"Connection is the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgement, and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship" -- Brené
Brown
As an introvert, since early in my 20s pushed myself to be an extrovert 'enough' just to fit in, to be able to function and build networks (that I perceived was important -- and probably still is), I often deplete my energy and have had to often revisit what it means to "connect" -- and what is healthy relating?
This links to exploration on "Perfectionism", the question of "what does it take to fit in?"
🤔 does it cost you anything?
🤔 does it take you to where you want to be? (e.g. sense of belonging, fitting in?), or
🤔 does it actually give you a sense of feeling/perceived being excluded?
I invite us all to ponder upon this, is there any domain where you feel like you are a "perfectionist" and how has it impacted you?
And in turn, how it differs to "Authenticity" - can you see authenticity as a healthy form of perfectionism? If there is a resistance to saying 'yes', maybe there's a nugget of gold there, too :)
Further along, Brené Brown summarize the two as
"Authenticity is a requirement for belonging, and fitting in is a threat"
"Authenticity is a requirement for connection, and perfectionism (a type of fitting in) is a threat"
As a leader, leading authentically often invites others to be their authentic selves. I believe this is the seed of healthy relating, safe connections from which teams can derive sustenance and strength.
Leading authentically starts with more wholesome awareness of self, of the 'selves' within us all, even if they are not all perfect.
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