Anger

Dumela!

Today I am greeting you in Setswana. I am acquiring new skills, especially in relation to languages in 2023.So every day I will greet you in a different language, starting from today.

Interesting fact:

Over 7,000 languages are spoken all over the world, and language is an essential component of human culture and communication. Some are spoken widely, while others are only used by a select few. Source: New Vision Theatres

Yes, today we are discussing Anger. Do we ever talk about anger or even angry people and angry teenagers?No, we don't.Smaller children even have anger towards parents or even towards their peers and teachers.

What is Anger?

Anger is an emotion characterised by antagonism toward someone or something you feel has deliberately done you wrong. Anger can be a good thing. It can give you a way to express negative feelings, for example, or motivate you to find solutions to problems. But excessive anger can cause problems.

Is anger natural or learned?

Many think this is a genetic condition. However, most experts agree that anger is a learned behaviour, assuming that it is not stemming from Bipolar Disorder or any other mental illness. A family teaches a child how to express feelings such as being happy, sad, scared, and even angry.

What is happening that anger is seen as normal in today's society?

Anger is a natural, adaptive response to threats; it inspires powerful, often aggressive, feelings and behaviours, which allow us to fight and to defend ourselves when we are attacked. A certain amount of anger, therefore, is necessary to our survival.

What are the reasons of anger in society?

Everyone has their own triggers for what makes them angry, but some common ones include situations in which we feel:

• threatened or attacked.
• frustrated or powerless.
• like we're being invalidated or treated unfairly.
• like people are not respecting our feelings or possessions.

Is anger a normal behaviour?

We all feel angry at times – it's part of being human. Anger is a normal, healthy emotion, which we might experience if we feel: attacked.

What are the positive effects of anger?

Research overwhelmingly indicates that feeling angry increases optimism, creativity, effective performance—and research suggests that expressing anger can lead to more successful negotiations, in life or on the job. In fact, repressing anger can actually hurt you.

Is anger ever healthy?

Well-managed anger can be a useful emotion that motivates you to make positive changes. On the other hand, anger is a powerful emotion and if it isn't handled appropriately, it may have destructive results for you and those closest to you.

What is the value of anger?

Anger can motivate us to enact positive change.Whilst some of the more joyful emotions tend to guide us towards the positive, anger can guide us away from the negative – which is just as important. Anger has the power to move us away from dangerous or destructive people, places or even systems or beliefs.

What is the strongest form of anger?

Being Enraged. This is the stage when you feel completely out of control. You may exhibit destructive behaviour when your anger reaches this point, such lashing out physically, excessive swearing, or threatening violence.

How do I know if my child has anger issues?

Their Behaviour Is Dangerous to Themselves or Others.When a child has anger issues, their behaviour impacts everyone around them. They may throw themselves on the ground and pound their fists or lash out at anything within reach. Your child may throw toys or look for something to hit or break while they are angry.

When should I worry about child aggression?

If your child seems to be unusually aggressive for longer than a few weeks, and you cannot cope with his behaviour on your own, consult your pediatrician. Other warning signs include: Physical injury to himself or others (teeth marks, bruises, head injuries). Attacks on you or other adults.

Is it bad to go to bed angry at your partner?

The self-affirming belief of ‘never going to bed angry’ may not always come to your rescue while resolving fights with your partner. You will face a few fights that will consume your days and nights. It does not translate into a fact that all the fights will be unresolvable for longer periods of time. It depends on you and your partner as to how you settle issues. 

Taking a Pause and Sleeping It Off is the best advise I follow.Yes, I get so mad sometimes at my partner but rather prefer to calm down before I continue to argue.

Going to bed angry can sometimes resolve problems on its own, as it allows you to calm down and think objectively about the situation. Sleeping it off might seem like a very passive approach to settling an issue, but it can be the best way to deal with things for some couples.

Why do partners get angry?

People often act in an angry way because they think they are not being heard, not being taken seriously, or not being appreciated. They may feel disappointed and ignored. To avoid inflaming your partner's anger, it is wise to actively listen to them until you are sure they feel heard and understood.

How an angry partner affects you?

Too much anger can damage any marriage or relationship. Over time, it can cause contempt and resentment. When one or both partners express anger in uncontrolled ways, inevitably, this will cause hurt in one or both of you. Hurt feelings can fester and become the underlying reason for fights and arguments.

What to do after a really bad argument?

Repairing your relationship after an argument is not always possible but it does not hurt to try.After an argument with your partner, it's important to give each other time and space.Feel your feelings and do not deny yourself the feelings.Use the , I Statements , in so that your partner can understand it is your statement and not from somebody else.Actively listen to what your partner has got to say about the matter.Take a break if needed, your absence may bring about change required.Apologise and reconnect.Make a plan for the future arguments that will follow. Try and communicate in a positive manner with each other.

When will anger destroy a relationship?

If you or your partner is still struggling with anger that negatively impacts your relationship, then you need to see a therapist and possibly participate in an anger management program. Although anger is a natural, human emotion, it can be the source of a lot of pain and anguish in relationships.

What are the 3 types of anger?

There are three types of anger which help shape how we react in a situation that makes us angry. These are: Passive Aggression, Open Aggression, and Assertive Anger. If you are angry, the best approach is Assertive Anger.

What is the psychology of angry people?

Anger is often a reaction to and distraction from inner suffering—feelings such as sadness, powerlessness, shame, anxiety, inadequacy, and isolation. Anger can be both an outgrowth of, and meaningful distraction, from the intense pain of underlying depression.

What are the two kinds of angry people?

There are two kinds of angry people in this world: explosive and implosive. Explosive is the kind of individual you see screaming at the cashier for not taking their coupons. Implosive is the cashier who remains quiet day after day and finally shoots everyone in the store.

What mental illness is anger issues?

Intermittent explosive disorder (IED) is a mental health condition marked by frequent impulsive anger outbursts or aggression.

What is silent anger?

Silent anger is a non-verbal, internal way of experiencing anger. Although you may not verbally express it, it is possible for others to read that you are angry.

Final thoughts:

How do you act with an angry person? What can friends and family do?

1. Stay calm.
2. Try to listen to them.
3. Give them space.
4. Set boundaries.
5. Help them identify their triggers.
6. Support them to seek professional help.
7. Look after your own wellbeing.

Can someone with anger issues change?

People can and do change their behavioural patterns all the time–that's often the goal of therapy. However, people with anger issues can only change if they make a commitment and put in the work.

If you an angry person or you know an angry person, please share this with them or apply these techniques yourself.

Spiritually what does being angry means?

Anger, writes psychotherapist Robert Augustus Masters in his fantastic book Spiritual Bypassing, is “the primary emotional state that functions to uphold our boundaries.” When we feel anger, it's an indication that something is wrong—a boundary has been crossed or a need is not being met.

Finally I can just say to you that control anger before it controls you. Anger can make you feel as though you’re at the mercy of an unpredictable and powerful emotion so learn how to control it.Personally I stay clear from people that disturbs my peace, but we have to find ways to deal with angry people and also on how to control our own angry episodes.

A big thank you to the American psychological association where I found a lot of information regarding anger.Great to have so much information at hand when you need it.