An enjoyable and insightful session with lots to contemplate about how our working worlds, city and regional alike, have changed and continue to evolve - and what it means for the IR world. Thanks Joshua Healy for sharing your wisdom on the day, and this recording!
Party's over, now back to where I left off!
Yes it's true my "book-iversary" (thanks Sarah Barker for the new vocab!) are over for another year.
So...before I ate far too much birthday cake, I attended Oxford Brookes International Supervision conference (early May) and I promised to share my "take-aways" with you. Here's no.2 :
During David Lane and Sarah Corrie session on Resistance and Ruptures we David made this comment
"if you stop paying attention to the working alliance, resistance arises"
His words rang loudly - I know this to be true intellectually, practically and viscerally - yet hearing this phrase, put so succinctly and so matter-of-factly, it was like I was meeting this idea for the very first time. And it offered me relief. For a long while now I have wondered why I have seem to have very few "humdingers" within my supervision groups, perhaps I should be more challenging, perhaps it existed but I was blind to it ! Of course who knows what level of resistance and rupture is, "normal".
His phrase brought solace because I am aware of how much focus I place on attending to our alliance. After the arrivals round, I always invite a moment or three to think about our contract (particularly when I sense a metaphorical roll of the eyes, well it is likely the umpteenth invitation to contract!). In established and familiar groups, I have noticed a level of acceptance and ease amongst the participants that "everything is fine just as it is". And yet this creates an unease in me - what might we be over-looking?! To keep our alliance in our awareness, sometimes I invite a round of re-contracting, asking "What of our contract feels important to you today?". I have also experimented with asking participants to put in chat, one thing they wish to offer the group and one thing they want to ask for (bearing in mind whatever they intend to bring to discuss). Then before each participant takes the supervisee chair, I check in to see if what they put in the chat, still feels true. Sometimes it does .... and surprise, surprise sometimes it has shifted. Either is fine, as I now know that our working alliance is alive, not just assumed.
As coaches we all know the importance of contracting, and yet sometimes we want to dive in and get on with the supervision. Yes this is an indication that the underlying level of trust is strong - however, David's words have reassured me that my deliberate interruption of flow, forcing attention on how we will work together today, is time well spent.
So some questions I'd love to get your views on :
* how many humdingers of conflict do you have in your groups?
* how do you keep your working alliance alive?
* what happens when the supervisor is blind to conflict in the group?
BTW: here's take-away 1 in case you missed it
https://lnkd.in/dKjSU8yd
It was an honour to present at last week's Oxford Brookes International Supervision conference, and a big thanks to Peter Jackson and the team for organising it. The day was "jam packed" and as a veteran of these events my strategy for learning is to relax into the presentations and trust that "what sticks" is sufficient. So over the next few weeks, I'll be sharing those snippets that reached out and hooked me... I won't pretend this will be an accurate summary of the event... nonetheless I hope they are worth the sharing....?? 🤔
Let me begin with a link to a poem ... this actually came from a response from Fenella Trevillion a colleague in the audience. The presentation was about ruptures and disruption in a supervision relationship by David Lane and Sarah Corrie. The conversation was about how (im)possible it was to create a safe enough space. Fenella floated the idea of creating a brave enough space .... I loved it!! Apparently her inspiration came from this poem
https://lnkd.in/evdmjAa7
What's your sense? As a supervisor do you aim to create a "safe enough" or a "brave enough" space for supervisees? As a supervisee, what's your hope... to work in a "safe enough" or a "brave enough" space? I'd love to hear your thoughts.....
#supervision#psychologicalsafety#holdingspace
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Here's this week's message!
The Value in Being Responsible
Responsibility is a crucial aspect of life that goes hand in hand with confidence and the feeling of being in control of one's own life. It involves making rational or moral decisions on one's own, being answerable to others for their behavior, and being trustworthy and dependable. Being responsible means that we are fully matured adults and can choose our response to life's events, rather than reacting by habit or reflex. This attitude is reflected in our behaviors towards friends, family, clients, and customers in our community.
Feeling responsible is essential for living up to our potential, enjoying satisfying relationships, and living happy, fulfilling lives. To teach our children to be responsible, we should be responsible ourselves, explain the benefits of responsibility to them, and gradually increase responsibilities as they grow older. Praise their efforts and let them know that you see them as responsible, and watch them grow into it. By doing so, we can help our children live up to their potential and enjoy satisfying relationships with others.
We've received fantastic feedback about our last few 𝐄𝐱𝐞𝐜𝐮𝐭𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐅𝐨𝐫𝐮𝐦𝐬 and the value they offer to those who join. I aim to create a comprehensive experience for industry professionals interested in knowledge-sharing. I believe exchanging information enhances our expertise, strengthens our networks, and improves our daily operations.
