Inclusive Minds UK reposted this
I recently had someone call out my ADHD in an email. It felt like a real punch in the face- like the world could just see how ‘not normal’ I am. I often see videos calling it a super power. Social media calls it a source of boundless creativity, hyperfocus, and out of the box thinking. And while there may be moments when those things shine through, the reality of living with ADHD often feels far from empowering. It’s missing deadlines even though you care deeply. It’s forgetting appointments, zoning out in conversations and trying to stop yourself from interrupting them with your own fit because you’re so excited to relate to their story that you just have to share it. It feels like your brain is moving in ten directions at once while you struggle to complete a simple task. It’s the shame of knowing exactly what you need to do but not being able to make yourself do it. It’s hearing ‘stop taking on so much’ when you’re already trying harder than anyone realises. For me personally, ADHD isn’t a quirky trait that makes me unique—it’s s real challenge that affects my relationship, work, and self esteem. The pressure to see it as a superpower can make it even harder. It invalidates the struggle, making me feel like a failure when I can’t turn my impulsivity into genius or my hyperactivity into productivity. ADHD doesn’t have to be a superpower to be valid as. You don’t have to turn your struggles into strengths to be worthy. It’s okay to seek support, use tools, take medication, and build systems that help you function. Managing ADHD isn’t about becoming superhuman, it’s about finding ways to work with your brain, not against it. It’s okay to acknowledge both the challenges and the strengths without pretending one cancels out the other. You’re doing the best you can, and that’s enough.