Comparison Creates Problems: You are Unique

Large numbers of people have lost success, kindness, and happiness in life due to unhealthy comparisons with others. Healthy comparisons promote self-growth, improve kindness and happiness, and benefit society in totality. Here are the main highlights of unhealthy comparisons, and techniques to avoid them.          

# Self-worth

Your life is worthwhile and precious on the earth. Everybody is unique, they came to the world for a special purpose which is incomparable. So comparison should be utilized to improve self-worthiness, kindness, and happiness instead of destroying it. Every person should measure, assess, and self-compare to make their life better than yesterday.

Self-comparison techniques should be followed to avoid unhealthy comparisons;

• Appreciate: Always appreciate everything in your life. Appreciate everybody surrounding you to have a beautiful life.
• Thank You: Regular practice of saying “Thank you” to everybody evens yourself too.
• Practice Walking: Regular walking to change the environment and people surrounding you.
• Meditation and Yoga: Do regular meditation and yoga to improve your mental wellness and physical health. A healthy mind makes the man wealthy.
• Be a Reader and Writer: Read regularly different subjects to improve knowledge and become aware of the past, present, and future. A reader is a good leader to run a happy life. Write your experiences and learning so that others can frame the superior life.
• Be Inspiration: Develop your personality in such a manner that you become an inspiration.
• Belief: Always have a belief in everything for truth and trustworthiness so that you maintain your mental peace. 
• Be Hopeful: Be always hopeful to have Happiness, Opportunities, and Prosperity for Everyone in life. Your hope gives you a positive mindset in life.  
• Be Positive: Always be positive in the hardest situation. Positivity makes miracles in the life.
• Have Patience: Be patient in life. Life is a journey, not a destination.
• Enjoy: Your life is precious and time is irreversible. Enjoy every moment of life.
• Gratitude: Show gratitude for everything whatever you have in your life because things could be worse.
• Kindness Index: Check your kindness index, and review and improve it regularly. Observe your routine record for situations of unkindness and practice slowly to your kindness in all situations.
• Happiness Index: Develop a self-happiness checklist, review and improve the index regularly. Analyze each aspect that gives you pain and practice slowly to reduce and replace from your checklist.

# Self-esteem

Everybody is getting all things except me is the comparison agenda. This comparison of results without root causes reduces self-esteem and your inner confidence. Comparing results only may not be a fair game when every person is living a different life. The results are the process of achieving goals with continuous efforts in the right direction. Many times comparison of atomic habits solves the problems.

# Frustration

Comparison is a very healthy tool for growth mindset but it is found to increase the frustration level in professional and personal life. It may disturb many things like interpersonal relations, peace, growth, etc. So use comparison to improve kindness surrounding your life instead of the frustration.

# Motivation

Comparison is a motivational device for professional and personal growth to achieve various goals. But if the comparison demotivates, increases jealousy, and reduces your kindness then keep sufficient distance from it.

# Introspection

Continuous introspection opens a path of growth in your life. However, comparison with other’s results reduces the introspection capabilities to initiate changes in the negative direction and slowly reduces personal growth.

# Constructive Emotion

Most of the time, comparison is found unhealthy in nature. This comparison makes a person angry and this angriness is the generation of desire and fear which changes your emotions. Anger is one of the most destructive emotions that reduce your kindness.

# Attitude

Divergence in the growth due to the comparison changes the attitude and behavior of a person on many occasions. The individual’s attitude becomes unpredictable i.e. sometimes too good and sometimes too bad based on the situation.

# Mindset

Prolonged frustrations modify individual behavior and angriness, and transform him/her from a positive mindset to a negative or neutral one. A negative mindset personality becomes unkind to self and others. Such a person makes their life a challenge.

# Self-growth

Under comparison instead of a competitive mindset, a person reduces their self-growth in professional, personal, and society.

Competition should be a tool for a happy life and comparison should be basis for the growth.        

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