High Value Woman vs Misconceptions

We continue to shape a sustainable future with high value women at all levels and walks of life!

Today morning I woke up in the mood of "what makes a high value woman". Luckily, Benjamin Zulu Ke helped me digest the nutritious gist. 

A high value woman:

√ Knows how to find peace and life on her own. She knows what makes her happy. To many men, this is dangerous independence because she doesn't wait for a man to give her life.

√ Has some special high energy that some men covet and want to siphon it, her time, and vibe without adding. 

√ Has a big vision and planned life on what she wants and what she doesn't want. Her dreams look so unrealistically big from where she stands but they are so REAL! Her desire for a man is to marry the visions before love. 

√ She financially plans herself through: the skills she's building to sell, the networks she's intentionally making, and the places she's going. 

√ Has the femininity and composure, but also the capacity to build wealth and greatness.

√ She knows that; in every level she is in, people keep falling off. Some start being envious and hurtful to her. But she does not wallow in that! She M.O.V.E.S!

It's been a full blown day of self reflections! While I saw an original picture of myself in all the points, I fully understood why I always feel like I'm in my own wild world. 

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But then, I just turned back to my society to reload how much we still need to fix because misconceptions are still draining us. This time, I'll wear my Pan-African gown. 

In my society: Many men want to control every single thing in the life of a woman as if she is a robot. 

They forget she is an HUMAN BEING, fragile and tender in addition. Her emotions and mood matter for a better family.

It's so sad that the same roots penetrate into the hearts of young generations and are passed on and on. 

Some men continue to physically, sexually and verbally abuse women, even those that have helped or have the potential of helping them in life. I am a victim of this. 

Women continue to be emotionally, mentally and physically unstable as a consequence. And the society is blown into silence at that.

When Girls have been given a chance to study in school just like boys, 

And they do better than the young men, now the volume has been added and the concept magnified as "Too much girl child empowerment". 

What did you expect when the hard working and brilliant girls are taken to school?  

Did you want us to still coil back  and let the boys lead ? Come on!! We are also competent.

The hard truth remains, 

Some of the society's men still want to stay in the "status quo" state of overly bossing women around. Some women have grown up, hurt and got used to it. 

But let me tell you, we will not settle for less in the name of pleasing toxic hearts. 

If you feel it is too much, get ready for the Tsunami when all you thought "should be", now takes a new leaf.

A better society sees men's and women's unique abilities fully maximized. 

Not suppression of one side to let the other authoritatively thrive. 

One thing I know is that: Women's energy cannot be suppressed for long! 

Just as Africa's energy even in the face of the storm of neediness.

I love active, bold and respectful men. 

My plea is a change of mindset for older men especially in my Africa. 

Please stop the crap of feeling like you must do all the hard things even when they will cost a part of you or life to be a man. 

Cry if you must, it's part of being human.

Let the young boys grow up to own up and emotionally connect to their wives and the children of their genes and the society. It is an investment for a coming tomorrow.

It is not a must that every woman you meet or see be your object of use in whichever way. 

We as young women, also want to have respectful brothers around us. I have found it so difficult to even hug and encourage many young men who have double minds and many toxic misconceptions.

We can not be same!

We complement each other! 

We need a paradigm shift!

 #EvolvingSociety

Hey Africa, My love for you is abundant!

©Girl of the African Soil