A change will do you good…

It’s true: a change IS as good as a rest.

Check out this hack: after you’ve been sitting staring at a computer screen for an hour, go to your nearest window or, even better, go outside, and set your eyes to scan the far horizon for the nearest threatening sabre-toothed tiger or mammoth.

Do that for a minute. A whole minute, please and thank you.

Your eye muscles will breathe a sigh of joy and relief, and do the equivalent of a yogic downward dog.

It’s also a brilliant reset for your amazing brain: it refreshes the parts other hacks just don’t reach.

Plus, getting out of your seat is a very good thing to do – the average Brit spends around 70% of their waking hours sitting; and, surprise, surprise, this is making us ill…

Change doesn’t happen overnight, though… It takes time.

I like to think I’m quite good at change, in that I’ve known a lot of it in my life and somehow seem to need it. (Yeah, right. Self-awareness has not historically been my strong point, so if you know me and you want to take issue with that, please feel free.) Maybe it’s the ADHD brain?

When you look at things over time, that’s when you notice the big differences.

Got a couple of years? Then you can grow from this...

To this...

And from this…

 To this:

Want to motor? Got some money to pay people to help you? Then you can do this:

Nothing worth having is with you in seconds, hey?

It took 4 months of washing up on my knees in the bath. Not having a cooker. Having a kitchen in a corner of the lounge. And, in the end, the entire disruption of my whole house for a couple of months (it’s quite little; there was nowhere to hide over the last couple of months!) And all that was after paying for the plans and the structural calcs and paying the building control people...

A big learning curve, but I love it, and I know I'll see the benefits over the next year or two. Thanks to my amazing builders, Paul Morris MCIOB and all of his lovely team who helped make the vision reality. I'll be in touch later re the date for the party! 🥳

Me, I’ve changed too, over the last 4 years or so.

Acclimatised and started to work proactively with the ADHD brain. Dealt with the death of my Dad. The divorce. Learned (still learning…) how to live alone. Rebuilt after the identity crisis of mid-2020 – that was a tricky year, right? Worked out what self-compassion looks like. Tried hard to write over old programming and develop new ways of being. Dumped alcohol for my greater good – that’s 5 months this Friday – and learned a huge amount about the way my body works, and what connects with what. (Everything connects with absolutely everything else – whaddya know?!)

This is what I know.

Transformation is the work of my life.

Whether it’s rescuing worm-infested puppies from a puppy farm; bringing old character back into an existing space to make it work in a modern world; creating a green oasis for nature and for humans to coexist in harmoniously; or judiciously ripping out the ancient and/or derelict to make way for the completely new – it’s my jam.

People are trickier than things and spaces, I find.

You gotta want to change. You have to understand that it’s the journey to find the better, the MORE, that we’re all engaged with, one way or another, and that everyone has to go at their own speed.

You can’t make someone change – forcing it never works or creates resentment and makes people you care about feel like they’re not enough. As someone who’s felt that their entire life, that’s no longer an option for me.

And it’s slow, painful, and often boring AF.

Sometimes it brings tears and dismal ‘failure’ – otherwise known as an opportunity for learning.

Sometimes it brings a momentary ray of blinding luminescence that’s beyond everything that’s been before. Something inside you becomes stronger because it's been forged in a different way, after all the stresses of life have had their impact on it.

I didn’t know what I wanted to write today. But this was it.

💚 For all of us, reading this, here, right now.

 WE ARE ENOUGH. WE ARE AMAZING COSMIC CREATIONS. AND WE ARE ALL JOURNEYING IN OUR OWN WAYS. AT OUR OWN SPEEDS. IN OUR OWN TIMES.

Where you are is the right place for you, right now.

I am meant to be right here.

I’m a coach and wellness practitioner. I have the heart of a teacher. I’m a foodie who celebrates life through food. (I still have plenty of work to do around what food means for me, and that’s ok.) I’m a cheerleader of others, with a brain like a cosmic dot-to-dot puzzle, who knows that she doesn’t have all the answers, but who’s very good at making connections that help people.

I’m involved in the game of Life at the deepest level of my being. Playing to win.

Wherever, and whoever you are, right now, if you need a hand, or a hack, I’m right here for you. Just jump into my DMs.

Thanks for reading; and have a great day. 💚