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If you know...you know! Hat tip to all of my fellow introvert / ambivert sisters and brothers. We find this time of the year to be particularly energy depleting. Don't misunderstand, we care deep, we love deep, we feel deep, we think deep. Which is why large social gatherings, "forced fun" environments, loud venues where we can't even hear, much less engage with anyone in a meaningful way, deplete us of energy. So please give us some grace and space when we depart without making the rounds. We do this because we are tired of having to answer the questions that mostly come from a well intentioned place and sound like: ❓Why are you leaving so early? ❓Are you not having fun? ❓Really? The night is just getting started? What we'd love to hear from you is: Thanks for showing up and being you. Hope you enjoyed yourself, get home safe. Period. Hard stop. 🛑 This is my PSA 📣 for anyone who will be part of the holiday party circuit starting...NOW! With deep #love and #gratitude, #bluecollarbuddha LFG 🚀 #youbeyou #selflove #ambivert #introvert #mindfulness #emotionalintelligence #sales #staffing
Oh my goodness….you nailed it…again!!!! This is NOT the most wonderful time of the year for this girl. It is energy depleting to say the least. Thank you, for giving me/us the grace and permission to guard my precious energy, and expend it only where I choose to. One more thing….I NEED THAT T-SHIRT!!!!! Big love go you, my friend!!!! ♥️
Ducking out is never a bad idea....I've realized I'm not that important and no one is noticing or cares really.
Would you believe it if I told you I think I fall in this category ;)
Doug Skoke we extroverts just love our introverts and our pleas to have you stay longer are indeed well intentioned. I will vow to take your guidance on this and use your wise and gracious words upon the departure of my dear and introverted friends ❣️💫 🙏🏼 Cheers to the holidays!
Well said, Doug. For those of us who experience these energy draining moments, it’s sometimes challenging to express to our extroverted brothers and sisters how we feel. I find that with age comes the wisdom to allow grace for oneself to depart in the way and timing that is right for you, regardless of what others may think or feel about it. Irish goodbye anyone?? I also find that after the loud/high energy events, the decompression and retrospective time takes longer to recoup the energy from, to reflect on the events and to reengage with others who were present; and should you choose to, share those reflections with them in the most meaningful way.
“Oh the fire is slowly dyin’ and my dear I’m Irish goodbye-in’!!!”
My wife is a self diagnosed “well functioning introvert” who get sensory overload easily. She’s married to an Enneagram 7 who loves big—gatherings, events etc. I actually am energized by the stuff that depletes her. I love your recommendations for how others can approach and respond to you during this time. Good on you! 🧡🔥
Thank you for this simple and so on point message Doug Skoke! This is so relatable to me. Thank you for exposing me to the word "ambivert" as I could never fit in the full introvert or extrovert box. Love to be around people but can only do that for so long. Love the peace that I find in the silence that allows me to recharge. Even when people don't say the remarks that you mentioned in your message, I think it and feel ackward when I am ready to leave before anyone else. Ultimately, it always starts with our own acceptance or judgement. I think we need to feel more comfortable calling it a night and blowing kisses on our way out. lol! 💖
A really important reminder Doug. It is interesting, I go back and forth between being more introverted and more extroverted. Sometimes it is just too many things in too short a period of time, and then it can definitely feel overwhelming. Great reminder as we start the holiday season.
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2wWe call that the ‘Irish Exit’ Doug Skoke. Not sure the origins of the saying?