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The inability to receive is often part of our trauma story. ➡️We may learn to protect ourselves by becoming strong, self-sufficient and not ‘needing’ anyone. Independence becomes interwoven with freedom. ➡️The thing is, none of us are exempt from needing care. We need it in order to feel that all is well in the world. 👉Healing asks us to learn to receive. This is about vulnerability. ➡️it can be scary to be vulnerable if in the past our needs have been met with shame, blame and harm in the past. This is about reciprocity ➡️it can feel terrifying to receive if we have been conditioned to a ‘service first’ mentality, or if we are used to gifts always coming with hooks, conditions or blowback. 👉As we heal, we learn to lean into kindness and away from manipulation. 👉This is where connection and care become safe again. This piece is what allows us to rejoin humanity, after feeling separate for so long. ❓What do you think? #healing #service #manipulation #belonging #boundaries #relationships #reciprocity Receive. Links in comments.
Tina Wilston
5mo
This post really resonates with me. The journey of healing often involves unlearning old defense mechanisms that once protected us but now limit our ability to connect deeply with others. Allowing ourselves to be vulnerable is incredibly challenging, especially when past experiences have taught us to equate vulnerability with pain or exploitation. But it's true, genuine connection and care are crucial for feeling grounded and safe. Embracing the concept of reciprocity, where kindness is given and received freely, can be profoundly transformative. It’s a beautiful reminder that healing isn’t just about mending what’s broken, but also about re-learning how to trust and accept love and care from others. Thank you for sharing this insightful perspective. 🌿💛
This really strikes a chord. Embracing the ability to receive is a crucial step in the healing process. Vulnerability can indeed be daunting, particularly when past experiences have conditioned us to associate it with negativity. However, allowing ourselves to accept genuine care and support is vital for forming meaningful connections and fostering healing. It's a powerful reminder that needing and accepting care is a natural and important part of being human.
Maryam Sharif
5mo
Absolutely! Often ignored
Joanne Martin
5mo
A great and powerful reminder, thank you for sharing! 🌱
The healer also needs healing. While this resonates in many ways, in particular (blame it on the availability heuristic) with caregivers, both professional and family members. For instance, when family members are betrayed by their own siblings in providing care to parents, it's extremely traumatic. I have seen this with many clients and read blogs and comments in Facebook groups where this is a serious issue. Knowing that the siblings won't help even if asked earnestly, the situation is more painful. Caregivers rarely get the support or the acknowledgement they deserve.
Sediqa Sharify
5mo
Exactly, doing goodies becomes great and powerful when see you have feedbacks and shows that your works are doing great.
Shawana Martin
5mo
I totally agree Natalia. I am a Care Coordinator who works with families. In my experience, those who could use support back away from it due to trauma. They have been conditioned to believe it is reasonable to carry everything and asking for help is perceived weak. Their mental, emotional and sometimes physical needs are not met in fear of shaming and judgment. This ongoing treatment will eventually tear down physical and mental well-being. Everyone has something to contribute but no one should have to do it alone. Thank you for sharing!
"The healer also needs healing" absolutely because we can't pour from an empty cup. 🧘🏾♀️🌟
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