The Fist Energy

When I was in my twenties, the idea of having sons was terrifying for me. The threat of having to deal with violence, lust for firearms - even if in plastic imitation - and fascination for shoot-them-up games - first live and then video - made my hair stand up. I couldn't face it.

So no, I'm not going to talk about the value of fist brawls or physical violence.

Time for change

What I call the Fist Energy is the energy liberated when you are so fed up with something that your whole being shouts: Enough! No more! It's time for this to change!

Have you ever wondered why you know so many things on how to lead a better life (habits regarding sleep, food, alcohol, relationships, money, ...) and yet put so little into practice? Have you ever wished your "I should... " list were shorter and your "I do..." list richer?

All life is preconceived to use as little energy as possible. Although as human beings exploiting this planet we tend to have difficulties remembering this rule, energy saving is a universal life rule. Nature never squanders energy. It will always choose the path of least resistance, the easiest way, the most energy-effective one. And we humans are part of nature, as evolved or degenerated as we are. We are driven by the same rules. Biologically.

The known world is cheap, energy-wise. It is a world made of habits and security, which on some level are the ingredients for confort. Change, on the other side, implies stepping into the unknown, an expensive venture energy-wise. You have to transform the unknown into known territory, and transformation costs energy. Go ask your favorite nuclear physicist if you have any doubt about this affirmation.

Tipping the balance

So before you can dive into changing habits or implementing something new in your life, you have to tip the balance and make stepping into the new and unknown cheaper than putting up with staying as you are. That happens when you slam your fist on the table of your life and shout Enough! It liberates a well of energy that fuels transformation. Suddenly the balance tips and change becomes less costly than statu quo.

The next question is obviously how can we provoke this raz-le-bol, and to that I don't have the answer. Not an easy, replicable, step1-2-3 trigger at least. For some people it follows a severe illness, an accident or a separation. Often a crisis is involved. For my part it has been the famous midlife crisis.

Consciousness and self love

What I'd like to impart on you is the consciousness of this process and the self love it inspires. There are times when we complain about how things are in our life (or work, business, relationship, ...) and do nothing relevant to make things change. In those times, it is so easy to condemn ourselves for being passive and abuse ourselves with harsh words and thoughts.

Understanding and being conscious of what I described as the Fist Energy allows us to be kind and caring right here and now, knowing that the energy is welling up and we are not just lazy a**h**. Understanding and being conscious of the Fist Energy also enables us to appreciate the emotions of anger, fury, disgust that liberate their transformative energy and put their gift to good use instead of repressing them.

When you recognize these emotions for what they are and what they bring, you can welcome them and hop on the rocket they offer. I just hopped on the last one that passed by this week, and things are moving! I'm looking forward to all the good that will come out of it and sharing it to inspire you to take the leadership of your life.

By the way, Life granted me two sons and I survived. I've even been learning a great deal and it's never over!

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About the author

Joëlle Dey-Boada helps women who are ready to get to the next level take the leadership of their lives and fill it with meaning, contribution, joy and freedom.

You can find her on her blog du-reve-a-la-realite.net and her website energie-de-vie.ch, where a welcoming gift is awaiting you.

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