Neglected children -Long term negative distortions that continue to into adult life. Ruminating on the Past. An obsession with past experiences can prevent individuals from living in the present. This can lead to a sense of being stuck and hinder healing. I can so relate to ruminating especially about past hurts before the healing helped me make sense of my experiences. The weight and heartache of the rumination can feel like a relentless tide, washing away joy and leaving behind only the remnants of sorrow. If you are unable to distract or find purpose, meaning and pleasure in things that fuel your inner fire you might feel isolated in despair. Trying new hobbies or activities that pique your interest. Visualize Your Ideal Life- Engage in Creative Expression-Allow yourself to express your thoughts and feelings through art, writing, or music. Creative outlets can help you tap into your passions and emotions. Music and dance are such uplifters energisers, and soul soothers Seeking Inspiration-Read books, listen to podcasts, or watch documentaries about people who inspire you. Connecting with nature, walking, hiking and learning about others' journeys can ignite your own passions. Be mindful of your beliefs- are they your beliefs or are they conditioned beliefs that have come from others expectations of you. A few cognitive distortions re: beliefs. *I’m not good enough.* *Nobody cares about me.* *I can’t trust anyone.* *I’ll never be loved.* *It’s my fault.* *I don’t deserve happiness.* *I’ll always be alone.* *Why would anyone want to be with me?* . **If I show my feelings, I’ll get hurt.* *I have to be perfect.* . **I can’t change who I am.* I think many of us can relate to the “ not good enough” belief and it isn’t an easy one to get rid of. In times of vulnerability, criticism from others, failure or self-doubt it rears its ugly head again. A little reminder … 😉 Your value doesn’t decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth. You are good enough, you are strong enough, and you are deserving of all your dreams. #childhoodtrauma #ruminatingbeliefs #youareworthy #mentalhealthawareness
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