7 reasons why you DON'T need a coach....

"Why do I need a coach ?"

"How can coaching help me?"

I get asked these questions frequently as part of my coaching practice

And all of these are genuine questions, especially from someone who has not heard of coaching before

Forget about others – I myself was not aware of what coaching is all about up until 2015

I had heard about coaching in the context of sports, but not in the context of leadership and personal development

In 2015, for the first time, I got the opportunity to work with an executive coach

And that completely transformed the way I showed up at work

That was also a big reason why I got drawn into the world of coaching as a profession

Anyways, back to the topic for today....  

So instead of answering the question "Why do you need a coach ?", let's understand the main reasons why you DON’T need a coach

Now you might wonder.... 

Being a coach, why am I talking about reasons for not needing a coach ?

It’s simple....

Because the same reasons why you don’t need a coach are also the reasons why you might need a coach

So here are the 7 reasons why you DON'T need a coach :

1. You want to figure out everything on your own OR You believe that you can figure out everything on your own

Nothing wrong in that approach. It’s totally fine to take charge and be on your own

Just two things to be careful about :

One – The amount of time you will spend on your own to figure things out

And in most cases, that time will be significantly high and will come at a cost to you

Two – You need to have a very high degree of personal accountability

When you are on your own, who is really holding you accountable ? How do you ensure you do what you commit to ?

So always consider the value of your time and accountability into consideration

2. You don’t believe in investing in yourself. You don’t make personal growth a priority

This for me is a big reason for people not investing in coaching ( or any other form of personal development )

It's not that you don’t have the money

You are investing in things all the time - except on your own self

You have a budget for almost everything – buying a car, going for a vacation and so on

But you never have a separate budget for investing in yourself, right ?

At times, this is because you feel you don’t deserve it or you are not worthy of it

Sometimes, it is because you keep pushing your priorities on a backburner

Whatever the reason is, do keep in mind the cost you might already be paying

3. You are happy and content wherever you are in life OR Maybe you are not happy, but you are OK the way your life is

If you are happy, then I am happy for you as well :)

However, deep inside, only you know the truth, right ?

And if you feel that you deserve better, you deserve more, then what’s really holding you back ?

4. You don’t have big dreams or a big vision. You don’t want to play BIG

 You don’t want to create a big impact in this world

Again, everybody need not have big dreams

And that’s totally fine - nothing really wrong as such

But take a step back and think : 

Was there a time when you had a big dream, but you have gradually pushed it into the shadows ?

Are you afraid of chasing your big dream ?

Are you afraid of what people might think or say ?

5. You have reached your maximum potential. You believe that there’s nothing else to achieve in life, either personally or professionally

I actually don’t subscribe to this view, as I truly believe that all of us are born with infinite potential

And most of us don’t even know what we are truly capable of..

You are limited by your own beliefs about yourself

How do you even know what your true potential is ?

How did you arrive at the conclusion that there is nothing much to achieve ?

But obviously, if you still feel that you have maximized your potential, then a coach might not be of much help

6. You have absolutely clarity of what you want and have an action plan in place to achieve it

The truth is that most people are confused about what they want – what they really want

And even if you know what you want, sometimes, you don’t know how to go about it

But if you are someone who knows what they want and how to get it, then just go for it ! 

7. You are highly committed, confident and motivated

You don't have any self-doubts, limiting beliefs and fears

You don't procrastinate

If you are in this space, congratulations to you ! You don’t need a coach !!

But in my coaching experience, I have seen that these are some common challenges people face

You end up lacking commitment or your motivation wanes

Your beliefs and fears hold you back

You start things but are not able to sustain, right ?

So these are the top 7 reasons why you DON'T need a coach

Ofcourse, as I said earlier, these are also the top 7 reasons why you may want to consider working with a coach

That's it from my side this week

Time for your weekly reflection :

1) When you are aiming for a goal, how do you hold yourself accountable ?

2) Do you believe that you deserve better ?

3) If the answer to the above question is YES, what does "better" look like ? If NO, why do you feel that way ?

4) What’s really holding you back from dreaming big and bold ?

5) What’s your big dream about which you have NOT spoken to anyone till now ?

6) Are you truly aware of your real potential ? If you were to perform at your true potential, what will it allow you to achieve ?

7) What are some of the beliefs you have about yourself which are coming in your way ?

I would be interested to know about your thoughts, so keep writing

Till then

Stay safe and stay healthy

Have a great weekend !

Harsh

www.harshjohari.com   

P.S. 

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