Jools Williams Jewelled Chalice’s Post

Reparenting Your Inner Child: Healing Childhood Wounds for a Healthier, More Confident You #innerchild #reparenting #emotionalhealing #mentalhealth #personalgrowth Explores the concept of reparenting one's inner child to address fears, anxieties, and emotional responses stemming from unmet needs in childhood. Provides a scenario to illustrate how understanding and soothing these young, scared parts of oneself can lead to greater confidence and emotional regulation in adulthood.

Validation of child's emotions - Are we doing the right way? To what extent are you validating their emotions? Are you validating their emotions up to a point where you stop everything you do, to explore their emotions? Are you prioritising their emotions over everything else, thinking that if you don't, your child might think you don't love or care for them? Common misconception - If I were to have a strong positive relationship with my child, it means I should not let my child have negative feelings towards me. This is the current scenario many parents are in, around the world. It is the obsession over validating their child's emotions. I'm not sure if it is the trend people want to follow that they see over social media or that they feel they don't want their child to go through the trauma they had gone through when they were a child (unfulfilled love from parents) or that it is the understanding of the world that we live in (unsafe). Too much validation may cause emotional dysregulation. They wouldn't listen or understand you. They may reach a state where they cannot express themselves calmly. Their brains are flooded with emotions and it's overwhelming for them. The only way they can express it is through more tantrums (more yelling, screams), even if you show kindness, empathy and what not. Let us raise the kids of tomorrow! Go resilient parents! https://lnkd.in/dmm-7-k7 #parents #resilience #tantrums #validateemotions #childemotions #emotions

The little you still exists, even in your adult form. We grow up, we get bigger, and our brains become more logical, but that doesn’t erase the thoughts, feelings, and memories from our childhood. Those early impressions are still what drive most of our choices, perspectives and beliefs today. Our brains are associative, and tie together experiences and emotions that relate to each other. One example could be, your partner not messaging you back for a few hours, and you becoming convinced that something is wrong. This could be because you felt abandoned as a child. The biggest indicator of a wounded inner child, is if you become aware you’re responding to something in a way that doesn’t match your adult age, or if your internal or external reaction seems out of proportion to the current event or situation. I’ve worked with clients who keep a picture of themselves when they were younger, usually on a mirror, to remind themselves to speak to themselves like they would do to that child. It can work with relationships too. Remember when speaking to your angry or upset partner, that there is a child within them that may have had unmet needs, or be triggered by the conversation you are having, because of past events. Be mindful of the small, vulnerable child that lives within you, and others. Have compassion for that little you. Validate, love and care for the smaller version of yourself. Here’s a couple of pictures of little Holly! She definitely still needs a hug from time to time 💛 #innerchild #innerchildwork #innerchildhealing #innerchildtherapy #selflove #selfcompassion #healing #personalgrowth #lifecoaching #therapy #empoweredhouse

Ever told your child to 'chill out' when they're upset? 😕 It may seem like a quick fix, but it can make them feel dismissed and unheard. Instead, try connecting with them: ✅ Listen to their feelings. ✅Validate their emotions. ✅Guide them gently once they're ready. Remember, being their safe space teaches them how to handle emotions with confidence. 💙 Let's nurture, not dismiss. What’s your go-to way to comfort your child when they’re upset? Share below!💖 #mentalhealthmatters❤ #childdevelopmenttips #parentingsupporttogrow #parentinglife✨ #positiveparentingtipsandtricks #parentinggoals✨ #parentinghackstogrow #mindfulparentingtips #parentingcoachestogrow #parentingchallenges #childpsychologytips #parentingsolutions #emotionalintelligence #parentingwisdom #parentingadvicestogrow #parentingcommunity✨ #parentingstrategies #parentinghelp #therapisttips #parentingexperts #parentingstruggles101 #parentingwithlove #parentingandmentalhealth.

When a child feels guilty, sad, and preoccupied with their parents' needs, they can lose themselves. In a healthy parent-child relationship, there are unseen boundaries where sexual and demanding emotional energy are not exchanged. Without healthy separation, the child remains stuck in a psycho-relational purgatory, unsure of how to move forward. This can lead to difficulties in forming adult relationships, like the unhealthy attachment of a mama's boy or the extreme devotion of a daddy’s girl, where no one else compares to the parent. Covert incest creates unhealthy attachments, resembling young first love more than a proper parent/child dynamic. It involves obsessive ownership, jealousy, and inappropriate exchanges of affection. The covert victim feels idealized, while the overt victim feels abused, but both experience anger, rage, shame, and guilt. They feel trapped, not wanting to disappoint their overly attached parents. As adults, if these wounds remain unhealed and unspoken, they carry over into romantic relationships, making them desperate and all-consuming. This dynamic is fear-based and painful. Healing begins by not hiding from this wound but by sharing it in supportive, non-judgmental spaces. To be seen, witnessed, and work through the suppressed feelings of rage, confusion, and loneliness is essential for recovery. One is glad to be of service. #HealingJourney #InnerChildHealing #HealthyRelationships

