What do you do if your mentee is struggling with self-confidence?

If your mentee is struggling with self-confidence, focus on building a supportive and affirming environment. Acknowledge their strengths and achievements, and help them identify areas of improvement without dwelling on shortcomings. Encourage positive self-talk and celebrate small victories. Provide constructive feedback to boost their confidence gradually. Additionally, discuss goal-setting to create a sense of purpose and direction. Foster a safe space for open communication, where they can express their concerns and fears.

Encouraging positive self-talk is paramount. As the saying goes, "Talk positively to yourself." The dialogue we have with ourselves shapes our mindset and influences our perceptions of reality. By fostering a habit of positive self-talk, you create an environment of optimism and empowerment. Conversely, negative self-talk can perpetuate feelings of inadequacy and hinder progress. It's IMP for mentors to emphasize the importance of directing one's inner dialogue towards constructive and uplifting affirmations. Mentors can also emphasize the influence of positive thinking and tapping into the subconscious mind. By instilling these principles, mentors empower mentees to build confidence and resilience, fostering personal growth and success.

It's always advisable to challenge your low self-confidence by improving your self-efficacy. This is because by focusing on the tasks and activities you need to do and avoid any possible judgement, over time you can realize your fears and insecurities don't have a solid basis to exist, and only limit your development.

Leading by example is the cornerstone of effective mentoring. Your actions speak volumes louder than your words ever could. Share your journey as a powerful storytelling tool, detailing your beginnings, the struggles you faced, and the invaluable role mentors played in shaping your path. By showcasing your own experiences of growth, learning, and perseverance, you not only inspire your mentee but also demonstrate that obstacles can be overcome. Always conclude with a positive affirmation, reinforcing their potential to excel even further with the expertise and support network they have at their disposal.

As former leader in major corporations, I am using now science based tools in my mentoring practice. They work both for organisations with executive leaders, as well as with individuals. Some examples of science based tools (E.g based on Stanford University research) I am using to lift the morale and the confidence are: 1. positive visualisation 2. fear based visualisation 3. increase motivation based on cognitive focus 4. RIR - random intermittent reward

Self confidence is a personal choice & also a very important part of your own commitment to your own growth. I always say this to myself and my mentee .. “ it’s ok to be not ok” & by acknowledging this as a reality and accepting it you can choose to either stay with it or work towards making it better . As I said it’s a choice you have to make . I encourage my mentees to accept this reality & help them to learn to be honest about it & show the courage to choose to over come it as a part of life. Self confidence in its own says it all, in the way we read it SELF , so who can decide what must we do about SELF. I am a catalyst to guide you through your journey to shift these thoughts into actions that will help you take CONTROL of your SELF

Always remember the wisdom of Christopher Robin, who reminds us that we possess immense courage, strength, and intelligence, far beyond what we may perceive. This self-assurance is reinforced by Tim Gunn's insight, urging us to remain authentic in our pursuits and not be swayed by others' opinions. And in the words of Eleanor Roosevelt, we are empowered to recognize that our sense of worth is within our control; no one can diminish it without our consent. Together, these quotes inspire us to embrace our inner resilience, uphold our individuality, and assert our self-worth in the face of external pressures.

Acompaña a tu mentee o cliente a descubrir que NO necesita confiar en sí mism@ para empezar o lograr las cosas. Que puede tomar la confianza de otra persona, como por ejemplo la tuya (espero que confies en tu mentee más de lo que ell@ en sí). Y que la confianza es un resultado y no un requisito. La confianza aparecerá en el camino, o no, pero eso no impide lograr las cosas.