How To Give Yourself Grace Without The Scarcity

Feeling down on yourself lately?

It’s normal to have these moments, no matter who you are or how much money you have. We all feel insecure or frustrated with ourselves at times, but it’s important to realize that we should give ourselves grace during these moments. We deserve to give ourselves some love, a break from hate. Why waste our lives feeling sorry for ourselves? It’s time to give grace without the scarcity; let’s dive into my top five tips on how to do so:

1 - Don’t strive to be perfect

Instead of being a perfectionist, aspire to be real. Realize that nobody, truly NOBODY, is perfect. We’re just not programmed to be - and that’s okay! Embrace your imperfections, or what you assume are your weaknesses. Everything about you - the good, the bad, and the ugly - make you you. So be proud of that! In this day and age, being real and authentic trumps being perfect in every area imaginable - us as a society have grown up a bit, so don’t feel like you need to meet others’ expectations or create high standards for yourself. It’s okay to just be you.

2 - Don’t feel bad forever after one mistake

Who else used to obsess over their mistakes for weeks on end? I’m sure it’s not just me! These feelings of disappointment or even depression are natural, especially as young adults, but that doesn’t mean they should be a recurring result after each mistake that you make. Mistakes and failures are a natural aspect of life - not everything will turn out successfully or exactly how you want it. Sometimes we make bad judgment calls or don’t think before responding/acting. Most mistakes are small and probably won’t matter after a few days, so why worry so much about those? You can figure out what went wrong and turn it all around. And if you can’t (or if a mistake is much bigger), well… you just have to move on eventually. Life is gonna life, but are you going to wallow in misery for the rest of that time? I don’t think so!

3 - Give yourself permission to not do everything

All my overachievers, gather around! Please do not feel like you have to do everything, be number one, be a perfectionist, be the best boss/employee/partner/spouse/parent/etc. When we add too much to our load, whether physically or mentally, we can start to feel overwhelmed and burnt out. This then leads to us not giving our 100% towards anything on our load. Like I always like to say: you cannot pour from an empty cup. So realize that it’s okay to say “no” or ask if someone else can take over that task or chore. If you take the time to ask for help, there will be benefits instead of consequences. No one will see you asking for help as a weakness - they’ll see you as someone who knows their limits and recognizes that they need support. We all need help sometimes; it’s not something to be ashamed of.

4 - Never feel selfish for having time for yourself

Say it with me: self-care is never selfish! And even if it is, then we all should feel entitled to being a little selfish every now and then, right? We all deserve time to chill out and just do what makes us feel good, refreshed, and recharged. Like what I mentioned earlier, you cannot pour from an empty cup! You need to have downtime away from work, school, and even family and friends. I’m a mother and I would not change that for the world, but I do need some time for myself at the end of the day, even if it’s just for five minutes. Us moms deserve some time off from being superheroes 24/7, right?

5 - Do one thing a day that you’re proud of

No matter how big or small, you have to do something each day that makes you feel like you accomplished something. Maybe you’ve been holding off on a crafting project, and now you’ve found the time to work on it. Perhaps you let your bookkeeping pile up the last few weeks, so now it’s time to get that taken care of. Maybe you’ve been going through a depressive phase, and you managed to take a shower for the first time in a while. These are all things to be proud of! And if you keep doing that daily, you’ll feel unstoppable!

Giving yourself grace is one of my favorite words of advice because more people need to hear it; there are too many people in the world who are hating on themselves and being hard on themselves over the smallest things. You should not be hating yourself - you should be loving yourself! You have a lot more than you know to offer the world. Follow my five tips and leave self-deprecation behind this year.

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About LaShana West

LaShana West is a distinguished Business Therapist and Leadership Coach with over 20 years of expertise in mental health and professional development. Specializing in serving dynamic entrepreneurs, CEOs, and industry leaders, LaShana has a profound understanding of both personal growth and business strategy, making her an invaluable asset to high-achieving professionals.

Her career began in a hands-on role with individuals with developmental disabilities, a foundation that instilled deep compassion and a commitment to servant leadership in her approach. Progressing through various roles, LaShana honed her skills in program restructuring, professional training, quality assurance, and behavior modification techniques. These experiences have uniquely equipped her to guide creative and business minds alike towards achieving their full potential.

LaShana's dual expertise in mental health and business acumen allows her to offer a holistic approach to leadership and business challenges, addressing both the mindset and strategic needs of her clients. She is passionate about transitioning corporate professionals into coaching roles, empowering them to achieve greater financial success, time freedom, and peace of mind.

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