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An article I wrote six years ago. Relevant even today? Bringing Up India’s Boys Rightly Vivek Atray Our society is poised today at a juncture of flux and upheaval. Modern education and thinking, aided by technology-enabled awareness, have meant the decline, if not decimation, of some age old social ills. Yet there are several disruptive tendencies that still remain entrenched in our social milieu which need to be done away with, at the very earliest. On the other hand, family values, traditions which strengthen us and our cultural diversity need to be constantly nurtured and preserved. Raising young boys to become balanced gentlemen is a goal that families should place high on their priority lists. The reason why many perfectly well- behaved young men turn into monsters once they exit their homes, is difficult to fathom. There is obviously something deeply ingrained in their psyche that transforms them from being doting brothers at home to becoming absolute ruffians on the road. Almost as worrisome as the dastardly incidents of heinous crime against women which continue to shell-shock a traditionally sheltered society, is the malaise of the rampaging goon on the street. Boys from families that never allow them to raise their voices at home, suddenly become unfettered wrong- doers once on the loose. Women and girls who venture out of their homes every day know that it is a big bad world out there. Cities like New Delhi especially have a reputation of being inhospitable and even scary places at times. Women cannot afford to be themselves in public places, barring a few exceptions, in our country. There is always the risk of someone gawking, staring, leering or gaping at them. There is also the likelihood that they will be groped at and fondled in a bus or harassed on a train. (Continued in Comments)
Thank you Vivek Atray ji for this valuable insight. I do believe that basis values of respect, compassion and empathy need to be inculcated in our society - rural or urban as against competition, success and alpha male traits which currently plagues us. We need better citizens, they will be successful eventually 🙏
That's a valid point Mr. Vivek Atray. The family etiquettes matter a lot. Every average or second person has a good education nowadays but that doesn't mean they all avoid committing crimes. The children are innocent when they are born, but as they observe their parents and family members, they begin to learn and adapt to the world around them—shaping their thoughts, behaviors, and beliefs. It all depends on how parents raise their children.
Now our society leads by politicians they given example to the society
Very relevant to present situation all across the country.
ex IAS, Keynote Corporate Leadership (EI vs AI) Speaker, 14 TEDx Talks, 9M views, Advisor Shoolini University, Founder PLAYWRITE, Vibrant Forum, Glorious Cricket & SUVICHAR Best Selling Author, ex Director IT & Education
4mo. Rural areas too suffer from such problems but since people know each other in smaller habitats, the chances of uncouth behavior are fewer than in urban areas. Of course, perpetrators of crimes like rape and murder do not suffer from inhibitions relating to location or any other sort of hesitation. While the nation as a whole is in the process of educating its young and the percentage of well-read youth is increasing every day, there is no guarantee that education brings gentlemanliness to any man. All ladies know well that well- placed elderly gents are just as susceptible to unacceptable behavior when given a chance, as are uneducated youth. The root causes for deviation from decency lie in the values that young men fail to imbibe while growing up. Parents are at fault for not instilling in them the ‘dos’ that should necessarily be inculcated- respecting other families, neighbours and the like, especially the ladies. The male of the species has to be made to know that it is not alright to disrespect a stranger, and it is not enough to only behave well before females who are friends or family members. By not following basic observances in the upbringing of our youth we are creating unruly grown-ups.