“Community” can be such a junk-drawer word. “We offer community” “Our company is a real community” “I’m looking for community” What are we really talking about? Most of my life and career has been devoted to building “community.” Starting businesses, churches, non-profits. I stopped to process the best groups of relationships I’ve experienced and found 4 key principles to a real comminity: 1. Real Community is rooted in sacrificial commitment - when someone gives up something without gain, that sacrifice runs deep to build real friendship. Commitment is counter-cultural today. Let your yes be yes. It speaks volumes to others. 2. Real Community is regular with shared leadership to make it regular - the difference between events and community is that events bring people together for a moment while community brings people together for moments over time. 3. Real Community is united by purpose that runs deeper than money, work, or things - that’s one of the reasons real faith communities stand the test of time. We are united by something WAY beyond ourselves. 4. Real Community is rooted in the equation of friendship over time - we give of ourselves for longer periods of time, especially when it’s hard and we gain nothing, because we care about the relationship and serving our friends.
Love this thought on the difference between events and community. It's somewhat counterintuitive, but also why I'd commit to a 10-week cohort with the same invested people way quicker than a one-off webinar event with strangers I'll likely never see again.
"events bring people together for a moment while community brings people together for moments over time" 🙌 So well said. Community is consistency on multiple fronts
It's remarkable how much overlap there is between the mechanics of community within faith bodies and among open source technologists. My sense is that the population of folks with a foot in both those communities is rather small.
Elton Trueblood's "Alternative to Futility" addresses this as well. In addition to what you have listed James Kelly, he offers the concept of a "minimal viable set of commitments" that are needed to form deep community. I love that! There are also some good articles referencing how The Clapham Sect and The Inklings were great examples of deep communities, doing adventurous work together 😎 PEACE
Well said. Regularity and consistency is key, whether an annual event or a weekly gathering. Some people make a long trip yearly while others make smaller drives locally. Finding the right timing is important for different communities of scale
This makes sense and I appreciate your wording especially. It fits a sermon I am working on as well "Hidden in Plain Sight: how to be-loved in community". I'll make sure I credit you. :)
I'd take it a step further and argue community is a wretched word that comes nowhere close to communicating the meaning of the Greek koinonia. True Christian community is radical to the point of looking like communism to outsiders. In hindsight, I never experienced true community in my life until I visited monasteries and especially a Bruderhof koinonia.... 3,000 people across a dozen villages all sharing everything in common. Freaky!
Some people keep the “community” next to the old batteries and the roll of tape James Kelly I love the deep dive on what real community is especially #4. 👏🏼
Good breakdown of what real community is. Thanks.
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9moReal community is inconvenient and uncomfortable. Thinking of others interests before our own and carrying other people’s burdens. ✌️