Here is what some participants say about their experience:
✅ “The key point of these Executive Forums is their versatility: everybody shares their experience by speaking out or writing it down in the chat to help everybody. Participants come from various sectors, industries, nationalities, or backgrounds - the difference makes us stronger.”
✅ “It’s a very nice format, with speakers who are experts in their field, and Alexandra manages all that as a real conductor!”
✅ “Interesting and inspiring session, well done!!!”
✅ “Very interesting session on a very important topic! Good dynamic on exchanges.”
Our next Executive Forum, scheduled for 𝐉𝐮𝐧𝐞 27𝐭𝐡, 2024, will focus on 𝐝𝐢𝐬𝐢𝐧𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐦𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐢𝐥𝐢𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞 and feature a special guest. Stay tuned for more details in my upcoming post; I hope you will join! 🚀
I’m excited to share the digital portfolio I created for my Conducting Communication Research course. This portfolio showcases my journey through the MA in Communication program at ASU, featuring an "About Me" section, details on my extracurricular activities, an up-to-date resume, and my career goals aligned with NACE competencies. Additionally, it includes insightful reflections on three key courses, highlighting my learning and growth. Check it out to see how my academic and professional experiences have shaped my skills and aspirations!
#DigitalPortfolio#Communication#ProfessionalGrowth#CareerDevelopment#ASU
I recently had the pleasure of reading "A Life Worth Living: Finding Your Purpose and Daring to Live the Life You’ve Imagined" by Kevin John Delaney.
This book is a profound exploration of how we can bridge the gap between the life we are living and the life we truly desire.
Here are some key lessons from the book:
- Embrace Your Purpose: Discovering and embracing your true purpose can
transform your life, bringing passion and fulfillment.
- Live Boldly: Don’t settle for a half-lived life. Dare to pursue the life you’ve
always imagined.
- Learn from Adversity: Kevin’s journey from a near-death experience to a life
of purpose teaches us the power of resilience and determination.
- Inspire and Be Inspired: Through personal stories and the experiences of
others, the book encourages us to find inspiration in everyday moments.
- Make a Difference: Strive to live an extraordinary life that not only fulfills
you but also makes a positive impact on the world.
One of the best parts about this book is that the chapters are short, mostly less than 5 pages, making it very easy to read and digest.
I highly encourage my everyone to read this inspiring book. It will challenge you, motivate you, and most importantly, help you find your path to a more meaningful life.
As a gesture of appreciation and commitment to lifelong learning, we gifted a copy of this book to every participant at our recent Bali Global HR conference (see my previous post for more details: https://lnkd.in/g8v-_7nV).
Let’s continue to inspire and support each other in our journeys toward living a life worth living.
Here’s how you can get a copy of the book: https://lnkd.in/gpRn8Gte
Happy reading.
#HRLeadership#GrowthMindset#LifelongLearning#FindYourPurpose#InspireOthers
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Defining the Me I Want to Be
Humans think in pictures, which is why language was developed to communicate these images. We use words to trigger these pictures, such as nouns and adjectives, to describe things to ourselves and others. One of the biggest challenges is describing our "self" to ourselves and others. We all have many possible selves, some of which are active and obvious, while others can be strengthened and brought into current reality.
To know which self is the best, consider the qualities that make us at our best. By bringing these qualities into awareness, we can deliberately set out to make our everyday self more like our "best" self. Techniques like affirmation, visualization, and self-talk can help us achieve this. By managing our mind, we move towards and become like what we think about, allowing energy to flow.
To focus on the aspects of ourselves that we want to see more of, focus on them systematically and repeat it every day. This will help us become our best self naturally.
This week, I will be heading to the offsite in California with the company I am employed by. My intention for the week is:
aiming to stay flexible and adaptable to any unexpected changes or challenges that may arise during the scheduled events. If yiu have an intention for the week I would love to know about it. Comment below! #Adaptability#ProfessionalDevelopment
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What Do We Really Need?
The distinction between needs and wants is often blurred, as we may focus on pressing "needs" such as a promotion or a certain social status. This can lead to tension and stress, as we feel pressured to meet these needs without achieving them.
However, if we shift our thinking from a need to a preference, we can find a more positive way to experience life. For example, if we want fame, we may find that the world will continue to spin without it. Similarly, if we want to be recognized in our current job, we may find that this desire can be met through volunteer work.
In order to understand the difference between wants and needs, it is essential to be honest with ourselves and find the truth behind our needs. This shift can significantly change how we experience life and may be worth trying.
Our final spot from the "Power of Being You" series is with RSM Enegry Consultant, Taimur whose curiosity of exploring other countries and cultures enables him to better serve his clients as he's always looking to fully understand the companies he works with:
https://bit.ly/dash_rsm