Facing Setbacks, Finding Strength: Lessons Learned from a Challenging Job

Early on in my career, I encountered a leader who epitomized the phrase "toxic boss." My days became a rollercoaster ride dictated by their mood swings, leaving me feeling disengaged, undervalued, and questioning my existence in the company.

At first, I wasn't sure how to deal with the situation. I tried different things, like ignoring it, pushing back, and shutting myself off. Unfortunately, none of those approaches worked. My work started suffering, and while I didn't quit, it took a toll on my confidence. In hindsight, I should have left. However, this challenging experience turned into a powerful driver for growth and shaped my career path.

Here's what I learned:

1. Self-belief is your anchor: Amidst external negativity, holding onto your core worth is crucial. You are capable and deserving, regardless of the circumstances.

2. Choose your environment wisely: Surround yourself with leaders who inspire and empower you, not those who diminish your spirit. And trust me, I've been blessed with the best after that, but always seek mentors who invest in your growth and celebrate your victories.

3. The power of perspective: Recognize that difficult situations can offer valuable lessons. Use them to refine your skills and build resilience. I know it's easier said than done, and it was hard to look at life with this lens back then, but the only reason I could survive that stint was by being positive.

4. Communication is key: Open and honest communication, both with yourself and others is important. Learn to advocate for your needs and well-being. I tried it to a certain degree and it would make things better, momentarily though. But don't be afraid to walk away from situations that are detrimental to your personal and professional growth.

But my learning didn't stop there. As I transitioned into leadership roles myself, I vowed to:

5. Lead with respect: Treat every team member with dignity and respect, acknowledging their unique strengths and contributions.

6. Empower, not control: I believe that everyone wants to do their best at work. You just need to equip them with the resources and autonomy they need to thrive, and they'll do their best.

7. Be the leader you wish you had: Give credit when it's due. Appreciate more often. Create a positive and supportive work environment where individuals feel valued, heard, and empowered to reach their full potential.

Navigating a toxic workplace was a challenging journey, but it ultimately paved the way for personal and professional growth. By sharing my experience, I hope to inspire others to cultivate self-belief, choose their workplace strategically, and ultimately, soar high in their careers, regardless of the initial headwinds they may face.