Courage to Leap & Lead Newsletter 3.2023
CB Bowman-Ottomanelli Courageous Leadership EXPERT / CEO ACEC
CERTIFIED "MICROCOURAGE© DECISION MAKING" turning organizational setbacks into success ▪️ Speaker▪️ Consultant ▪️ Podcaster: Courage to Leap & Lead▪️Association of Corporate Executive Coaches-CEO ▪️ Author ▪️ MG100
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"Courage: To Leap & Lead… the Newsletter” This monthly periodical is focused on implementing Microcourage™ to make a difference in organizations and in life.
Each month we share general information and/ or interviews with thought leaders in all fields who share stories related to "living large" as a result of courage!
In this Issue:
▻ Top 8 Female Authored LinkedIn Newsletters, From MG100
▻ Books
▻ Podcast
5. How to Stay in Touch With Us
The Connection Between Lack Of Courage & C-Suite Suicide
By CB Bowman-Ottomanelli, MCEC, CVP, CVF, CMC, Author, Speaker, Podcaster, Consultant, Executive Coach
In full disclosure I am not a psychologist nor am I a psychotherapist. However, as a corporate executive coach specializing in COURAGE the topic of CEO suicide is both concerning and thought-provoking.
The reasons behind a CEO's decision to take their own life are often complex and can be related to various factors, including depression, financial stress, and lack of courage. In this article, we will focus on the latter. The topic of CEO suicide is both concerning and thought-provoking. The reasons behind a CEO's decision to take their own life are often complex and can be related to various factors, including depression, financial stress, and lack of courage. In this article, we will focus on the latter.
The role of a CEO includes being responsible for an organization's overall strategy and success; this can be highly demanding, both professionally and personally. They must make tough decisions, manage large teams, and maintain a public image that inspires confidence in the company. This responsibility can be a heavy burden. As a result, many find themselves struggling to maintain their mental and emotional well-being.
One theory is that a contributing factor to CEO suicide is a lack of courage. Courage is often defined as facing danger, fear, or difficulty without being intimidated or deterred. This behavior can involve taking bold and decisive actions, even considering adversity. For a CEO, a lack of courage can manifest as a fear of making the wrong decisions, failure, or what others may think of them.
The lack of courage to confront the challenges of their role may result in being overwhelmed and hopeless. This feeling can lead to depression and other mental health issues, which can further compound their stress and anxiety. In some cases, the CEO may turn to drugs or alcohol to cope, which can only exacerbate the situation.
Another aspect to consider of CEO suicide is the stigma surrounding mental health. Even though mental health is widespread and more widely discussed today following Covid, many people in the C-suite remain silent, lacking the courage to speak openly about their struggles with depression, anxiety, or other mental health issues. This silence can still be due to a fear of damaging their reputation or being seen as weak or incapable. Sadly, many may suffer in silence and refuse to seek help, even when it is desperately needed.
The lack of courage can create a vicious circle around a CEO's decision-making ability. When faced with a difficult choice, a CEO with low courage may need help to act decisively and instead become paralyzed with indecision. This paralysis can be particularly problematic in situations where swift action is necessary. In addition, the inability to make quick and confident decisions can further erode self-confidence and contribute to feelings of inadequacy and hopelessness.
The lack of courage can also significantly impact a CEO's relationships with others. When a CEO cannot face challenges or make decisions, they may struggle to effectively lead their team and be present in their personal life. This behavior can lead to frustration and resentment among employees and loved ones and can negatively impact the morale and productivity of the organization and their home life, further exacerbating their isolation and sense of hopelessness.
It is vital for those in the C-suite and organizations to recognize the importance of mental health and provide support and resources for those struggling. With the right help and support, CEOS can find the courage to overcome the challenges they face, lead their organizations with confidence and success, and be present in their personal life.
If you or someone you know is experiencing depression or has had thoughts of harming themself or taking their own life, get help. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (1-800-273-8255) provides 24/7, free, confidential support for people in distress, as well as best practices for professionals and resources to aid in prevention and crisis situations. Help is also available through the Crisis Text Line — just text "HOME" to 741741.
How Much Can Courage Help Eradicate Suicide?
Suicide awareness month takes place in September. However, in doing some research, I came across an article posted in a blog titled "Who is Most Affected by Suicide?" on December 12, 2022, by the American Association of Suicidology written by Ariya Sonethavy. I was compelled to begin this discussion now as a result of the alarming information in her article.
Men—particularly middle-aged men—experience suicide at a significantly higher rate than women. In 2020, the incidence of suicide among men was over three times higher than the rate among women. The reasons for this are complex, but harmful gender norms play a role, as do access to lethal means. In particular, firearms, which are more accessible in the United States than in many other countries, are used in three out of every five suicides.
