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✨ "Allowing passion to live in your life takes intention more than effort or time. It’s the conscious attention to the parts of us that are most important and most fulfilling—to who we are and what helped us fall in love." ✨ Passion doesn’t just disappear; it fades when we stop tending to it. The good news? It’s not about working harder or finding more time—it’s about **intention**.  When you focus on what lights you up as individuals and as a couple, you reignite the spark that brought you together in the first place. Passion thrives when we:  💡 Prioritize what fulfills us.  💡 Pay attention to what truly matters.  💡 Make space for the joy that connects us.  In *Fire It Up*, I guide you through the tools and practices that help you reconnect with what matters most—to yourself, your partner, and the passion in your relationship.  🔥 It’s time to stop letting passion fade and start bringing it back with intention.  ✨ Ready to reignite the fire in your relationship? Order *Fire It Up* today and start creating the connection you deserve.  #FireItUpBook #RelationshipGoals #IntentionalLove #ReigniteTheSpark #spark #connections #loveandbeloved #partner

🔥 Exciting News! 🔥 I had the incredible opportunity to appear on **King5’s New Day NW**, where I shared actionable ways to invest in your relationship and create deeper connection. It was such a joy to talk about the strategies I’ve developed over my 25+ years as a therapist and coach, many of which are featured in my new book, **Fire It Up: Four Secrets to Reigniting Intimacy and Joy in Your Relationship**. On the show, we explored simple, powerful tips for bringing back the spark and building a relationship that doesn’t just survive but thrives. If you’re ready to reignite intimacy and joy in your relationship, don’t miss this segment—or my book, now available wherever books are sold! ✨ Watch the segment here:  https://lnkd.in/esPMRZ5D ✨ Grab your copy of *Fire It Up*: https://lnkd.in/euJMVUpZ

The deep acceptance of each other as full and imperfect people is the foundation of a thriving relationship. 💕 When we stop trying to fix, perfect, or mold our partner into something they’re not, we create a space where both of us can feel truly safe and loved. It’s not about settling; it’s about embracing the beautifully messy, perfectly imperfect human being you’ve chosen to share your life with. This kind of acceptance doesn’t just happen—it’s a practice, a mindset, and sometimes, real work. But the reward? A connection that’s genuine, deep, and enduring. If this resonates with you, you’ll love the tools and strategies in *Fire It Up*. They’re designed to help you build a relationship where acceptance and love thrive—even in the face of life’s challenges. ✨ Grab your copy today, or join the **Fire It Up Marriage Accelerator** for hands-on guidance starting January 13. Your best relationship is waiting. 💡🔥 #FireItUpMarriage #RelationshipGoals #IntentionalLove #acceptance #thrivingrelationship #thriving #loved #loveandbeloved

📢 Exciting News! I’m thrilled to announce that my book, Fire It Up: Four Secrets to Reigniting Intimacy and Joy in Your Relationship, will soon be available in Spanish, published by Editorial Trillas! The Spanish edition, titled Enciende la Llama: Cuatro Secretos para Reavivar la Intimidad y la Alegría en Tu Relación, will bring the tools, insights, and strategies for building thriving relationships to an even wider audience. I’m so excited to share this work with Spanish-speaking readers around the world and to support even more couples in creating stronger, healthier, and more joyful connections. 💖 Stay tuned for more updates, and if you’d like to pre-order the English edition, it’s available now wherever books are sold. #FireItUp #EnciendeLaLlama #RelationshipGoals #ThrivingTogether #IntentionalLove #EditorialTrillas

''Fire it up is a beacon of hope for couples navigating the complexities of relationships... A must-read…’’ —Tony Rousmaniere, PsyD, president of the Psychotherapy Division of the American Psychological Association. And don't forget to pre-order **Fire It Up**, out January 7! #RelationshipGoals #Communication #LoveWins #DontSettle #FireItUp2025 #RelationshipGoals #IntentionalLove #ThrivingTogether #LoveInAction #MoreThanTheStatusQuo #RelationshipGoals #MakeItCount #ChooseLove #FightOrFlight #RelationshipTips #EmotionalSafety #AttachmentScience#HolidayHarmony #RelationshipGoals #HealthyRelationships #HolidayJoy

Praise for Fire It Up "This gem of a book is the perfect how-to guide for building relationships filled with love, mutual support, and, of course, fire!" — Travis Osborne, PhD, Clinical Director of the Evidence-Based Treatment Centers of Seattle Are you ready to transform your relationship and reignite the passion? Fire It Up is your step-by-step guide to creating a connection that’s thriving, joyful, and built to last.

