7 Tips To Dramatically Improve Your Luck Of Finding Love After 50

If you’re over 50, don’t listen to the naysayers who tell you that your chances of finding love after 50 are slim to none. It just isn’t so. Many of my clients are over 50 and they have found true love and marriage. If they can do it, so can you! Let me share with you my top 7 tips to improve your chances of finding love after 50:

1.     Steep yourself in what makes you unique and embrace your beauty, inside and out. When looking for love after 50, it’s important to take stock of what is special about you instead of focusing on what you’re not. You have special talents, specific interests, and a unique personality. Don’t downplay yourself or try to be someone you think others are looking for. This always leads to disappointment. When you are true to yourself, you will attract people who love the kind of person you truly are!

2.     Accept yourself for who you are, warts and all. When trying to find love after 50, know that none of us are the same as our youthful 20s or 30s. The best way to attract the right person is to be comfortable with who you are now without being self-deprecating. We are all imperfect and embracing those imperfections can be endearing. At this point in life, people are more interested in the truly important attributes: kindness, caring, intelligence, warmth, understanding, integrity, wisdom, and companionship.

3.     Be confident in what you want and be willing to take a stand for it. Without even realizing it, we are instinctively attracted to confident people. And wishy-washy people tend to make us uncomfortable- you never know what to expect or where you stand with this kind of person.

Confidence promotes stability and understanding in a relationship. It’s okay to kindly, and lovingly communicate your needs and expectations in a relationship. So, when you are searching for love after 50, knowing what you want and not settling for less, will help you to recognize the right person and allow your partner to recognize you as the right one, as well.

4.     Set your standards for the kind of relationship you desire.  Hold fast to your standards and expect others to respect your wishes. When finding love after 50, it’s okay to set your standards based on your needs at this point in life. However, make sure your standards, and the way you measure, them make sense. One of my retired Boomer clients wanted to meet someone who was as accomplished in life as she was. However, when she met her partner, she found he was not as financially or professionally accomplished as she was and she almost walked away from him. In our coaching I had her look at what he did offer, his values, and his successes in life. He was accomplished in his own right. He had his own home, was financially stable, and was very involved in his church. He even taught Sunday school which she admired about him. Recognizing these successes allowed her to re-evaluate the importance of professional accomplishments now that they were both retired. In the end, she was able to maintain her standards, even if the specifics she had previously used to measure them were different. She found the kind of love she was truly seeking for herself at this stage of her life.

5.     Seek someone who shares your life vision. When dating after 50, it’s important that both partners want mostly the same things in life and are moving in a similar direction. Do you want to live in the city, the suburbs or the country? Do you want to live together or do you want to have separate homes? Do you envision traveling abroad with your partner often or for long periods of time, or do you see yourself as being part of a community in your hometown? Do you spend a lot of time with your kids and grandkids (if you have them!) or is that not as important to you? Again, your partner has to be on the same page or be willing to find a happy medium that works for both of you.    

6.     Take chances and be willing to go outside of your comfort zone. If you’re not dating online, I highly recommend you do so. With 80% of my successfully coupled clients meeting that way, it’s an important part of your dating plan! You should also be asking for introductions from your close family and friends. This is a key skill in finding love after 50 that I teach to all my clients. If you don’t step outside of what you’re already doing, you’ll never know what’s possible or who may introduce you to your special someone.

7.     Maintain your sense of humor. When finding love after 50, it’s critical to be able to laugh at yourself and not take yourself too seriously. I hear that from my clients all the time. They want to be with someone who is easygoing and fun. Most people do not like someone who is "too serious" or easily offended. Yes, it’s important to be sensitive and serious when you need to be however, humor makes life, and love, so much more pleasant.

  By applying some of these tips and strategies, you will greatly improve your chances of connecting with the right person and increase your odds of finding love after 50. This is true for my clients of all shapes and sizes, ethnicities, religions, and who come from all walks of life. If you want to see if you’re truly ready for love to come into your life, then take my quiz: www.mtmquiz.com. Now is the time to get ready for the fall dating opportunities. I’m here to help you streamline your dating efforts so you’ll have better results. My clients meet amazing people all the time. Will you be next? Sincerely, Coach Amy P.S. If you'd like to learn how to greatly improve your dating process in order to find true love, I'd love to help! Go to www.TalkwithCoachAmy.com and let's talk.  This is a great time to get ready for the dating opportunities that increase in the fall.