𝐞𝐩𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐨𝐧Ongoing anxiety can lead to low mood or depression. You may also feel depressed due to internalized anger towards your father’s absence. �𝐀𝐧𝐠𝐞𝐫 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐑𝐚𝐠𝐞: If you had a difficult experience with your father, such as substance abuse or dishonesty, it may have left you feeling hurt and stuck in anger. This anger can manifest in various ways, like road rage when you can't express it directly, and often surfaces during conflicts in your relationships. �𝐓𝐨𝐨 𝐫𝐢𝐠𝐢𝐝 𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐬 If your father has been unreliable or absent, you might keep others, especially romantic partners, at a distance to protect yourself. The pain of being let down as a child can feel worse than the loneliness that comes from maintaining rigid boundaries �𝐓𝐨𝐨 𝐋𝐨𝐨𝐬𝐞 𝐁𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐝𝐚𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐬:You may feel obligated to always be available to others, fearing that saying “no” could jeopardize their love for you �𝐅𝐨𝐫𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐫𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩𝐬 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐞𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐮𝐧𝐚𝐯𝐚𝐢𝐥𝐚𝐛𝐥𝐞 𝐩𝐚𝐫𝐭𝐧𝐞𝐫𝐬 can often reflect our childhood experiences. Unconsciously, we may seek to heal early emotional wounds by choosing partners who evoke familiar feelings. While this familiarity can feel comforting, a relationship with someone consistent and reliable may feel emotionally threatening, as it challenges our usual dynamics. �𝐏𝐚𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠: 𝐫𝐞𝐩𝐞𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐩𝐚𝐭𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐧 𝐨𝐟 𝐞𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐚𝐛𝐬𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐩𝐚𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐬. Parenting is challenging, and new parents often confront emotions tied to their own experiences of being parented or lacking guidance. This can create distance from their child and make it difficult to see themselves as capable parents. 𝐍𝐞𝐱𝐭 𝐒𝐭𝐞𝐩𝐬 If you’re wondering what to do about your feelings, the first step is to acknowledge them. Talking to someone you trust about your father's wound can be helpful. 📞 Therapy can aid in healing these emotional wounds. If you're seeking support, contact us at 𝐌𝐞𝐭𝐚𝐧𝐨𝐢𝐚 𝐂𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 for a free 15-minute consultation session. www.metanoiacounselling.ca

𝐅𝐞𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐬𝐨𝐫𝐫𝐲 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟? 𝐇𝐞𝐫𝐞’𝐬 𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐭𝐨𝐩 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟-𝐩𝐢𝐭𝐲 𝐩𝐚𝐫𝐭𝐲 ➡️ We all have days when nothing goes our way. Perhaps you spilled your coffee in the morning, found out you were passed over for a promotion at work, and then got caught in a downpour on your way home. In such moments, it's normal to feel sorry for yourself. ➡️ If you constantly believe that the universe is against you, you may fall into self-pity, making it harder to find solutions and move forward. This mindset can leave you feeling stuck, harm your self-esteem, and damage your relationships. 𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐜𝐚𝐮𝐬𝐞𝐬 𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟-𝐩𝐢𝐭𝐲? 𝟓 𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐦𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥 𝐬𝐨𝐫𝐫𝐲 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟 1. Unexpected challenges:** Life can be unpredictable, often leaving us overwhelmed. 2. Failures or setbacks:** Failure can discourage us and lead to dwelling on difficulties. 3. Low self-esteem:** A lack of self-belief can cause us to focus on our flaws. 4. Past traumas:** Unresolved hurts make coping with new challenges harder. 5. Unresolved emotional issues:** Ongoing issues like anxiety can obstruct our ability to see the positive. 𝐇𝐨𝐰 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐭𝐨𝐩 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐬𝐨𝐫𝐫𝐲 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟 ➡️ Work toward accepting your feelings ➡️ Give yourself a gentle push ➡️ Do something about it (even something small) ➡️ Shift your self-talk to improve your mood ➡️ Find something that gives you purpose and perspective ➡️ Practice mindfulness meditation to deal with negative thoughts ➡️ Limit social media if self-comparison makes you feel less than ➡️ Replace pity with gratitude 📱 If you are interested in more support, please visit our website: www.metanoiacounselling.ca

Energy flows where attention goes; focus on what fuels your soul, not what drains it. Protecting your energy and prioritizing self-care are so important in today’s busy world. It’s easy to feel like you have to do it all—say yes to every request, meet every expectation, and push yourself to the limit. But here’s the truth: your energy isn’t unlimited. You have to guard it by setting boundaries and being okay with saying no when something doesn’t feel right for you. Self-care doesn’t have to mean fancy spa days or long vacations; it’s often in the little things, like taking a few minutes to breathe, going for a walk, or spending time with people who make you feel good about yourself. It’s also about recognizing what drains you—whether it’s toxic relationships, overworking, or neglecting your own needs—and making changes to protect your peace. Remember, taking care of yourself isn’t selfish. When you prioritize your well-being, you’re not just helping yourself—you’re putting yourself in a better position to be there for others and to live a life that feels fulfilling and balanced. Self-care is an act of love for yourself, and you deserve it. 📷 winner-spirit #whatinspiresme

