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BETTER ME SERIES 18 TRAUMA BONDING 🎈🎈🎈🎈🎈🎈🎈🎈🎈🎈🎈🎈🎈🎈🎈 Can I tell you this, a lot of you are bonding and internalizing people's trauma and making it your own. Imagine following 20 women who have been traumatized by men, all they discuss on their pages is the stories of heart break and marital crisis, they daily pour out their pains , woes and vexations. They embark on teachings to prevent you from being hurt while they are bleeding profusely and need therapy. You go on their page daily as a routine to feast, drink , and absolve from their well of trauma. They pour their fears and biases about men into you. You become traumatized, broken because you are trauma bonding with them. Their words , feelings doctrines, pains, tears permeate you. You are experiencing trauma bonding. Imagine trauma bonding with 20 women who are traumatized,that's too much to carry. There are lots of men trauma bonding with men who have experienced trauma from broken relationships,I see them ,young men propagating and projecting their fears and pains on other men under the guise of men stop being simps. Another high level of trauma bonding. Can I advise you to overhaul the people you follow on social media. Carry out an evaluation of 10 people you daily feed from their pages. Check out if they are feeding you with their traumas. Then be intentional and carry out a weeding operation for your sanity sake and look out for men and women you can glean,feast ,eat drink from their well of wellness and health. Come back to me in a month's time and testify how your life has changed,how your thoughts has changed,how your mindset has changed,how your feelings have changed. Stop trauma bonding. Save yourself now. #BetterMe2024 #bettermecoach

Trauma: It's Not Just What Happened, It's What Didn't We often think of trauma as a single, horrific event. But the truth is, trauma can be much more insidious. It can be the absence of what we needed most when we were vulnerable. Here's a different way to look at trauma: ☑ The care you never got: Maybe you craved emotional support but received criticism instead. ☑ The protection you weren't given: Perhaps you were exposed to situations that felt unsafe, and no one stepped in to help. ☑ The love that wasn't expressed: Basic needs for affection and validation might have gone unmet. These unmet needs can leave a lasting impact, shaping our beliefs about ourselves and the world. They can lead to emotional dysregulation, unhealthy coping mechanisms, and difficulty in relationships. But there is hope! By understanding how the absence of care can be traumatic, we can begin to heal. Ready to explore your own experiences and rewrite your story? I offer personalized 1:1 consultations to help you: ☑ Identify the unmet needs that may be impacting you. ☑ Develop healthy coping mechanisms. ☑ Build stronger, more fulfilling relationships. Don't let trauma hold you back any longer. Schedule your consultation today and take the first step towards healing. DM "heal" to book your free 1:1 consultation #Trauma #healing #lifecoach CTA: Schedule your consultation today

Trauma is a thief. It doesn’t just steal moments—it can steal years. Many trauma survivors find themselves "stuck" at the age when their pain happened, not just emotionally but in other areas too—like cognitively, socially, and behaviorally. Here’s what I mean: when trauma happens, especially in childhood, the brain goes into survival mode. And when you're focused on surviving, there’s no energy left for growing. So, instead of progressing, parts of you can get “frozen” at that age. Cognitive growth might stall, making it hard to process emotions or think through challenges the way you should be able to. Emotional regulation becomes a struggle—you might find yourself reacting to situations with fear, anger, or sadness that feel out of place but are rooted in old wounds. Social behaviors might also reflect the age when the trauma happened. For instance, you might find it hard to form healthy relationships or assert boundaries. For example, someone who endured abuse at the age of 10 might find themselves, years later, reacting to stress in a way that mirrors how a 10-year-old might cope—with avoidance, tantrums, or withdrawal. They might also struggle to say “no” to requests or demands that make them uncomfortable because, at the age of their trauma, they learned that their “no” was ignored or punished. As an adult, this can look like agreeing to things they resent or avoiding confrontation altogether, even at the expense of their own well-being. But here’s the thing: you don’t have to stay stuck. Healing is possible. Therapy, self-reflection, and intentional growth can help you reclaim those frozen parts of you. It’s like reparenting yourself—giving that younger version of you the love, validation, and safety they never got back then. If you feel “stuck,” just know this: you are not your trauma, and you can grow beyond it. Healing might take time, but step by step, you can reclaim those lost years and move forward. #TheTraumaHealer #FaithAkano #HealingJourney #TraumaRecovery #InnerChildHealing #MentalHealthAwareness #EmotionalHealing #BoundariesMatter #TraumaSurvivor #TherapyIsCool #ChildhoodTrauma #SelfGrowth #CognitiveHealing #BreakTheCycle

Trauma can 'freeze' our emotional responses at the age we experienced it. When we experience childhood trauma, we don't usually have the tools or the support to know how to handle that situation at that young age. We develop coping mechanisms in a bid to survive, and the trauma remains unresolved in our bodies. As adults, when our core wounds are triggered, and the unresolved trauma comes to the surface, we can sometimes respond in the way our 7 year old self would. For example, temper tantrums with excessive anger, uncontrollable crying, impulsive behaviours or burying your head in the sand and avoiding the situation. In that moment, you are physically an adult, but emotionally, you are responding as the traumatised child. At the time of the childhood trauma, it wasn’t safe for the body to process, so the trapped emotions unconsciously dictate your behaviours and relationships unknowingly into adult life. Our trauma responses as adults are acting out the emotional wounding that happened at that age back in childhood. Once we start to heal our trauma, we can understand our wounds, have deep self compassion for ourselves, and learn healthier coping mechanisms for whenever our triggers show up. Once we become aware of our traumas and our patterns, we have different choices in the future of how to respond, even though this can be really difficult at first. It's not always a straight-forward journey, but healing is absolutely possible. #trauma #traumahealing

