This Athlete's On-Air Flirtation Shows a Big Problem in the Workplace
Justin Bariso
Founder & Principal at EQ Applied | Management Thinker & Doer | Emotional Intelligence Student & Teacher | Inc. and TIME Contributor
This was sad on so many levels.
Chris Gayle, a cricket star who plays for the Melbourne Renegades in Australia, was interviewed live by Mel McLaughlin on Monday night. In response to one of Ms. McLaughlin’s questions, Mr. Gayle said that he wanted to come on an interview with her, “just to see [her] eyes for the first time”, and stated his hope to have her join him for a drink after the game.
Wait. It gets worse.
As Gayle notices McLaughlin looking visibly uncomfortable, he says, with a laugh:
“Don’t blush, baby.”
Unfortunately, I know a great number of women who have experienced this type of discomfort. (I bet you do, too.) Although Gayle’s actions most likely wouldn’t be deemed “sexual harassment” by most courts, it’s a sign of a very large problem for women in the workplace. And it's inexcusable.
I doubt his motives were bad--it was probably a matter of not thinking things through. (We're all guilty of that once in a while.)
But here are just a few reasons why this behavior shouldn’t be tolerated:
It was the wrong place and wrong time.
If you're romantically interested in someone at work, there's a right way to express yourself.
This wasn't it. The way Gayle completely ignores the reporter’s attempt to do her job is extremely unprofessional.
He put her under pressure.
In essence, Gayle asked McLaughlin out in front of a live television audience.
Let me ask the question: Who of you, man or woman, would like to be put in that scenario unexpectedly?
If he was joking (he claims he was), the situation is worse (if that's possible). He reduces the value of her work and potentially embarasses her, in order to get a few chuckles.
His remark was sexist and inappropriate.
“Don’t blush, baby.”
Serious, joke, any way you slice it, there's no place for this type of remark in the workplace.
To his credit, Gayle did offer an apology. As reported by the New York Times:
“ There wasn’t anything at all meant to be disrespectful or offensive to Mel and if she felt that way I’m really sorry for that."
And Ms. McLaughlin's response?
The Times continues:
"Ms. McLaughlin made clear that she had been put off by his remarks, but accepted his apology.”
I won’t attempt to judge the sincerity of Gayle’s repentance, as I don’t know him and am not close to the situation. (He was later fined 10,000 AUD by his team for his remarks.)
In the meantime, I’ve developed an enormous amount of respect for Ms. McLaughlin for the way she handled both the situation and apology.
Although responses to the incident on social media were mostly negative, always outspoken television personality Piers Morgan had this to say:
Come on, Piers. I know political correctness is overdone nowadays, but it's not about that. It's about respecting the opposite sex, and their efforts to do a job properly.
What’s really concerning is how many people agree with Morgan, evidenced by retweets and likes.
But English lawyer Sophia Cannon summed it up better than I can:
To Ms. McLaughlin, and all other women who have experienced similar behavior, please accept an apology on behalf of those who realize that sexism and disrespect in the workplace is a major problem in 2016.
We’ll keep doing our part to help others learn this lesson.
UPDATE: Want to see something interesting? Compare the comments at the end of this post with those found here on Facebook. It's a bigger problem than many realize.
What do you think? I'm curious to hear from you in the comments section.
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8yAlong with knowing you do not wear a bathing suit to the opera or wing tip shoes to the beach, people should know that someone in their workspace is not the place to engage in any activity not related to their job. That includes but is not limited to dating or political or spiritual beliefs.
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8yGreat post Justin. I just got through reading the comments and it amazes me how acceptable this behavior is to some. I had a boss that treated every woman like this referring to all as babe, toots (really) and more colorful ones for those that checked him on his behavior. Many complained yet he remained in a position of power and continued thus behavior and this was in a well known organization. There should be zero tolerance for this nonsense.
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8yDane Reade this is a continuation of our convo last week about how women need allies. Piers Morgan is clearly not one.
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