How to build self-confidence

In my last blog I introduced the concept of self-confidence – looking in depth at what it exactly means.

As a quick reminder, the Cambridge Dictionary defines self-confidence as: ‘the belief that you can do things well and that other people respect you.’

Quite simply, it means you accept and trust yourself and have a sense of control in your life.

So, to build on this understanding, I now want to look at the steps you can take to dismiss your fears and misconceptions and “Spring Forward with Learning (how I define Resilience) by gradually building self-confidence.

As a simple guide, I recommend the following.

Slow and steady wins the race

Never think you must change everything at once or set yourself unrealistic and unachievable goals.

Instead, focus on the incremental steps which can lead to sustainable changes in your behaviour. Setting small, easily met objectives will empower you to build on your success and constantly feel more confident continually. By starting small, you’ll work up to more intimidating yet impactful milestones with less anxiety.

Asking questions

Perhaps your lack of knowledge reinforces a lack of confidence. Why not start asking effective questions? By doing so you’ll increase your knowledge, make fewer preventable mistakes, and learn to advocate for yourself.

Consider how you dress

It may seem a simple and inconsequential question, but how do your clothes make you feel? Wearing a well put together outfit has been shown to heighten confidence.

At the same time, pay attention to your body language. Good posture doesn’t just convey confidence but helps build it as well. Ensure you always stand or sit up straight with your head held high.

Recognise your value

Never forget that you wouldn’t have a job if your boss didn’t think you had something valuable to contribute to the team. Don’t let a lack of qualifications or experience detract from your current strengths and skills. Instead, acknowledging what makes you unique is integral to building your confidence and self-worth. Pay particular attention to playing to your Strengths, those things that naturally energise you and find as many ways as possible to tap into these natural energisers.

Accept mistakes and failures

Errors and setbacks are an inevitable part of the personal development process. Instead of beating yourself up, let your self-awareness help you accept your failures and learn from your mistakes. Once again – Spring Forward with Learning.

The importance of mentoring

Alongside considering having a Coach, find a mentor to share career insights and advice from their own experience, provide a sounding board for ideas, and give you confidence to face challenges. With their support, knowledge, and guidance you’ll feel ready and confident to meet your goals.

Dismiss negativity

Relying on negative language can impact how others see you. Instead, focus on your strengths. For example, when starting a new role highlight your fresh perspective as a source of innovation instead of putting down your lack of company knowledge.

At the same time, constantly focus on your strengths. This will help develop a more uplifting mindset which builds confidence instead of tearing it down. Writing down positive thoughts on sticky notes and positioning them strategically around your workspace will help immediately remind you of your strengths.

Knowledge is power

Always remember that It’s much easier to speak with authority when you know what you’re talking about. Keep your finger on the pulse of industry trends, research, and developments through social media, certifications, and conversations with senior management. Becoming the ‘go-to’ person for all the latest information, will soon prove to be a great confidence booster.

Look out for further blogs in this series – “Why is self-confidence important?” and “What are the benefits of self-confidence?”

If you need further information about this approach, or any other Resilience topic, please contact russell@theresiliencecoach.co.uk