Troubled teen boys: “My parents think everything’s my fault, they never look at the infuriating stuff they do!” Many times what is troubling your son (and part of why he’s acting out in ways that are both infuriating and worrying for you) resides in what I call “the family blind spot”, family members are being unconsciously triggered by each other’s trapped pain that no one can see or quite put their finger on. There are things moms and dads went through in their childhoods and later lives that are affecting how they show up with each other as a couple and as parents and role models for their son and other children. We all do it as parents in some way. The key is to make it conscious so we don’t dump it on each other and our children and begin to heal it before it’s too late and the negative patterns have been cemented in your sons’ psyche. Children often act out the unfelt and unconscious pain of their parents. Boys are particularly vulnerable to this because their brains develop slower both intellectually and emotionally than girls. I’m an expert in helping parents understand the subtle messages they are giving their son that might partly be causing him to act out in negative and self destructive ways. Don’t stay stuck in a shame cycle about it. Take action. Get a new perspective. Look at your pain and learned behavior from your childhood and heal from and let go of the stuff that is holding you and maybe even your son back in life. Invest in his future. Parents think nothing of spending $200K to send their son to college but balk at spending a small fraction of that to get him on a solid trajectory of success and fulfillment in life by resolving his issues with weed, vaping, screens, bad grades, entitlement and a host of other problems My Process and Approach helps everyone in the Family not by assigning blame but by developing and implementing a unique plan for your son, you and his other parent that will yield remarkable results when everyone commits to the healing. Wouldn’t it be great to have some peace & happiness with your son and the Family for a change? #empoweringparents #empoweredyoungman

Do you have a hard time understanding your teen? Yes it can be challenging for parents, especially when faced with unpredictable behaviors. It's easy for family members to misinterpret their actions, but remember—your teen is undergoing rapid physical and mental changes that naturally affect their behavior. Beyond these transformations, other factors can also influence how they act, and it’s crucial that parents address them with care. Avoiding responsibility isn't an option; after all, you chose to bring them into this world. If you’re struggling with your teenager’s erratic behavior, here are a few strategies to consider: ✅Engage in open, non-judgmental conversations with them. ✅Focus on discussing the bright future they can create for themselves. ✅Rather than lecturing, explore the consequences of negative actions. ✅Comparison with their friends can backfire and lead your teen to compare you as well. While there are many reactive approaches to dealing with teen behavior, proactive measures often yield better results. In addition to my workshops for kids, I’m excited to announce an offline one day workshop specially tailored for teenagers too in September, until then, stay tuned for more tips and insights. #teens #teenagers #parenting #motherhood #fatherhood #familyfirst #mentalhealth #family #raisingkids #parentingtips #teenageradvice #emotionalwellbeing

Do you have a hard time understanding your teen? Yes it can be challenging for parents, especially when faced with unpredictable behaviors. It's easy for family members to misinterpret their actions, but remember—your teen is undergoing rapid physical and mental changes that naturally affect their behavior. Beyond these transformations, other factors can also influence how they act, and it’s crucial that parents address them with care. Avoiding responsibility isn't an option; after all, you chose to bring them into this world. If you’re struggling with your teenager’s erratic behavior, here are a few strategies to consider: ✅Engage in open, non-judgmental conversations with them. ✅Focus on discussing the bright future they can create for themselves. ✅Rather than lecturing, explore the consequences of negative actions. ✅Comparison with their friends can backfire and lead your teen to compare you as well. While there are many reactive approaches to dealing with teen behavior, proactive measures often yield better results. In addition to my workshops for kids, I’m excited to announce an offline one day workshop specially tailored for teenagers too in September, until then, stay tuned for more tips and insights. #teens #teenagers #parenting #motherhood #fatherhood #familyfirst #mentalhealth #family #raisingkids #parentingtips #teenageradvice #emotionalwellbeing

Our inner child is a smaller version of ourselves that we carry around with us all the time. When we experience some kind of difficulty which causes us an emotional shift of some sort such as anxiety and sadness it's likely to be our inner self that's calling out, it's likely to be our inner that'd feeling vulnerable. It's important therefore for us to in those moments soothe our inner child with some kind words. This will help to regulate your nervous system making you and your inner self feel safer. Can you add some words to these? What words help to soothe your inner child? #innerchild #innerchildtherapy

Is your child's increased aggression leaving you feeling helpless and yearning for the joyful, carefree days of the past? Let's pause and take a heartfelt look at some key factors that might be at play. 🌈 🔥 Is Fight-or-Flight the New Normal? 🔥 Is your child often in a heightened state, where anger seems to flare up quickly and intensely? This could be a sign of nerve interference affecting their emotional regulation. 🌱 What's the Nature of Attention? 🌱 Is the spotlight on your child mostly corrective and negative due to their challenging behaviors? Or are they also receiving the positive reinforcement they crave and deserve? 📚 The Weight of the World 📚 Are social or academic pressures weighing heavily on your child? Understanding these demands can provide insights into their emotional landscape. 💞 Moments of Connection 💞 How does your child connect emotionally? Could you create more opportunities for heartfelt connection during their calm moments? 🌟 The Heart of the Matter 🌟 Children who struggle often need love the most. Their behavior might even illuminate areas in our own lives that need healing, causing us to react rather than respond. 🌈 Understanding to Heal 🌈 Addressing aggressive behavior is crucial, but understanding its root cause is the first step toward meaningful change. We're here to help you navigate this challenging journey, focusing on nerve interference that might be affecting your child's well-being. Feeling overwhelmed? You're not alone. Click the link in our bio to connect with us. Together, we'll find the path to healing and happiness. 💌 #ChildBehavior #ParentingChallenges #FightOrFlight #PositiveReinforcement #SocialPressures #AcademicDemands #Connection #Healing #UnderstandingAggression #VanellaChiropractic #HereToHelp 🌟🌈