The Gift Of Giving Critical Feedback

As a manager from time to time you are required to provide critical feedback to an employee who is under-performing or even behaving in ways that are detrimental to your team and/or the company.

While first time managers seldom receive training in how to best approach this often delicate task, and even seasoned managers can find themselves avoiding what seems apparent and necessary, the fact is that anyone who is limiting the success of their own career along with that of your team and/or company needs your help!

Yes! Critical feedback given with respect and dignity is a gift. And while the gift may not be received with an open mind, as long as your intent is to provide helpful guidance then your conscience can remain clear and self-respecting.


What’s The Gift To Your Employee?

*** When people display unproductive or contrary behavior at work they are overtly demonstrating that something is off kilter. Common examples include chronic tardiness, distracting themselves during meetings with cell phone or ipad, frequently getting into arguments with co-workers or even their manager.

*** The best way to interpret this type of sabotaging behavior is to see it as a call for help. Even when the individual denies any wrongdoing, their behavior is inappropriate for the workplace. Therefore as manager you need to address the inappropriate behavior as soon as it;s become a pattern.

*** By calling out the visible problem, you reflect back to the person what they may be unaware of AND you announce the implications and requirements for improvement. Be sure to provide a deadline for evidence that change is under way right from the start so there can be no confusion as to what is required for the individual to retain their job and/or avoid a PIP (performance improvement plan).


What’s The Gift To You The Manager?

*** Most managers we’ve worked with have initially tried to avoid taking action when they’ve seen inappropriate behavior in team members—hoping the behavior will go away by itself. But that just prolongs the individual’s impression that their behavior is ok. Therefore, as a manager we urge you to nip “bad behavior” in the bud and gain the gift of speedy management intervention.

*** Another “bad habit” exhibited by many managers is that when they do speak with their team member, they soft-peddle their intervention worried about hurting the other person’s feelings and/or coming off as a heartless dictator. When you remember that you are helping your team member gain control over behavior that is self-destructive and destructive to their career, you can embolden yourself to speak precisely and boldly—and with care, checking often with the other person to make sure they are understanding what you are describing as a problem.

*** Developing this “squishy” emotionally compassionate yet bold leadership skill will allow your reputation as a manager to grow as someone who is fair and caring, who takes action in a timely fashion, and who defines workplace requirements in a clear and definitive manner so that your people always know where they stand with you.


What Is The Gift To Your Company?

*** By requiring an obvious and ongoing level of excellence from your team/employees you provide a model for everyone else in the company.

*** With respectful but necessary “weeding out” of those who are not a good culture fit, lack necessary skills even after repeated trainings, and/or are emotionally disturbed you provide respect for the rest of your team/employees.

*** With expected critical feedback viewed as a gift to each employee’s career growth, you help maintain an environment of positive support for everyone who is doing well.


Question: How has critical feedback been a gift to you and/or your team?

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