Domestic Violence

I am writing this article today, with great sadness in my heart.

This morning I got up to watch the gorgeous Sun rise and upon my return to my room, happened upon a neighboring young couple get into an argument just below my vantage point.

It came without much to do when it escalated, and then he laid hands on her, and my heart just about jumped out of my chest.

As many of you already know from a previous video I'd posted on my YouTube channel, I don't tolerate such behavior and not even six months ago, almost killed a guy for doing the same thing while on a walk.

I ran in between them and defended her at that time, only to have her turn on me, as has happened before, and I'd finally learned my lesson.

But that doesn't mean I wouldn't still do the right thing here.

So I reported it, with an incident report and had to let it play out from there, even though all I wanted to do was beat him into a grave.

Such are the issues of being a real man in a world full of boys.

Though everything inside of me ached for justice, the reality I've experienced, is that it must come from her, when she's ready and not me.

All I can do is report it and let her know that I cared enough to say something, and that if need be, I am here for her.

But the greater question that it leaves us is with is that there must be a better way?

There must be a better way to reach our young sisters and let them know their worth.

There must be a better way to let them know that they can leave.

There must a better way to let them know that there are men out there that will easily replace the boys who would ever lay hands on them.

But even I don't see them, do you?

We see people celebrated for behaving badly.

We see people rewarded for their looks.

We see power couples where there are indications that their are issues at home, but tell the young women that it's part of how it works.

"You take the good with the bad, and you just make it work."

But at what cost?

As I sat there holding myself back from beating this deadbeat to death, I suddenly caught a glimpse of a daughter to come and I saw red.

I would easily go to jail for her, for manslaughter I realized, and what followed was an Epiphany.

That is the role of a father, isn't it?

To instill in his young daughters a safety net from which she would be reassured that no matter what, he would be there for her and do what he must to keep her safe.

So it is in that manner that I write this piece this morning.

To all you young ladies out there, let me stand in your absent fathers shoes and tell you straight out, you're much to valuable to the Source of all creation then, to ever think you must just take abuse from anyone.

There is no man or women greater than that energy, so when anyone ever tries to intimidate or beat you, just know that all you need to do is walk away and the universe will catch you.

Our culture has been so conditioned to understand that if you involve yourself, that you may have repercussions for your involvement, but as a future father let me say, it would be worth it to me to know that you got involved, and that even subconsciously, to her as well.

It will help me know that as a community we stand as one in supporting our girls in knowing that people are looking out for them, but that in the end, it would have to be her choice as to if she took them up on their helping hands.

When you live in darkness, then all you would know is what is available to you in that space, that is until one day, a source of light begins to break through and illuminate their understanding that there is a new direction available, if you should just choose to follow that light.

We have an inequality issue here, plain and simple.

Women have been conditioned to believe that it's parr for the course, that everyone gets one of these and that they must keep quiet about it, or else they would be embarrassed from people finding out.

We need to change that, and change it quickly.

To the young ladies out there, the truth is, that when you leave we applaud you.

The truth is that when you leave, you find your sisters who've survived the same situation as you have.

And when you leave, you take your children to safety and the heavens rejoice you.

Because what your kids are witnessing at home will define who they become and what they believe is commonplace behavior in their own relationships.

When you leave, you end the cycle

You end a cycle of thousands of years of toxic masculinity and you give new space in your life for the arrival of sublime masculinity, where boys have become men, and where they will cherish you.

They will see you as the courageous woman that you've grown into by slamming the door on that girl you once were.

No one has the right to ever hit you or smack you into submission, you have our permission to do what you have to do to exit the scene to safety and the world will be there to defend you, not make fun of you.

That is your birth right, and not something you should be fighting to gain.

Just another example where you'll see an army suddenly appear around you reassuring you that you are never alone.

That Soul tribe will stand by you come what may, all you need to do is leave.

To the leaders out there, this is a nonpartisan issue.

We need more funding for women's shelters, for advocacy groups and more televised testimonials from survivors who share their light with the world.

We need unity here, not nickel and dime B.S where you place your businesses above the rights of our women.

Human rights always trump anything materialistic and we know it.

We need to do more than just send our daughters a message, we need to show them action, and all the joy that awaits them when they leave.

And if all else fails, at least show them what happens to these "boys" when they do get arrested and sent to jail, and what men then do to them in prison, in your honor.

It may be a tad lower vibrational thing to say, but let's just say Karma is a bitch!

I'm tired of our young girls being hurt, I'm tired of our children being hurt, I'm tired of humanity being hurt.

And as a Collective, we have all the power in the world to do something about it right now!

Enough excuses, the old ways don't work and we need to change that now.

It may require unity on our parts but look into your daughters/ child's eyes, and tell me to my face, that it's not worth it.

Tell me that it's worth the gamble to let them suffer, or that their needs are less important than oil refineries or stupid political debates, over stuff that doesn't matter to them when they become corpses.

Tell me, that your daughters just don't matter to you.

Tell me, that your children just aren't worth the changes needed.

Tell me, that your okay with someone laying a hand on your children, and then notice that these women are exactly the same as your daughter.

Unity is equality, don't you agree?

No more blinds eyes on our part as to what's needed here.

It's time to raise the bar, or better known as raise our Collective's vibration and act on what's needed.

We need to begin building bridges that help our people out of the holes they've been indoctrinated to be in.

We need team work here!

Our sisters need us right now, more than ever.

The more pressure you put on the Collective out of fear, the more abusive cowards become, and the more of us that get hurt.

Right now, they are suffering more than ever, and we know it, so let's do something about it now, not later.

And if anyone says to us that it's none of our business then it's time to start looking at them sideways and reading between the lines for what they're hiding.

Just saying....

Enough is enough.

Al Arevalo