🌍 Why I Wrote *Fire It Up 🌍 My hope, my dream, my *why* is simple: to build stronger relationships for a better world. Right now, I see more division than compassion, more assumptions than curiosity. These challenges—division and disconnection—are at the root of so many of the problems we face. But I believe change starts at home, in our relationships. When couples learn the small, simple ways to create healthier connections and more vitality in their relationship, the benefits ripple outward—to their families, communities, and beyond. It may be a wild dream, but that’s the inspiration behind *Fire It Up*: to help couples build relationships filled with love, curiosity, and connection so they can be part of a more compassionate, unified world. 💖 📚 Pre-order *Fire It Up: Four Secrets to Reigniting Intimacy and Joy in Your Relationship* today and join me in creating change, one relationship at a time. #FireItUp2025 #BetterRelationshipsBetterWorld #IntentionalLove #BuildingConnection #RelationshipGoals #LoveInAction #Don’tSettle #FireItUp2025 #RelationshipGoals #IntentionalLove #ThrivingTogether #LoveInAction #MoreThanTheStatusQuo #RelationshipGoals #MakeItCount #ChooseLove #FightOrFlight #RelationshipTips #EmotionalSafety #AttachmentScience #HolidayHarmony #RelationshipGoals #HealthyRelationships #HolidayJoy #FreeWorkshop #BrainHacksForLove #RelationshipGoals #NeuroscienceInLove #HealthyRelationships #FreeWebinar

Building a Healthy Relationship, One Day at a Time In my book *Fire It Up: Four Secrets to Reigniting Intimacy and Joy in Your Relationship*, I emphasize this truth: "It is not the quantity or scope of the actions; it is the quality of the actions, which are created by the intention to give care." Too often, we believe that grand gestures or monumental changes are what keep a relationship alive. But the truth is, thriving relationships are built on the small, intentional acts of care we show every single day. 

Honoring the Land and Its Peoples: A Reflection of Gratitude and Responsibility As we work to support healthier relationships through Secure Connections Retreats and Secure Connections Coaching, we are mindful of the land on which we live and operate—and the Indigenous peoples who have cared for these lands for generations. In Seattle, Washington, we acknowledge the unceded land of the Coast Salish Peoples, including the Duwamish Tribe and the Suquamish Tribe. Their stewardship of the land and waters since time immemorial deserves recognition and respect. In West Newbury, Massachusetts, we honor the Pawtucket and Pentucket peoples, part of the Algonquian-speaking Indigenous communities, whose resilience and contributions continue to shape this region’s history and legacy. This acknowledgment is a small step—a beginning—not an end. It reminds us of the privilege we hold and the historical and ongoing injustices faced by Indigenous peoples. As we reflect this Thanksgiving, we are committed to actions that support equity, justice, and inclusion. We also encourage everyone to join us in honoring the land and its peoples by contributing to initiatives like Real Rent Duwamish in Seattle or similar organizations supporting Indigenous communities. Together, we can create a kinder, more equitable world. Let’s reflect, learn, and act—not just today, but every day. #LandAcknowledgment #IndigenousPeoples #JusticeAndEquity #ThanksgivingReflection #CommunitySupport'

"The power of gratitude to breathe life into your relationship is profound." – *Fire It Up: Four Secrets to Reigniting Intimacy and Joy in Your Relationship* Gratitude isn’t just a feel-good idea—it’s a transformative practice. When we express appreciation in our relationships, we shift focus from what’s missing to what’s meaningful. This simple act creates deeper connection, trust, and joy. As we gather this Thanksgiving, let’s reflect on the gratitude we can share: 💖 With our *partner*—for their love, support, and the moments that make your bond special. 💖 With our *family*—for the history, connection, and lessons they bring into our lives. 💖 With our *community*—for the shared efforts and kindness that help us grow together. Gratitude is a gift that multiplies. Let’s use it to breathe life into our relationships and create deeper connections with those who matter most. 💡 *Fire It Up* launches January 7, 2025. Pre-order now to learn more tools for building intimacy, connection, and joy in your relationships. #Gratitude #ThanksgivingReflection #FireItUpBook #RelationshipGoals #HealthyRelationships #JoyfulLiving