Get Ghosted Is Good!
Hello Friends!
There are few experiences that are as frustrating as being ghosted - whether by a promising sales lead, a recruiter, or even a long-standing client. It can feel deeply personal, leaving you questioning your value and actions. However, there’s an empowering silver lining to this seemingly negative experience. Being ghosted can build self-confidence, strengthen your resilience, and teach you valuable lessons about control and self-worth.
In today's article, we’ll explore why being ghosted can actually be a good thing, how it reveals more about others than about you, and ways to turn this frustrating experience into an opportunity for growth.
It's Not About You
Let’s get one thing straight: being ghosted says more about the person doing the ghosting than it does about you. Research indicates that avoidance behaviors, like ghosting, are often a reflection of the ghoster’s inability to handle conflict or discomfort, rather than a direct judgment of the person being ghosted.
In a 2018 study published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, ghosting was linked to fear of confrontation or emotional discomfort. This applies just as much to professional relationships as personal ones. For example:
Recognizing that these behaviors are typically about their limitations, and not your worth, can be liberating.
What You Can Control: Focus on Yourself
Being ghosted is an excellent reminder of a universal truth: you can only control what you can control. Your behavior, attitude, and professionalism are within your power; others’ actions are not.
Here’s how this mindset builds confidence:
When I’ve been ghosted in my consulting and speaking practice, I remind myself that I acted with integrity. I followed up professionally, provided value, and respected the relationship. Their silence is their choice, not a reflection of my worth.
Turning Ghosting Into Growth
Ghosting can feel like a dead end, but it’s actually a fork in the road. Here’s how to leverage these moments for growth:
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The Art of Letting Go
It’s human nature to dwell on unanswered emails or texts, but obsessing over ghosting can sap your energy and confidence. Instead, practice the art of letting go.
For me, the hardest part of being ghosted was letting go of the lingering “why.” Over time, I realized that closure doesn’t come from others; it comes from within.
Parting Words
Ghosting may sting in the moment, but it’s far from a dead end. It’s a chance to step back, reflect, and grow. When you shift the narrative from one of rejection to one of self-empowerment, you regain control of your confidence and direction.
Remember:
Most importantly, don’t let someone’s silence dim your self-belief. You are not defined by who ghosts you but by how you show up, again and again, with confidence, resilience, and purpose.
After all, the opportunities meant for you will find their way—ghosts and all.
Until next time, Stay Confident!
Thought Of The Week
A weekly thought to meditate, ruminate, and/or ponder on:
"You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them." - Maya Angelou
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