BETTER ME SERIES 18 TRAUMA BONDING 🎈🎈🎈🎈🎈🎈🎈🎈🎈🎈🎈🎈🎈🎈🎈 Can I tell you this, a lot of you are bonding and internalizing people's trauma and making it your own. Imagine following 20 women who have been traumatized by men, all they discuss on their pages is the stories of heart break and marital crisis, they daily pour out their pains , woes and vexations. They embark on teachings to prevent you from being hurt while they are bleeding profusely and need therapy. You go on their page daily as a routine to feast, drink , and absolve from their well of trauma. They pour their fears and biases about men into you. You become traumatized, broken because you are trauma bonding with them. Their words , feelings doctrines, pains, tears permeate you. You are experiencing trauma bonding. Imagine trauma bonding with 20 women who are traumatized,that's too much to carry. There are lots of men trauma bonding with men who have experienced trauma from broken relationships,I see them ,young men propagating and projecting their fears and pains on other men under the guise of men stop being simps. Another high level of trauma bonding. Can I advise you to overhaul the people you follow on social media. Carry out an evaluation of 10 people you daily feed from their pages. Check out if they are feeding you with their traumas. Then be intentional and carry out a weeding operation for your sanity sake and look out for men and women you can glean,feast ,eat drink from their well of wellness and health. Come back to me in a month's time and testify how your life has changed,how your thoughts has changed,how your mindset has changed,how your feelings have changed. Stop trauma bonding. Save yourself now. #BetterMe2024 #bettermecoach

Trauma Bonds often go unspoken about all too often, but as a life coach who once thought she was recovered from the trauma I went through in my teenage years I had no idea that I was still carrying signs of a trauma bond until I eventually saw a therapist. So, you see this is why we need to not only be talking about trauma bonds, but how to overcome them as well, with healthier habits and healthier ways of talking to ourselves. Find out more about this in the article I have written linked below and please repost this to help raise awareness. #trauma #traumabonds #overcoming #findingstrength #lifecoach #mentalhealth

The more we work with people, the more we understand that weight loss is never about nutrition or exercise. It’s about personal problems (habits, mindsets, fears and beliefs) which may sometimes arise from trauma. Trauma can be caused by ‘big’ things and by things that seem small and insignificant. Trauma is not what happened to us. It’s how what happened to us affected us. It’s how we processed what happened to us. Trauma is an invisible force that shapes the way we live, the way we love, and the way we make sense of the world. Trauma impacts every aspect of our lives, including our weight. Read our blog to find out more. https://lnkd.in/g6J2Bu8q

Trauma doesn’t just affect individuals. It impacts families and communities as well. Use the knowledge provided in this course to “know” your strengths and weaknesses and find hope and acceptance for a better future. Healing comes from the inside out, not the outside in…This means you can’t just STOP being sad or angry. You can fake life, but we want you to LIVE life with daily contentment. Your circumstance or situation is not your identity. Reclaim and repair your sense of self with grounding exercises, dissociation skills, and affirmations. https://lnkd.in/gKQVFeXm

Do you find yourself trying to get a difficult person to be good to you? For many of us, especially those who've experienced childhood trauma, it’s all about getting that difficult person to finally be good to us. We often hold onto the hope that if we’re perfect, they will be, too. When we have childhood trauma, we crave perfection in how others treat us. We start to believe that if we’re just nice enough, or if we bend over backward to meet their needs, they’ll finally give us the love and respect we want. Or, we may end up struggling with serious imposter syndrome, thinking, “I’m not worthy of this person,” and so we keep trying to be ‘better’ just to win their approval. Does this sound familiar? People with childhood trauma often have trouble setting boundaries. We say yes to everything, never stand up for ourselves, and constantly fulfill others' demands, hoping it will make them treat us better. I’ve been there, too. Growing up with childhood trauma, this was one of my patterns. Even now, sometimes I catch myself doing it and think, “Why did I do that?” It's a behavior deeply rooted in my past. I used to say yes to things I didn’t want, just because I didn’t realize I could say no. If this resonates with you, know that you’re not alone. It's time to break free from these old patterns and start setting boundaries that protect your peace and well-being. I am currently accepting new clients for group coaching! If you’ve experienced childhood trauma, and you want to work on no longer trying to convince difficult people to be good to you, reach out to me. You can contact me through my website www.dimplebindra.com 🤗

Don't confide in the wrong people. Don't let yourself be hurt and disappointed again and again. Setting boundaries with those who have hurt us is part of healing relational trauma. One aspect of this is that we must stop expecting compassion from those who have repeatedly let us down. This is an important lesson to learn for our adult selves, as we heal. At the same time, we need to learn compassion for our "young selves." As children, our attachment instincts are so strong, we are literally programmed to expect support, comfort, and protection from our parents. If this is inconsistent, or predictably absent, we are left with an open wound. Living with unprocessed relational childhood trauma leaves us with an impossible dilemma: trying to resolve the trauma by getting the neglectful or dismissive parent to *finally* respond, just in the way we need. So we keep confiding our thoughts and feelings, hoping for a different outcome. This pattern often plays out in our friendships and relationships, too, and it can be excruciating. But it's not your fault. You aren't stupid for hoping for what should have been your birthright: a loving, supportive parent. Healing means putting words to your emotional experience of "what is," joining up the dots with "what happened," and expressing the feelings that reside deep within. It means developing self-compassion and learning how to protect your well-being. Often, it means realising the impact of generational trauma, and how it drives dysregulation in the nervous system. Healing means feeling safe in your body, comfortable in your own skin, and knowing how to regulate your feelings, so you can care better for yourself and, in time, discern who to confide in. And in time, you begin to recognise and treasure conversations that feel emotionally safe, so you can choose them intentionally. #emotionalhealth #traumatherapist