Embracing the Eternal: A Different Perspective on Death and Dying

Let's consider a topic few want to talk about: death and dying. 

I am writing about death and dying after my mother's death on May 8th, which was a blessing both for her and the family, as she suffered terribly at the end from non-Hodgkin disease and dementia. 

A different perspective on death

Rightly or wrongly, I will not be attending her funeral, nor will I be watching. Not because I didn't love my mother or we had a problematic relationship. I am honouring what feels fitting for me. 

As an empowerment mentor, how can I stay true to my work to help women succeed in following their hearts if I don't follow mine? 

My reasons are simple. 

🧓 Mum and I had discussed death and dying over the years, which was something she was scared of because of the unknown. Another thing that worried Mum was being alone when she passed. However, she had a family member with her.  

I see death not as an ending but the chance to begin again. There is nothing to fear; family, friends, and pets who have gone before are waiting for you. So why be fearful? 

I don't believe there is a heaven and hell; we are souls here to grow and expand through experiences. In doing so, we can decide whether to be reincarnated. 

I have been understandably upset, but I am more grateful she is at peace now. Mum moved to Devon to be close to the rest of the family due to her dementia. I said my goodbyes to her when she left the hospital because I knew that would be the last time I would see her or have a cohesive conversation with her.  

I have grieved for Mum during the last six months. It was a wrench to see her go, but I recognised it was time for me to let go of the responsibility of supporting her emotionally for over 20 years. 

I have also received comfort in discovering that so many signs indicate she is okay.  

The signs:

💖 Mum died on the 8th - 8 turned on its side is the infinity sign - eternal. 

💖 Dying at 5.05 pm. 5's are about change. 5+5=10 1+0 =1 The number of new beginnings, unity and oneness. Mum had joined the collective oneness, being whole, not separated. 

💖 8 /5/2024 8+5 =13 - signifies the feminine number of the moon, the 13 lunar months, and the women's cycle, 1+3+4 associated with the feminine. 

💖 8+5+2+0+2+4 = 21 2+1 =3 symbolises the principle of increase and growth, expansion and abundance on the mental, emotional, financial and spiritual levels. I assume the expansion, abundance, and growth are due to her being in the spirit world. 

💖 My father's birthday was May 20th, and Mum died on the 8th. Put the two together to get 28, my birth date: 2+8=10, 1+0=1, and the number of new beginnings.

💖 Dad died on the 15th May, and Mum the 8th 1+5+8 = 14 1+4=5 the number of change. 

💖 Mum's funeral service is booked for May 20th at 3.30 pm. Dad's birthday, and 12 days after her passing. 1+2 = 3, the number of increase and growth. The service commences at 3.30 pm. 3+3 = 6, symbolising unconditional love, balance, and harmony.   

💖 The 8th was a New Moon, representing new beginnings, and the moon represents feminine energy. 

Mum is now a spirit and can communicate with me, just as my father did when he passed. 

But Mum and Dad are with me, as I am a combination of them. So, although they have left physically, they are still with me. 

Therefore, I do not want or need to say goodbye to her body. 

Maybe it may seem strange to you, but I will spend time with her when Mum's ashes are laid in the exact location as my Dad's, Mum's Dad, my Grandad - born on May 28th, and Mum's mum, my Grandmother - died on May 28th. I will be paying my respects to them at the same time.

There's ample confirmation, Mum, okay, don't you think?

I hope that in sharing my experience, you can speak of dying and death with your loved ones, as often there are many words unsaid because of fear.

What sychronistic events or situations have you witnessed?  

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