From the course: Strengthening Your Inner IQ: Align Body and Mind for Optimal Results

Choosing your emotional state

From the course: Strengthening Your Inner IQ: Align Body and Mind for Optimal Results

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Choosing your emotional state

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- Imagine if as a leader, you could choose the emotional state that you embodied in almost any moment. How powerful would that be? I'm here to tell you it's absolutely possible. Now, what we're not talking about is the old fake it until you make it. What we're not talking about is denying what is authentically present for you. We're talking about welcoming whatever is there without judgment. If you're angry, experiencing that fully in your body. If you're anxious, experiencing it fully in your body. Allowing it to know how to flow and dissipate so you don't get stuck in it. But then, actually being able to choose your emotional state. And that choice is something that you can expand your capacity for. We've been talking about how important it is to be able to feel whatever emotions are there fully, so that they can begin to flow through our body to strengthen the capacity of our nervous system so that we can know resilience and shift from a stressed out, sympathetic nervous system to a peaceful nervous system. What's so very important with regards to this work though is that after we've breathed into those emotions that are there, after that density, that heaviness, that pain has begun to flow through our body and to leave, it's really critical that we don't think we're done at that point. We may feel a sense of relief. You feel better once everything starts to wake up and move in the body. But the kicker is the universe abhors a vacuum. Any place where something old has left, something will come to fill in. So if you do work and you move whatever old emotional state has been stuck there in you for a long time, you know what's going to come right back in? That same old pattern. So instead, what's critical is that we practice a new emotional pattern in that space that has been created. And when we do, we begin to know true emotional choice. (gentle music)

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