Ambitious people & their surroundings, What it 'takes' to believe in yourself & more

I regularly think of this quote from humans of Bombay:

‘Because I believed in myself so stubbornly, the world had no other option than to believe in me.’

Now, my thoughts:

The entire world says ‘Believe in yourself but have you ever stopped to think ‘What does believing in myself mean?’

Truth be told, I never really thought about what it means to believe in one’s self until recently.

The common concept to ‘believe in yourself’ means the ability to be confident and proud of your abilities. But what if it goes beyond that? What if there’s more to it than just confidence in one’s ability? 

Come on an Intellectual Journey with me.

1. Ability to discipline yourself.

Show me a man who can control his spirit and I would show you a man who would rule among kings. Believing in yourself means the ability to call yourself to order when you are fucking up. It means the ability to sit down one on one with yourself and talk sense into yourself. Personally, for me, believing in myself means being able to rule over me.

2. Doing whatever it takes.

I am scared and impressed by a man who can do whatever it takes. When you say ‘I am willing to do whatever it takes, it means you are willing to go over and beyond. You are willing to go the full distance plus the extra miles needed. You are not leaving it to chance to blow its winds of opportunities on you. You are actively positioning yourself in Luck’s way so that you would be favoured by it. Having a Can do and Will do attitude.

3. Ability to recognise one flaws:

In this world, people will tell you your flaws. That’s a given. But think about how much you will grow when you are able to identify your flaws yourself and nip them in the bud before someone else can point them out. It means the ability to critically do a self -introspection and come up with areas that need to change.

When you are able to do this and more, you will find yourself stubbornly believing in your ability to win and Life giving numerous opportunities to prove yourself.

Our Surroundings and the impact it makes on our dreams:

Ambitious people need ambitious people to survive. You have to go all out to make certain ambitious persons your friends. Not because you are seeking opportunities from them (at the moment) but because you need their spirit to influence yours. You need them to give you the ginger. You need them to influence you greatly.

If you are someone who is very ambitious, I would advice you to hang out with the very ambitious. Their lofty dreams will water yours and keep you from dying off. 

On the other hand, when you do not associate with the ambitious and choose to hang out with people who do not necessarily make an impact to your life, your lofty ambitions die off slowly. You will find yourself lonely yet in the midst of people because they don’t share your zeal for life. You find their complacency irritating, you find their standards annoying. It would seem they can be more but choose not to be more and that becomes annoying. 

Most importantly, you will find that you resent yourself as you gradually slip into that lure of complacencies. On this note, I would advice you to find your tribe. Your tribe of ambitious people.

One Random Thought:

The biggest mistake you coming from an average home can make is believing you can afford to be lackadaisical, especially when those from privilege are. They have a safety nest. You, my dear, have a one time opportunity. Hit it or forget it. Playing when you ought to be working because your privileged friends are playing is stupidity in it’s highest form.

Till I write you again, let's do the very best we can and pray strongly to the Heavens to guide our path.

In Concern,

Osinachi Akanegbu.

Somewhere in Africa.