As one 2019 BBC article pointed out, prevailing gender norms put pressure on men to appear strong, self-sufficient, and in control. Expressions of emotion or vulnerability are often discouraged or stigmatized as being weak. This emotional repression can cause serious mental health concerns for men and may make them more likely to engage in substance use, which has been associated with an increased risk of suicide.
Marginalized genders and queer individuals are also at a greater risk of suicide. This is reflected in the high rates within the LGBTQ community, who are four times more likely to attempt suicide than their non-LGBTQ peers. Suicide rates among trans people, in particular, are of great concern: according to a 2022 study, “82% of transgender individuals have considered killing themselves, and 40% have attempted suicide.”
Among LGBTQ populations, higher suicide rates are generally attributed to discrimination, harassment, family rejection, and compounding social-emotional factors impacting LGBTQ individuals.
As a courage consultant, my mind goes to what role could an increase in courage play in alleviating enough of the pain that results in suicide. In my new book expected out this month, I explore a new concept of Microcourage™. This concept encourages us to celebrate everyday actions that help us reach our goal and importantly it gives us permission to celebrate failures. Failures are considered life universities where we can extrapolate knowledge to support our positive growth.
Biggest Voices in Leadership
Thank you to LeadersHum and everyone who supported me and to all of my colleagues who made the 2023 list:
A special Thank you to leadersHum and to all of those who supported me like Marshall Goldsmith ; members of MG100; MarshallBOT , Members of the Association of Corporate Executive Coaches™ (ACEC) ; Ana Melikian, PhD Sally Helgesen Sanyin Siang
Recommendations of the Month:
Top 8 Female Authored LinkedIn Newsletters...From Marshall Goldsmith's MG100 ...Spread the word:)!:
Recommended by LinkedIn
Books:
"Rising Together"...How We Can Bridge Divides and Create a More Inclusive Workplace
by Sally Helgesen Foreword by Marshall Goldsmith
Preorder "Rising Together "and you’ll receive a free invitation to attend a 90-minute Zoom workshop with Sally on April 11th, 2023.
In this follow-up to her international bestseller How Women Rise, Sally Helgesen draws on three decades of work with executives and aspiring leaders around the world to offer practical ways to build more inclusive relationships, teams, and workplaces.
Participants at leadership conferences often tell Sally, “Please don’t spend your time telling us why developing and retaining a diverse workforce is important. We get it. The problem is, we don’t know how to do it.” Rising Together provides that missing how in full detail by identifying both what holds us back and specific tactics that can help us move forward.
First, Sally identifies the eight common triggers most likely to undermine our ability to collaborate across divides—not only of gender, but also of age, ethnicity, race, sexuality, and life experience. These triggers are widespread, yet rarely acknowledged. They include differences in how people from different backgrounds view ambition, competence, perceptions, fairness, communication, networks, attraction, and humor.
Sally then offers specific practices designed to address these triggers: simple behavioral tweaks that we can use on a daily basis; a method for informally enlisting allies to hold us to account; and a means for cultivating and disseminating the dynamic power of we.
Rising Together is for readers at every stage and level in their careers who recognize that building a broad range of relationships is essential to their advancement, now and in the future. This book also serves as an indispensable guide for HR, diversity, and leadership professionals tasked with addressing the misunderstandings, resentments, and derailments caused by the eight triggers. Sally’s focus on behaviors—how we act—rather than bias—how we think—promises to redirect the inclusion conversation in a grounded, real-world way that brings us together.
"Wonderhell"
By Laura Gassner Otting
Wonderhell offers a roadmap to creating the mindset that lets you move forward in life, even when your success tells you to stop right there. Highlighting stories of people who have pushed forward to achieve a new definition of success with insights from the author’s own experiences along the way, readers will slay their impostor syndrome, banish their doubts, manage their burnout, and make way for their limitless potential.
The book debuts on April 4. Loads of details at WonderhellBook.com
Podcasts:
If you’re wondering what it takes to become courageous, join me each week! This is where I interview leaders and ask them "As a leader how have you turned failure into success?" These are incredible stories of people who like the Phonex have risen to conquer failure. Tuesdays 12noon-1:00pm MT
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Events:
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1yIt takes courage to tackle such a tough--and undiscussed--subject like CEO suicide. Eye-opening. Congratulations, CB, on being a LeadersHum voice in leadership. And thank you for including me in your listing of newsletters by MG100 women.
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1yCB Bowman-Ottomanelli MCEC, CMC, CVP, CVF — SPEAKER, FACILITATOR, AUTHOR Such an amazing opportunity to learn and grow. Thank you for your hard work in putting this newsletter together!
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1yThank you CB Bowman-Ottomanelli MCEC, CMC, CVP, CVF — SPEAKER, FACILITATOR, AUTHOR for having the courage to address such an important topic and for being committed to helping others.
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