5 Ways You Can Tell if You Are Masking
How does masking manifest?
Masking encompasses a spectrum of behaviours aimed at presenting a version of oneself that aligns with perceived societal standards or expectations.
Yesterday, at Kinship we explored the benefit of wearing masks and why we even bother to wear them, considering how harmful they can be.
The masking explored manifests in various forms, including:
While masking can offer a temporary shield from judgment or discomfort, it can also breed feelings of alienation, disconnection, and internal conflict.
Moreover, the energy expended in maintaining these masks can drain one's emotional reserves and hinder genuine self-expression.
Hence, many of the women who attended the session refused to wear masks despite the cost to their careers and often their mental health or wellbeing.
When could masking EVER be helpful?
In navigating the intricacies of interpersonal dynamics, the use of masks becomes a nuanced consideration, not an either-or scenario.
And, it is essential to acknowledge that safeguarding our mental health and overall well-being often involves a delicate balance, particularly in circumstances where conflict avoidance is prudent.
Take, for example, you hate your boss.
While harbouring feelings of discontent towards them may be natural, expressing such sentiments openly could carry significant professional repercussions, potentially jeopardising career prospects and stability.
In various social contexts, the strategic concealment of one's true sentiments becomes a pragmatic choice, serving to safeguard personal interests and mitigate potential conflicts.
Even, if they are being mean or you are facing unfavourable treatment in comparison to other colleagues, the necessity to maintain composure and restraint in emotional expression is paramount.
The issue is as adults, we can get very good at suppressing our true emotions and doing this frequently to avoid controversy or stay within social norms is sometimes not ok!
Especially, if the social or cultural norms have become harmful or toxic.
It is incumbent upon us to discern when adherence to social norms is constructive and when it perpetuates harmful dynamics that warrant challenge.
But, at what cost to your physical and mental health?
It is imperative to recognise the potential pitfalls of habitual emotional suppression.
Psychologists, Richards & Gross completed a study that investigated the effects of emotional suppression on cognitive functioning and found the ability to recall information from long-term memory was affected more in the group who suppressed their emotions.
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As well as a higher activation of the cardiovascular system, increasing physical symptoms, such as sweating or an increased heart rate.
Therefore, while the utilisation of masks may offer short-term benefits in navigating complex social landscapes, it is crucial to remain attuned to the broader implications and the need for authentic self-expression.
In other words, hiding or masking one’s feelings does not make those feelings go away!!!!
Prolonged or excessive masking to navigate societal expectations or evade controversy will take a toll on your mental and physical health, strain relationships, and hinder authentic self-expression.
Therefore, it's essential to strike a balance between masking when necessary and finding opportunities for genuine connection, vulnerability, and self-care.
5 Ways You Can Tell if You Are Masking
Masking is a complex phenomenon that pervades many aspects of human interaction and identity.
Whether driven by societal pressure, fear of judgment, or a desire for acceptance, masking can obscure our true identity and hinder authenticity.
Here are 5 ways you can tell if you are masking;
By recognising if we are masking and cultivating self-awareness, we can begin to make choices, if masking is hindering us or something we need to do for our survival, as well as future thriving and professional development.
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By cultivating a deeper awareness of our emotional responses and exercising discernment in their expression, we can navigate interpersonal dynamics with integrity and assertiveness, fostering environments conducive to genuine connection and positive change.
There is not one person who is alive walking this earth that is worth you laying awake at night feeling like you are NOT enough over.
You are always more than your work! Please don't sacrifice your mental health.
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8moThe thing is, you can't show up as your true self everywhere, you have to be very careful with people. Also, I know a couple of people who've disclosed their unseen disabilities and the same has been used against them.