A 60 second video of our children over the years. We have always given them space to do a dangerous things carefully. Voice over by Jordan Peterson.
Unplug your children
Unplug your children.
I bought our son (5yr boy) a pair of Japanese sandals when I was in little Tokyo, LA this past weekend. He was genuinely happy to receive them. Then I recalled the last time I bought him something. It was about two months ago, I bought him a pair of in-line skates at the Goodwill. We rarely buy him anything he does not need. We don’t fill his life with unnecessary things. We rarely ever buy him toys. When we are in stores he very rarely ask us to buy him anything because he knows what the answer is going to be. The answer is always, “do you have any money to buy that?” I believe it is too easy these days to fill a child’s life with unnecessary toys. We believe it’s a distraction and prohibits an accelerated growth of creativity and self-awareness. For example, Our son is a great swimmer! When he turned five he was already diving into the deep end and swimming to the other end of the pool. When we go to the pool we have three things sunblock snacks and a towel. It seems every time we go to the pool parents comment on how great he swims and often ask “how old is he?” Meanwhile, Their children that are the same age as our son are not swimming yet and they have a bag full of toys that are distracting them from developing a relationship with the water. Here is where I say something that is probably going to upset a lot of parents. When we are driving, our children are not watching movies or playing games on their iPads. An exception for us is when we drove to Florida. There are lots of great learning applications that we will grant them access to if the trip is going to be over four hours long. For every day driving, they are free to sketch in their books or look out the window. Studying the world around them as we drive stimulates great conversation. It’s sometimes a challenge to explain this to the children when they see their friends climbing into a minivan and pushing play on the built-in TV screen in front of their faces. I believe it’s ridiculous. And I know some parents are going to say, “but the children get so bored and need some entertainment!” My reply, “Well just keep fostering your responsibility as your child’s entertainment manager for the rest of your life.” I believe that children are like seeds. They are like seeds because what they really need is water, nutrients, and sunshine delivered in a caring and loving way.
Respectfully,
K