𝐃𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐥𝐨𝐩𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐇𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐭𝐡𝐲 𝐂𝐨𝐩𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐌𝐞𝐜𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐢𝐬𝐦𝐬 ➡️The goal for many is to lead a happy, healthy lifestyle. While achieving this may not shield you from stress, loss, or difficulties, learning to cope with these challenges can empower you to increase your moments of joy and nurture your mental and physical well-being. ➡️Here is a list of healthy coping strategies that promote a balanced lifestyle. For more support, please visit us at 📱 www.metanoiacounselling.ca

𝐃𝐨 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐨𝐫 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐜𝐡𝐢𝐥𝐝/ 𝐟𝐚𝐦𝐢𝐥𝐲 𝐦𝐞𝐦𝐛𝐞𝐫 𝐢𝐬 𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐮𝐠𝐠𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐀𝐃𝐇𝐃? Symptoms of attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, including inattention, impulsivity, disorganization, restlessness, overactivity, lack of focus, and difficulty with behavioural control, often emerge early in life—typically before age 12—and evolve over time. 𝐈𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮'𝐫𝐞 𝐨𝐥𝐝𝐞𝐫 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐧 𝟏𝟖 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐞𝐱𝐩𝐞𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐬𝐞 𝐬𝐲𝐦𝐩𝐭𝐨𝐦𝐬, 𝐲𝐨𝐮'𝐫𝐞 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐚𝐥𝐨𝐧𝐞. 𝐀𝐃𝐇𝐃 𝐢𝐬 𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐦𝐨𝐬𝐭 𝐩𝐫𝐞𝐯𝐚𝐥𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐜𝐡𝐢𝐥𝐝𝐡𝐨𝐨𝐝 𝐝𝐢𝐬𝐨𝐫𝐝𝐞𝐫𝐬, 𝐰𝐡𝐢𝐜𝐡 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐮𝐞𝐬 𝐛𝐞𝐲𝐨𝐧𝐝 𝐚𝐝𝐨𝐥𝐞𝐬𝐜𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐦𝐚𝐧𝐲 𝐚𝐝𝐮𝐥𝐭𝐬. 𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐢𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐧𝐝𝐚𝐫𝐝 𝐝𝐞𝐟𝐢𝐧𝐢𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐨𝐟 𝐀𝐃𝐇𝐃? The standard definition(s) of ADHD are typically in the realm of the cognitive and the behavioral. Symptoms include the following: 𝐈𝐧𝐚𝐭𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐒𝐮𝐛-𝐭𝐲𝐩𝐞 ➡️Makes careless mistakes/lacks attention to detail ➡️Difficulty sustaining attention ➡️ Does not seem to listen when spoken to directly ➡️ Fails to follow through on tasks and instructions ➡️Exhibits poor organization ➡️Avoids/dislikes tasks requiring sustained mental effort ➡️Loses things necessary for tasks/activities ➡️Easily distracted (including unrelated thoughts) ➡️Is forgetful in daily activities 𝐇𝐲𝐩𝐞𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐯𝐞/𝐈𝐦𝐩𝐮𝐥𝐬𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐒𝐮𝐛-𝐭𝐲𝐩𝐞 ➡️Fidgets with or taps hands or feet, squirms in seat ➡️Leaves seat in situations when remaining seated is expected ➡️Experiences feelings of restlessness ➡️Has difficulty engaging in quiet, leisurely activities ➡️Is “on-the-go” or acts as if “driven by a motor” ➡️Talks excessively ➡️Blurts out answers ➡️Has difficulty waiting their turn ➡️Interrupts or intrudes on others 💡Here at Metanoia Counselling, we know that ADHD is a complex disorder that affects each adult uniquely. 💡If you’d like some guidance for yourself or for your child/ family member from a mental health professional to find the strategies and solutions that fit your life, our experienced team is ready to help. 💡We understand how to deal with ADHD in adults and have dedicated our time and training to providing comprehensive care for our clients. 𝐏𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐞 𝐠𝐨 𝐭𝐨 𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐰𝐞𝐛𝐬𝐢𝐭𝐞 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐢𝐧𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐦𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧: www.metanoiacounselling.ca

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𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐢𝐬 𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟-𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐩𝐚𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐨𝐧? ➡️Self-compassion simply involves doing a U-turn and giving yourself the same compassion you’d naturally show a friend when you’re struggling or feeling badly about yourself. ➡️It means being supportive when you’re facing a life challenge, feel inadequate, or make a mistake. ➡️Instead of just ignoring your pain with a “stiff upper lip” mentality or getting carried away by your negative thoughts and emotions, you stop to tell yourself “this is really difficult right now,” how can I comfort and care for myself in this moment? ➡️Instead of mercilessly judging and criticizing yourself for various inadequacies or shortcomings, self-compassion means you are kind and understanding when confronted with your failings – after all, who ever said you were supposed to be perfect? 📞 Please contact us at www.metanoiacounselling.ca for more support!