Declaring Independence From “Should”
Dear Readers,
Hoping you enjoyed some time to rest, reconnect, and recharge over the past week, even for a few hours.
In our city we have an annual event held each year on the 4th of July called World One. It’s a lovely, all-ages festival with live music from all over the world, food + drinks, and booths filled with local crafts and community groups. Its focus is on celebrating rich multiculturalism, and the event leaders offer us to imagine living in a state of mutually supportive “interdependence” as we celebrate Independence Day.
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Here's a question for you.
What’s your relationship with the word “should”?
For years mine was fraught. To be honest it still is sometimes. I was raised Catholic, and being a good and service-oriented child was expected. These qualities are great, to a certain point. After that, they become obstacles to knowing and caring for ourselves, as we become so habituated to putting the demands of others and society first that we lose touch with our own inner compass.
Sure, there are some basic things we “should” do to build a healthy foundation: make time and space for adequate sleep, exercise, and nourishing food, tend to our mental and emotional wellbeing, support our loved ones to the best of our ability, stay off the hard drugs…
But what about the countless other “shoulds” that we’ve absorbed over the years from culture, family, friends? The things that often dictate our choices and actions, even if they are not actually related to our wellbeing or that of our loved ones or even our communities?
Here are a few you might be familiar with, particularly if you are a woman.
What about those? And so many like them?
The ones that keep you “in your place”, that keep you small and quiet, that urge you to put yourself last on your to-do list, that keep you from making waves, and that often lead you to betray yourself in the interest of complying, serving, or achieving that elusive (and ultimately imprisoning) state of dependence on external approval.
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Well, on this Independence Week, I invite you to declare your independence from the word SHOULD.
Here’s how:
Want to share a “should” you are releasing? I’d love to hear about it. You got this!
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Hi! I'm Cara, a Career Strategist and Empowerment Coach helping high impact women leaders step into their power & go from burned out to lit up in their lives and careers ✨
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1yThis is brilliant! That image of all the shoulds in a woman's life really hit home, Cara E. Houser.