“7 rules of life” that might be even more important than they ever were!

Today, June 21st, 2020 is again the longest day of the year and I decided to specially write my article today as I just love this special day of the year! Loving this beautiful sun-filled longest day and loving life made me write about 7 rules that really changed mine for 10 years already!

“7 rules of life” … what a stupid title as such! The internet is filled with articles on this and no, I am not going to write again how important they are for you and why you should follow them, but let me please share how they really impacted me more than 10 years ago already and they still impact me on a day-to-day base making me a happier man for sure !

Flashback to Q1 2010…Coming out of a divorce, having had a though period for a couple of years, I felt 2010 would be my year again. Finally in a positive mood again, finally back to practising NLP ( Neuro Linguistic Programming) , I thought it could not go worse than it was but that I was going to go the opposite way of the last and past years ! And I did, it took me hard work and it still does, but it is all more than worth it.

I am not going to detail more about NLP…should you not yet be aware of the great impact NLP can have on your life, please feel free to search the internet of just contact me for more details. As an NLP practitioner and master practitioner coach I can for sure help you out. NLP is hard work and not always easy, where the 7 rules are much easier to follow, but they are both more than worth being in your life if you want to be a happier person.

April 2010… a new step forward: moving into a new house, in a new relation, a new start. I thought all could not go wrong any longer and was prepared to fly high again. I was ending a therapy to help me out and on the last session, just prior to moving into the new house, my coach gave me a copy of a small picture, grey coloured, with the 7 rules of life. I promised myself I would follow them as much as possible.

Having moved into the house I April 2010, the picture of the 7 rules was the first to be hang out on the fridge as a small reminder…and now 10 years later the picture is still hanging out there and is helping anyone who looks at it for all these years already and me in particular ! Even friends who pass by still wonder about the old picture that remains on that fridge…

For years now I really believe they helped me out to find inner peace and to reach happiness more than I ever thought I could be, just because they are so easy to follow!

1.      Make peace with the past so it won’t screw your present:  easily said, not that easily done, but o so right. The past was meant as a lesson, nit a life sentence, so give it a place, move over and thank all for the lessons learned. Never ever have your past impacting your future except with experience and lessons learned. Focus on the present and the future by giving the past a place!

2.      What other think is none of your business ! yep right…in other words: Fuck what they think ! and sure you should do that, but finally there is one thing sure; you will never ever have the possibility to make all happy with what you do or think or say or …why would you care about what other think ? only think about what you think and how you feel. Strange perhaps but you should one or another way be more egoistic and more self-focussed, as the only aim is to make you happier, not others! Stop caring and thinking about what another think, just do your thing!

3.      Time heals almost everything, give it time. So easy and so right…what I thought was unsurmountable at that moment, seems now to have been a ice of cake to overcome ! experience told me not to worry as time heals everything, just allow it the necessary time !

4.      Don’t compare your life to others and don’t judge them! You have no idea what their journey is all about. Same occurs about you, they have no idea about yours neither. To compare is worth exactly nothing, as it might look like comparing apples to tomatoes or even cucumbers…nothing is what it looks like nobody knows what lies beneath, so respect all people are different and do never compare, as might only make you more unhappy for no real or right reason.

5.      Stop thinking too much, it’s all right now to know the answers. They will come to you when you least expect it. – sorry for the expression but WTF do you all want to know all answers…we’re not google nor Wikipedia, we’re humans who just can’t know it all. Respect yourself and dare to accept a “no idea” about something. Accepting that will turn you to become smarter learning when you least expect it…This also occurs in your business life, be honest and accept you don’t know the answer, it will for your make you smarter as you will learn faster afterwards and be much more respected by others for having been honest!

6.      No one is in charge of your happiness, except you! Don’t look for others, don’t blame others, don’t ask others support…happiness is a full private thing, only you are in charge and responsible. And don’t search too far for it…relax and it will come you if you respect all other rules too!!!

7.      Smile. You don’t own all the problems in the world. Smiling has proven to have a positive effect on your mood and smiling gives you many things in return from other people. I personally even like to smile at people who do not like me! Smiling make you look better, that give you another way people look at you this then gives new positive feedback and there you go…on the way to happy feelings thanks to your smile!        

I know can go explaining again how important it is for you, and how you should do etc…but the best thing I can say is: just do it ! do it, believe in it, try to follow it, and I can assure you can really benefit from it for now and for the very long future. I already enjoy a much happier feeling than I ever had in my life previously and I can assure you it because of these 7 easy rules amongst some other things too!

People complain so much, they have hundreds of reasons why they are not as happy as others because bla bla bla…   you don’t need 100 excuses why you can’t, you only need one reason why you want!

Come on friends, wake up, open your eyes, I am sure many of the above topics are valid in your life too, why don’t you just decide to impact these and go for a better and happier life ?

I wish you all the success and look forward to hearing your positive feedback later! Count on me if I can help one or another way!

Inspiring regards

Philippe