Balancing the Scales: Easing the Stress of Being and Having 🌱

"Why does it feel like we’re running a race we never signed up for?"

This question sparked me to create an insightful discussion during my recent audio event, Thoughts, Ideas & Discourse (TID) - Anxiety & Stress of 'Being' & 'Having.'

In a world that glorifies “more”—more possessions, more achievements, more validation—many of us grapple with the silent burdens of identity and expectations.

Together, we explored not just the weight of being (our self-worth) and having (our possessions) but also how to thrive amidst this chaos.

The Struggles We Shared 💬

Our incredible attendees offered diverse ways to handle the anxiety of being and having. Let me share their strategies and reflect on the science behind them:

1️⃣ Connecting with Nature

Several attendees, like Ali Abbas and Farah Musharaf , highlighted the grounding effect of nature. From visiting farms to gardening, immersing oneself in greenery seems to reset the mind. 🌱

Science Says: Spending time in nature reduces cortisol levels (the stress hormone) and fosters mindfulness. The act of nurturing plants or walking outdoors redirects your focus, creating a sense of calm and connection.

2️⃣ Physical Activity for Release

Kamran M. Rizwan shared how punching a bag provides catharsis. It’s not about aggression; it’s about channeling pent-up emotions. 💪

Science Says: Exercise triggers the release of endorphins—natural mood elevators—and helps dissipate stress by engaging both the mind and body.

3️⃣ Disconnecting from Digital Burdens

Ali Abbas also spoke about stepping away from phones and social media to reset. 📴

Science Says: Constant notifications and screen time overstimulate the brain, increasing anxiety. A digital detox can help reclaim mental clarity and focus.

4️⃣ Reconnecting with Kids

Farah Musharaf mentioned spending time with children, whether her own or in the neighborhood, as a source of joy. 👶

Science Says: Playing with children fosters laughter, creativity, and a sense of playfulness—natural antidotes to stress. It also strengthens bonds, providing emotional security.

5️⃣ Reading and Positive Self-Talk

zoya zahoor finds solace in books, while Muhammad Omar Iftikhar emphasizes the power of self-affirmations. 📚

Science Says: Reading transports you to different worlds, providing an escape from daily worries. Positive self-talk, on the other hand, rewires your brain to approach challenges with optimism and resilience.

6️⃣ Engaging in Lifelong Learning

For me, the answer lies in learning and upskilling. Whether it’s picking up a new skill or diving into a passion project, growth energizes me. 🎓

Science Says: Engaging the brain in learning builds neural pathways that foster adaptability and boost self-esteem. It’s a reminder that progress, no matter how small, is still progress.

To everyone who attended, shared their stories, and listened with empathy—thank you. Your voices turned this discussion into a tapestry of hope and understanding.

Anxiety and stress are universal, but so are our tools to navigate them. Whether it’s a walk in the park, a book in hand, or the laughter of a child, the key is finding what resonates with you.

Your Next Step 🌟

Take a moment today to reflect: What’s one thing you can do to manage the stress of being and having? It could be as simple as planting a seed, writing an affirmation, or unplugging from your devices. Small changes often lead to big transformations.

👉 Let’s continue the conversation in the comments. What’s your go-to stress relief strategy? Share it below and inspire others!

Let’s thrive, not just survive. 🌱