What do you do if your decision-making skills are lacking emotional intelligence?

Start by assessing your emotional intelligence (EI) level. Reflect on how you typically respond to emotions, both your own and others', in various situations. Consider taking an EI assessment or seeking feedback from trusted colleagues or mentors.

Decisions serve their purpose only when personal biases & preferences don't interfere. One has to keep the Objective in mind while making decisions. I personally ensure that I'm in-charge of my emotions and don't allow them to influence my decisions. I take support from my Teacher or colleagues, who can show me a better perspective when I'm stuck. This helps in identifying how my mind is being influenced by ego & images while arriving at a decision.

If your decision-making skills lack emotional intelligence, it's crucial to invest time in developing this aspect of your leadership abilities. Start by practicing self-awareness to understand your own emotions and how they influence your decisions. Additionally, work on empathy to better understand the perspectives and feelings of others involved in the decision-making process. Seek feedback from colleagues or mentors to gain insights into areas for improvement, and consider undergoing training or workshops focused on emotional intelligence and decision-making. By actively working on enhancing your emotional intelligence, you can make more informed and empathetic decisions that benefit both yourself and those around you.

Awareness is the first step. If you got as far as self reflecting on your EI skills I’d say thats a big step. Building a baseline is key. I would add that it also benefits from understanding empathy and connection as nervous system functions. When our ventral vagal - that is the social engagement pathways are lit up, it allows for organic flow of empathy. Ask yourself - do these scores vary across different areas of your life ?

If your decision-making lacks emotional intelligence, focus on learning and understanding your emotions. Reflect on how they influence your decisions, especially their impact on others. Consider engaging in educational resources like books or online courses to improve skills like empathy and self-awareness. Seeking feedback from peers or mentors can also provide valuable insights. When making decisions, think about the broader consequences for those involved, not just the immediate outcomes. Practice applying these principles regularly to integrate emotional intelligence naturally into your decision-making process.

In my experience working with hundreds of high achievers, one common thing that gets in the way of feeling and expressing a wide range of emotions is early childhood. Which emotions were allowed where you grew up ? Which emotions were not allowed ? Emotion wheels for example can be simple, free tools to use for this exercise. While anger tends to be commonly seen, many others, especially shame, may not have had a place at all. Reflecting on what was allowed helps you get to.a place where you give yourself permission to feel.

In order to consider someone else’s emotions we need to have/build the ability to put ourselves in someone else’s shoes. Very early on our brain and nervous system build this through attuned caregiving behaviors, this is what kick starts the mirror neurons. If this process was impacted in some way it creates issues with this process. Rewiring the social engagement part of the nervous system activates the circuitry in the brain that can understand how others feel and hence take that into account.

Emotional intelligence is a muscle that can be trained. To flex your EI in decision-making, ask yourself: What am I feeling right now, and could this influence how I perceive the situation? How would others likely feel about this decision? Could this decision impact anyone negatively? If so, how can I minimize that impact? Regularly reflecting on these questions helps you make more mindful, empathetic, and responsible choices.

An example I have seen working with many is inputting to your mind only positive information. This means read, listen, watch, even think only positive. Put an embargo on exposing yourself to all negative things thru negative media, friends, activities, etc, not even casual talks. The world has become too competitive & hence nagative. Consciously expose yourself to ONLY POSITIVE information.

When emotional intelligence is lacking in decision-making, seeking guidance from EI experts is vital. These specialists, such as coaches or psychologists, offer personalised assessments and strategies to enhance EI skills. Through sessions or workshops, individuals learn practical techniques for integrating EI principles into decisions. Experts provide insights and feedback, aiding in understanding emotions' impact, developing strategies and looking for guidance to show a proactive approach to addressing skill gaps and fostering growth.

I find often the first reaction should be met with that tactical pause. Often the person with the least amount of information is reacting to an impression rather than actual facts. Slowing down and using emotional intelligence principles such as active listening help you to formulate a response that isn’t tainted by negative emotions and often better received than that first gut reaction.

Para você tomar uma decisão com inteligência emocional é necessário pensar em algumas questões antes de decidir, tais como: - Avaliar o cenário e identificar a causa raiz do problema. - Analisar fatos e dados da situação. - Considerar a melhor alternativa para os negócios. - Solicitar a colaboração de pessoas chave no processo decisório. - Estabelecer os riscos e consequências da decisão. - Entender o impacto da decisão na vida das pessoas envolvidas. Assim, você terá maior probabilidade de tomar uma decisão assertiva, utilizando a inteligência emocional.